read the qas's the discussion you save may be your own.

I'm with you, Hatley....but as I was guilty of it before...about a year ago....I can't really say anything much. I do believe the welcome email now contains the link to the Guidelines and FAQs.

That frustrates me, too. I think that before a person can be a member, he or she should have to take a test on the rules here. The moderators would have way less work to do and it would be a more interesting place without all those newbie questions from people who don't read the information.

I think many people, (including myself) when they are new to a site, just scan over the guidelines and then throw themselves into the site. Yes, I wonder if mylot should place in simple and bold lettering, that if one wants their posts not deleted, they should read and reread the guidelines..Or something like that..

I was lucky enough before I came across a discussions related to member stars so I immediately got an idea what was all about. When I saw the star I was only confused why different colors. I wasn't be curious about the star but when my star color dropped down from blue to red I was curious and posted a discussion what was going on. Unfortunately, I was not alone, most of my friends encounter the same problem. With regards to newbies we must be patience to treat them because we also did it when we were new to myLot. They need our help and we must shoe them our concern for them to stay with us.

Hi Mrs. Hatley From the old discussions that I read on here, so many past/present members have made suggestions for myLot to implement. But to date it appears nothing really has. Although a bit frustrating to continue to repeat over and over, I do try remember that I too was once new. However, I was one who read the FAQ & Guidelines as I signed up and did not post a single letter for 3 months. I suppose with many that do continue to ask, feel as long as someone will answer there is no reason for asking. Shame though as you have noticed too many give misleading and wrongful information. Would be nice if myLot made some requirements that a member be made to read the guidelines and confirm as such but I suppose anyone can say they did when they didn't so the only way to prevent further duplications of the same questions is that myLot continue to delete the questions as Answered in FAQ, along with sending the member notification that of the reason so that they do not continue to post it over and over. But it is wishful thinking, I think.. lol

I was also wondering why?,why? why?, yeah I made mistakes when I was new but not the more obvious FAQ's and learned by going on it over and over, could it be because of language barrier sometimes? or some people are just too eager beavers to make a little extra, too in a hurry to start something, yeah hope someone does something about your query

I am not positive that I read the guidelines and faq when I joined, but you know, that was back in the dark ages. I do know that if I have a question, I go back and refer to them. I also realize, and I hope others do as well, that terms of service may be changed at any time. Hatley, I did not save any donuts for us for today from my other discussion, but I am putting together a runza casserole. I know we have another friend who is posting about Greek food. I think we need to ditch this place for a while and go have a buffet.

Yes. When I joined Mylot it did say to read the terms of service, etc. It was a little hard to understand though. I still had questions after reading some it.

before i joined mylot a friend of mine who is a mylot member back then explained me everything i need to know. she keeps bugging me to join for a year and at start i just wanted to keep her off my back so i joined. but i find it very interesting so thats why i am still here. i guess it is an obligation of a member to orient someone if they want this person to join mylot. some members dont enjoy mylot and leave because they were not oriented on what to do and dont and what to expect. there are new members that joins mylot and gets discussion deleted and they get frustrated and leave. in my opinion if you want someone to join in orient them before hand. now the problem is people who just walked in. for me its a S.O.P. already to read the Faqs and the guidelines so they will not be lost. all the newbies needs to know are on there they need to give time to read it before going around.

Dear Hatley, I was once like these newbies, but now I read before asking anything. Finally got it right. Have a nice day!

Don't most new wives advise their husbands to read the instructions?! Same thing here. Most newbies are youngsters who are used to having stuff handed to them They are the same ones that right the discussions I was just ranting about recently. About how what the secret is to making money online. OMG! You know what I do? I delete that puppy(usually) and move on. If enough did that I think they might get the idea. Or just think we are all rude and move on. I don't really care which happens myself. (Grrr!)

i know. they should just wait and figure it out if they are not willing to read all the guildlines. i mean thats what i did. well, we can only do what we can do right?

hello Hatley, I am also guilty about this. When i was a newbie,i also asks what's the number besides username. But later i asks other mylotters thru pm to avoid deletion. I guess,it's time that reading guidelines/faq's should be a must to all newbies to avoid same and same topic and questions from new comers. Or maybe,those mylotters who refers them ,should at least be of help and guide their referrals too. Hope you won't get tired giving advices too ma'm

Hi friend. This is first time i am responding to your discussion. You are in my friends list and always see 'your friend hatley has got best response ' and always respect you for english knowledge you had. There is always a bunch of words in your posts which i don't understand because my primary language i s not english so i have to take dictionary for reading your posts! Well. I am newbie here so am not frustrated as you all are. I had also started one discussion regarding how to get star and what does it suggests, may i have also irritated you. Sorry for that. I am just thinking if i am admin of the site then what should i do to fix this. But i haven't got any perfect answer. What do you think, what admin should do to avoid this!

Hi Mrs.hatley, maybe they are just too lazy to search in and out. many newbies will ask the same thing, and maybe we can guide them to read it or read another discussion about that topic

This always frustrated a certian memeber, who will not be nammed. It drove this person so crazy and they just keep complaining about new memebers! This person was constantly making discussions about this and responded to discussions from new members! This Mylot memeber tried to explain this to new memebers and you would think the administration would tell new members to read the guidelines! I think what happens so many people join Mylot they never do read the guidelines because they don't know there are some or they just don't think they need to read them! Whatever the reason I don't rely to those types of discussions much. It takes the fun out of Mylot and I think our Mylot friend I talked about before might be gone! If they are,they'll be back! It has happened before! More then once!

Ah, shuckin's Hately ! People are going to gripe all the time and never read the rules. No, I don't think Mylot tells the newbies the rules but they ask that they read them. Not much we can do but gripe. I for one have just started deleting ........of course mylot is nasty when I don't respond too oftenLOL but, it's getting bad on mylot anymore. I still like it but not like I used to . I have you as a friend and two or three more but mostly I only answer the ones I like. So, I guess that means I like YOU :) hugs, quita

For me it can add your life more success in response only the discussion.

Hatley sweetie, my star color don't want to change. How in the world will i get it to turn to another color?

Dear Ms. Hatley I think the time has come for the MyLot Admin to make it compulsory for any newbie to read the FAQ before starting to work out anything here. No read no work.