Orginal poster replying to your post.

@neenie (344)
United States
April 13, 2011 7:45pm CST
Someone had started a discussion similar to this and it got me thinking. Do you always respond to people that have responded to your discussion? was the orginal question. But it got me thinking... if you reply to a discussion and the orginal poster doesn't reply to your post, does that bother you? If it does bother you, how much? Are you someone that might hold a grudge and not reply to other discussions by that same person? I didn't realize how many people this bothered until I saw this discussion. I'm just curious how much it bothers people...
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@zralte (4186)
• India
15 Apr 11
I would be lying if I say it does not bother me. When the discussion starter does not comment back on the responses, that is in a way defying what myLot is for. Some people think that myLot is a forum where you just post a question and get answers. Yes, if I respond to discussions started by one member and if the discussion starter never commented back on any of my responses, I definitely would think about responding to any other discussion started by that person. I would still respond if the discussion really interest me, otherwise, I would stay away. In my opinion, not commenting back on responses received indicated to me that the member does not really care about that discussion (or may be just my responses).
@neenie (344)
• United States
15 Apr 11
Well, I'm definetely going to respond back to you! A discussion like this, especially when people put in a lot of input, I always try to respond back. But I once posted a discussion about hard-boiled eggs and a lot of people responded with their ways of eating eggs. Should I have gone back through and responded to everyone that replied? I did, for some people that had quirky or funny stories... but the people that just said "I eat mine with salt", I really didn't. lol, I guess my point is, if someone just posts a simple reply (not really continuing on with the discussion, just plain replying), is that worthy of a reply from the orginal poster? It looks like you understand the discussion concept and type a lot, but would you be upset if you had posted a reply that really didn't add much to the discussion? Thanks for your input though :)
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@zralte (4186)
• India
15 Apr 11
Thanks. I do understand that not all responses warrant comment. To be honest, I don't comment back on all the responses I have received. Like there are some which just don't make sense and I really don't know what to comment. It's not like there is anything I can add. No, I would not be upset. For example, if my original response was just 'No, I don't mind' OR 'Yes, I would feel offended' - let's face it, what would be the point of you commenting back on that? Point taken. My response was more on the subject of some members never commenting back.
@neenie (344)
• United States
15 Apr 11
I know what you mean, there are just some comments that I don't know how to respond to. I try to not waste my time or effort on those ones. Ones, like your's, that are good, I have no problem coming back and commenting on ;)
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
18 Apr 11
I don't think I will mind at all. In fact , my own discussions I have yet to comment back. But that doesn't mean that I don't read at all .. I try to make it up by answering the responder discussion and hence , finding more interesting topics to answer. It works more better this way ... because then there will be more natural-filled answers throughout and not just to fill a quota or something. Good topic here.
@neenie (344)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Thanks! Yeah, I don't like to respond to people to just fill a quote like you said or because I feel like I have to. I want to be able to respond to someone because I actually like what they said and I have something to add.
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
19 Apr 11
Me too , ditto ..
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
17 Apr 11
Hi neenie! I always respond to those that respond to my discussions. It really doesn't bother me if someone doesn't respond to my responses, but I do appreciate it when they do. I think that it kind of presents a certain importance to the discussion. It also feel like it lets people know that we appreciate their responses. I know this is an online community but I always think about the fact that the people responding to my discussions are real people. They have feelings and often care when they respond about what a starter thinks of their response. Feedback is a great thing.
@neenie (344)
• United States
17 Apr 11
I think we sometimes forget there are real people on the other end of the computer. It is nice to have to orginal poster respond to you.
• United States
15 Apr 11
Nope, does not bother me at all. Everyone's busy to return all the favors =]
@neenie (344)
• United States
15 Apr 11
I know what you mean. I almost never go back to discussion I've responded to anyways...
@Gothicana (458)
• United States
14 Apr 11
no it dont bothers me at all it is only imported for me that i repost them
@neenie (344)
• United States
14 Apr 11
I'm like you, it doesn't bother me at all either. I rarely even go back to the discussion unless it really got my attention or I know that I really helped the poster. I'm newer though and maybe thats just my way of thinking.