Useless emotions of shame and guilty !! No or yes ??

Emotions are never useless. They are part of what makes us the people we are. Denying those emotions as useless would be like saying they were not an important part of our being. Even if the emotons are darker ones like guilt or shame they are anything but useless.

There are situations when after we realize that we did something wrong we are overwhelmed by the feelings of guilt and shame and if we don't manage to regain peace of mind our guilt will consume us and make us even unhappier,so I think that once you realize you committed a big mistake you should admit it and face the truth and try to do something good to compensate.We're all human and we make mistakes,but we can also do good things and we have to think about them whenever we have that feeling of guilt and turn it into something positive that would make us proud of ourselves again.

I do agree that certain emotions are useless especially guilt. There is no point being paralyzed by guilt. The best thing is to learn from one’s mistakes and move to do better next time. Having said that, both shame and guilt are very real for those affected by them. It is a matter of practicing forgiveness not just towards others but towards ourselves first of all.

I agree J..how are you doing...:)

Those emotions are inevitable if situations arise where it provokes them. We can't just turn them on and off like it has a switch.

Well it is not useless, but it can be counterproductive if we allow these emotions to get the better of us for way too long. There are times where people have been completely crippled by the guilt that they have felt. It is really a problem when those people, yeah they did a bad thing, and perhaps they should think about it for a little bit, to understand what they have done wrong, but dwelling on it too much, that is really not a good thing. Therefore, it really might be for the best if we just moved on the best that we could. There are gong to be many days where it is going to be a really hard thing to do. Shame and guilt can be things that are going to stick hard. While it is not wrong for us to feel them, in fact it is a rather good thing, a little too much and our lives will be drastically impacted for the worst. Therefore, we really need to exercise great care.

hi jotomy your advice is the best. we must learn from our mistakes then put them behind us and present a happy face to our loved ones. if we jus moan and groan and keep feeling guilty it will rub off on all our loved \ones and nobody will be happy; just remember not to do that again forgive yourself and go on happy with the life around you. a smile and a laugh can bring only good to you,its called the law of attractioh.

Hi,Jotomy, people make mistakes,people correct..that's normal... shame,guilty,,we don't have to do that..most of the time,,the others even didn't notice you..Don't take it in mind what the others think of you..that doesn't matter..It's your life,,,and we just are responsible for ourselves..^^

No human is perfect,everybody makes mistakes in this life.The wise people also make mistakes but they don`t feel guilty or keep brooding over them.they learn from their mistakes and faults and see that they don`t repeat them.Thinking of ones mistakes and feeling guilty and remorseful can affect one mentally leading to effect on not only the mind but also the body and lead to physical illness and disease.So it is better to accept that one has made a mistake and be more careful that one does not repeat it in the future.

Hi friend I think if one are not learning from their mistakes then all things like emotions and guilty are meaningless , because in this case there is no difference between human and animal , I mean to say that it is only human who learn from their mistakes. thanks mylotting

hello Jo, When i am facing problem with my married life,i never indulge my family. Until the time that i opted for a legal separation,they never knew that i was having serious problem with my husband. As long as i can handle my problem and troubles,no one can tell that i am facing such problem. It's not that i am pretending...but,i don't want to involved my loved ones or the people around me with my loneliness. Even with my friends,i don't want to spoil the fun when i am with them. When i feel sad and i need someone to talk ...i called my closest friend and talk the matter with her,i cry and cry ...and after that...i am fine again to face the world with a smile. But of course,most of the time,i run home when i felt the world is tumbling down...and after that,i assure my family that i am fine and never talked the matter again to assure them that i am really fine. how's weekend dear...hope you had a great one

Hi Jo akka Quite very true. I agree to this one. But I have been able to formulate a theory for me. (FOR ME ONLY). I do not think twice after I have done something. This helps is keeping the Guilt away. I have suffered a lot of pain due to this Guilt thing. There are many sad instances when I did take wrong decisions. But that day, (when I formulated this theory for me), I realized that - when I did this thing, I was convinced that this was right otherwise I would not have done it at the first place. So just with passage of time, I have no right to think that it was bad that I did it. This theory has helped me overcome many problems that I used to face mentally each day. The past kept haunting me. Today, I am thinking of my future and have stopped looking back at my past. I am feeling blessed to have formulated this theory and have been implementing it. We all have a past and it is we who have to decide - who to handle it... Sulk about it and destory the present and future or let go of it and move ahead.

When I was little, and someone older told me "shame on you" just had this feeling it was due to whether or not allowable. Now I can say a thousand, all at once "shame on you" My reply is "you be you. " It seems that in this world because we lost this feeling no longer see anyone. But this feeling inside my show really succeeds when something really commit yourself to it and I have a feeling of malaise that is when my memory.

Sometimes those emotions are not useless, they're for something, of course. If that people who is feeling guilty asks for forgiveness, it's done, doesn't need feeling guilty constantly. But if not, should go with that shame and guilty over his shoulders all the time, is deserved. Someone hurt me really bad once, and I'm still bad because of that, wasn't something meaningless. So, now I'm hoping that this person is feeling at least sometimes, some shame and guilt feeling, because if not, means that is the most horrible person in the world.

Very nice topic! Both , an overactive conscience and an adamant mind that refuses to accept mistakes are undesirable. I am also a very emotional person and have an over-active conscience. When I see people who are totally opposite, I tend to curb this tendency when I interact with them because there are other people who would only blame others and not take any responsibility whatsoever.But I fully agree with you that we cannot keep on thinking of our guilt and that we only have to pray for God's guidance at all times.