how to do you deal with a fake smile?

@tiina05 (2320)
Philippines
April 16, 2011 11:57pm CST
hello everyone, So, how do you people deal with a fake smile or how do you recognized that someone is faking a smile into you?.And how do you handle it? Well, I am a college student and I experience that many times in my classmates or school mates. I deal it by replying also a fake smile. Sometimes, it kind of hurt to me when they give me that kind of smile , I don't even know how to handle it first because I never do that to others, So now I learned that I should also do that to them that I also make a fake smile. I am doing right? or not? please tell me.. I just want to know. thanks a lot.
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20 responses
• India
17 Apr 11
Just smile back :D if u keep on thinking what world gives you. you wont be able to catch anything. live ur life.. dont give a fcuk about what others think
@kwylima (452)
• United States
17 Apr 11
you right...it is not because somebody is bad to you..that you have to be as well,,,live our live as better we can is the most import thing we have to worry about! i like your answer and I completly agree with you!
• India
17 Apr 11
thanks !
• Botswana
17 Apr 11
Dot worry about it, just a smile, can not explain everything. How to face it will depend on your own understanding, but if you do not konw how to deal, maybe just keep your countenance or give a smile in return but at least not a fake one, if the fake smile hurt you, do not pass it on to others. If I were u, I would smile like never been hurt, it is the only way to get inner peace and trust from others. Keep a good heart to lean on, just smile.
@tiina05 (2320)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
hello, Yes, I know it is really hard to explain everything. I understand, yes you are right again that I should understand it my own because I am surrounding with different types of people. As what you have said I should not give fake smile as what they are doing. right? Okay a very nice opinion. thanks a lot
@jazeera (93)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
The response will vary with different people. As for me i don't usually mind fake smiles as long as it doesn't really affect me that much as for example you just meet that person in the hallway, even when they don't feel like smiling they have to in order to greet you, that is also a king of fake smile right? I usually don't mind that, but for example when an enemy of yours sarcastically smiles at you in public then you shouldn't just let that go, and handle that properly. there are always two sides or more of every scenario, it depends on how you see it.
@tiina05 (2320)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
hello Yes, you are absolutely right and actually depends on the scenario. We can give a fake smile in every one that we encounter that we haven't met at all but as what you have said it is depends on the situations.You really help me lot. thanks a lot
@Bellapop (1282)
22 Apr 11
When someone puts on a fake smile, it does not mean anything bad. It means something good actually in many circumstances. For example if the fake smile is encountered during a greeting situation, then the person has the best intentions to say hello to you but because they're feeling terrible inside and don't want to make you feel bad they try to force a smile so to make it easier for you, after all you wouldn't want her to greet you with a scowl just because she was having a bad day. It all it is also polite to smile even if you don't say verbally say hello, showing a sign of respect and acknowledgement.
@salonga (26942)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
When someone gives me a fake smile, I smiled back with a sincere smile. That is the best way to teach them the right way to smile. I will never give back a fake smile to the one who did first because that will make just like her. I am a peculiar person and I want that to be reflected in all I do and say.
• China
18 Apr 11
maybe they did not give you a fake face on purpose. sometimes when i talk with other people and i do not know how to reply him , i dont want to keep sicent beacsue it is unpolite. so i have to smile to him.
@masang (296)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I really don't mind if the smile of other people is fake. The most important is you give them back your sincere smile. It will make you feel better.
@toniganzon (32039)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I don't handle fake smiles. I totally avoid it. When people who i knew talk behind my back and try to smile at me, i don't even give a glance at all. Those people are not worth wasting my time, not even a glance or a half smile from me. Call me cruel but that's the way i handle things. I'm good to my friends and i'm great to new acquaintances, but i really abhor those who talk behind my back and pretend to be my friends when i'm with them. So i just say good bye and look for a new set of friends.
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Well, I don't really bother giving them back fake smiles. They are not worth my attention. It is really not hard to tell if someone is giving you a fake smile. You just gotta know who are your friends and enemies. Never show any emotions as if they are just air to you.
@kwylima (452)
• United States
17 Apr 11
well.. If someone do that to me..I will not do the same because I am being fake and I don't want to be a fake person..If someone has to get a bad reputation from that won't be me! don't smile back..at least with a fake smile..give them a great smile and show them how happy and real you are...I know that in college people use to do it..but you don't have to be one of them! be yourself and show them that you can give you real smile for free!
@chaze01 (186)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
I am at times accused of having my head in the clouds. I really do not mind the fake smile, I have a hide as thick as a rhinoceros. I just let it slide, though this is not for everybody. It would only matter if the person means something to me. On the other hand, if its really bothering you, then why not opt for a discussion with the people involve. That way you will appease your troubled self and will have a closure if you are just experiencing paranoia or there is really something wrong that you are doing with this people.
@meyrek (142)
• Estonia
17 Apr 11
Actually i hate these fake smiles and its very easy to understand when someone does fake smile :D But i make fake smiles also. Only when its important to make fake smile just not to make someone feel sad or to make someone feel sad :D
@gelayagui98 (1337)
• Australia
17 Apr 11
So I was named snobbish because I did not give my smile easily to those not really my real friend. Sorry for them, I cannot pretend to do a fake smile. What you are doing is just right, they have their fair share anyway.
• Singapore
17 Apr 11
They could be different. Some fake smiles are done intentionally between friends to friends when one of them makes lame joke while some fake smiles are given simply because the other party is not interested in your matters and just wants to entertain you by giving a fake smile. Well, as for me, I don't usually see these smiles but if I get one, I just ignore it too and live it. It's just a response, it means nothing to me, right? It's not harmful right? Yea, so just live it and don't be unhappy because of this
@iCeeLuSh (187)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
If they are doing fake smiles at you maybe there are something wrong on what you are saying or something wrong at you. Maybe they do fake smile for a reason. Also it depends on the situation my friend.
@bingskee (5241)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
i do not respond to fake smiles. why should i when i perceive it as untrue? there is a glow with true smiles. fake smiles are just automatic ones and with no show of emotions on the face.
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
Sometimes we are naive and gullible and just see the good things in people that we fail to see what's really in a smile. But it doesn't matter anymore for me,as long as I know that I tried to be friendly or I did smile back at them,it is their karma if they got that kind of attitude. I am a kind of person that doesn't smile at somebody if I really don't feel like it. I would really show a straight face if I do not like a person.
• India
17 Apr 11
Just ignore them! People fake smiles when they don't know how to respond to some things or rather most of them. I would feel bad myself when they are attempting to smile rather than really smiling? What's the cost of a smile? It can heal many wounds and can satisfy many desires. It can simply evaporate any other feeling in mind and give anyone or make anyone's day. Why don't people smile most of the time? A BABY SMILE AROUND 400 TIMES A DAY WHILE AN AVERAGE HUMAN BEING SMILES JUST 26 TIMES A DAY! I WANT TO BE A BABY NOW Cheers!
@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
17 Apr 11
Ignore everything fake and concentrate instead on people that are happy and can express it with gusto! Or even on those that express it quietly, in a positive way!
@chiyosan (29393)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
I would not be hurt that much if i were you. I mean we cannot please everyone and for sure. We would encounter people who obviously does not seen to eager to be friends with us.