Girl gets plastic surgery to ward off bullies

United States
April 14, 2011 8:42pm CST
This is the article/ piece I saw at yahoo. A cute little girl got her ears fixed. Now her ears don't stick out! The little girl is 7! she was being teased. Her mom said even whn she was a baby , adults would asked " What happened to her ears... they look like monkey's ears..." So now she is " normal" Would you give your child plastic surgery so they wouldn't get teased or bullied?
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@jillhill (37384)
• United States
17 Apr 11
Yes if it were extreme....you would have to in order to protect them. That is the number one job of a parent behing loving them...it to protect them from both physical and emotional hurts!
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@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
it could truly be devastating for a girl to be teased. but at such a young age, i would not favor the surgery. there are many ways to explain how unique a child is. it is self confidence that has to be developed. and what is most important is the parents should act about the bullying. it will not stop and even if the girl had surgery, what assurance would there be for the child to not be bullied again?
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@wongchoiyee (7225)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 11
I wouldn't want my child to undergo surgery at a young age. What she did is totally not acceptable. I would suggest someday when she is bigger like 17.
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@maxen07 (889)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
It's always sad when instead of rearing her child to develop self confidence, the mother resorts to the easy but expensive way out. The girl is far too young for plastic surgery and might get the idea that there would always be an easy way out of her own problems.
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
15 Apr 11
Now that is really going overboard! No kid should have plasitic surgery unless they have e cleft lip or something like that! This mom will do anything it sounds like to help you daughter out but is doing it the wrong way! If her child is being bullied she should talk to the teachers and the principal about it! Not have her kids ears fixed! Sooner or later the girl has to face this stuff without mom! Mom needs to back off some! If she doesn't her daughter will be hovered over all her life! She will never been independent otherwise! It is good to be concern about you child but this is ridiculous!
• United States
15 Apr 11
I think most kids are teased as kids. I was,too. I thought now if bullying happens and it is reported the teachers and principals can't ignore it! They have to do something or get in trouble! At least that is what I heard some schools are doing! Maybe it is wishful thinking.
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@marguicha (90351)
• Chile
15 Apr 11
It would depend on how big were the ears and on how low was her self steem. Being bullied can lead to awfull traumas later on in life. I probably would speak with a child´s psychologist before running to have a daughter have plastic surgery. But I think it is not easy to answer this and each case is different.
• United States
15 Apr 11
They were sticking out and one was rolling down. Her mom went for the surgery to prevent bullying and to boost her daughter's esteem. At least that's what she said.
@marguicha (90351)
• Chile
15 Apr 11
Plastic surgery has nothing bad per se. It only becomes a problem if you live for it. I don´t think there´s any thing so bad about it.
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• Canada
22 Apr 11
Not a chance!! I would teach her to respond to them: "if you can't accept me the way I am, then you're not worth my time." Then ignore them, and move on. We can't control the bullies, but we can do what we need to to ensure that our children have decent self esteem.
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• United States
22 Apr 11
I wish my mom told me that. She said to ignore them and I did but she didn't say to tell them they are not worth my time! I love that.
@misc11 (384)
• United States
15 Apr 11
My ears used to stick out when I was a child too, and I am very glad my mother didn't let me have plastic surgery because it made me more confident today. I think if you teach children to be confident and like their features and like being unique, there is no problem and the child will be fine and be able to deal with being teased. If you pursue plastic surgery, it is saying there is something wrong with them and there is a defect which takes away confidence. I remember in the halls being called dumbo and just not caring because my mother always told me my ears made me pretty and then I grew into them and am confident and happy with the way I look today!
• United States
15 Apr 11
Good for you. But this mother wouldn't be like your mom. from what she said , she probably would take her child out of school because of the teasing. She did this to make sure her child would have confidence. So I assume she doesn't have the skills to give her daughter the confidence. I was teased at school and all it did was make me vengeful and independent, not confident.My mom didn't have the money for the surgery I thought I needed. Now I'm glad . My guy loves my look .And I do too Finally!
• United States
28 Apr 11
When we speak about plastic surgery it necessarily does not mean for cosmetic purposes. I can understand that some say 7 years old is too young. But I will give you an example of a child in the family who at age 6 did get the plastic surgery to correct the shape of his ears. Our little guy had his ears way too big for some odd reason, he was born this way. Shriners hospital here is specifically for children with deformities and if a child is psychologically evaluated and found to have low self esteem due to some deformity as such they will at no charge, if the family is low income to do at no charge. This child at age 6 was being ridiculed and teased so badly at school and amongst his own neighborhood kids it really was necessary. He was refusing to go out doors and when he did he only wanted to wear a full cover hat to cover his ears even indoors. Although this was not my child had it been, and if I knew it was safe as Shriners affirmed, yes I would do so. Now if we talk about Cosmetic plastic surgery just to enhance then know but this was not the case with our little guy.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Apr 11
I saw that, and in this case I probably wouldn't have, but if it were something more extreme looking, I might.
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@maxen07 (889)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
It's always sad when instead of rearing her child to develop self confidence, the mother resorts to the easy but expensive way out. The girl is far too young for plastic surgery and might get the idea that there would always be an easy way out of her own problems.
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• Canada
15 Apr 11
I could never put my Child through plastic/cosmetic surgery so young! If my child were 16 years old and had been teased or bullied over a long period of time for something like ears that stick out, then I would consider it. I just think that 7 is way too young for a child to have that kind of surgery, unless there was a good medical reason for it being done, such as a condition that is detrimental to the health of the child.