I have a feeling that my son will grow to be a loving and understanding person.

@whengcat (1458)
Philippines
April 14, 2011 12:09am CST
In my last discussion, my topic was about how my husband got fed-up with my son's stubborness that ended up in spanking. As of this writing, I can see that they're back to normal again. Doing the father-son thing, giggling, laughing and teasing each other again. And I can see that my son has no grudges towards his father at all...Such a wonderful scene for me
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@toyota4k (1212)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
I did that to my son when he was younger because I couldn't hold my anger. An hour later I went to his room to explain that it was for his own good and that would remind him that what he did was wrong. The next day everything was normal again.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
16 Apr 11
I think that's the way effective parenting would be. We will not only bring out a good person in our kids but the bonding will grow more deeper. You'll get to know your child more and vice versa
• United States
14 Apr 11
One of the beauties of my daughter that no matter how much she was grounded and or yelled at in 2 seconds flat she was smiling and happy. I often wondered how she was always such a happy girl, outside of taking after me, lol.. But kidding aside it has to do with my sitting and discussing with her the reasons behind why I felt it necessary to punish/yell. After all is said and done allow a few hours to go by and sit and discuss with him how difficult it is for you and dad to punish him and allow him to speak freely. Keeping the lines of communication open allows the children to understand why one gets upset after they do something wrong. Try to not ponder and allow a night go by after a situation because this will allow him to brew and stew and get angry. Always wishing you and your family the best.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
16 Apr 11
That is a very good sign of effective parenting. Attitudes of children whether good or bad reflect on how they were brought up. I'm sure your daughter will grow into a loving and understanding person too!
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
My daughter and I sometimes have scenes like that. It's all part of growing up I guess both for the child and the parent. It's important that the child understands his mistake and that we as parents are doing this for their own good and because we love them.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
16 Apr 11
Yeah, it is so and that makes parenting worthwhile
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
When children are made to understand of the punishment then there won't be any grudges. When my husband disciplines my son, spanking him and even making him kneel on the floor for a few minutes, we always try to explain to him why we have to do that. After then he would apologize and return back to a his normal loving self again. I tell my son i don't want to punish him because it hurts me as well so he must not do things to make us feel disappointed in him.
@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
16 Apr 11
Yeah, I really think we parents should do that so that they will hold no grudges towards us. It will also strengthen the bond between parents and children.