would you get married for the money or ....

United States
April 17, 2011 12:33pm CST
so i was wondering about what is the first reason for marriage . do women marry guys because they love them or because they have enough money to support them and have a good life and also is love more powerful that money if you had to chose between someone who loves you and you love him back but don't have lots of money or the other guy who is fully loaded with money and likes you so what is your choice and why ?
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23 responses
• Norway
17 Apr 11
only if i was in love with him. Maby i would do it if i was poor and lived on the street, and no food left, but then i don't think he would marry me anyway... Love have to be strongest, but if you fall in love with a poor street-guy well... i don't know.. money is important... but without love, - no marriage!
@chinchoy (191)
• Hong Kong
17 Apr 11
Marry the rich guy first, divorce him, grab the money and marry your true love, and live happily ever after. That solves all the problems.
• Norway
17 Apr 11
if it just was that easy...
• United States
17 Apr 11
I'd say i would marry to have love & kids money wouldn't be a problem
@chinchoy (191)
• Hong Kong
17 Apr 11
I am sorry but having kids with no money is a hugh problem not only for yourself but for the kids. Be responsible parents.
@chinchoy (191)
• Hong Kong
17 Apr 11
If you ask the girls this question, they always choose love. But look at it this way, how did love begin to grow in the first place? Love at first sight? What is the quality in your date that attracts your attention in the first place? Would you go out with a guy that never pays the bills? Now, if you ask people what they look for in guys, what kind of answer do you get? A successful career, well-educated, financially stable..etc Yes, it is love but with a price tag.
• United States
17 Apr 11
Love at first sight is NOT the most common definition of love, nor is it based on someone looking rich and important. You don't have to be rich to have a good career, a good education and be stable. There are plenty of poor people who are stable, just poor. And even then, you cannot judge all women as wanting any one thing. There are plenty for whom that really doesn't matter.
@lyamsitiy (104)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
At this point it depends on the girl, because there are ladies who are practical and wants money but there are also others who are romantic and wants to get married to the guys they fell in love with. As for me, i would want that i will marry the guy i love and loves me back but if the rich man is likable then it wouldn't hurt if i consider him.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
18 Apr 11
It actually depends on the mentality of the certain individual, like for me i wouldn't go marrying someone that i don't even know, i believe being in a relationship is huge and its only once in a life time deal, so it should given the most thought cause everything depends on it, a healthy relationship can take you to the top where as an unhealthy one can drown you forever. However there are peoples that believe in arranged marriage, i think in this case mostly the financial situation is focused on, like fathers would obviously like their daughters to be in a wealthy family and such, and it is hoped that everything goes right after marriage and the love generates and if it doesn't then everything goes wrong, so i find it quite funny how two persons life is being put on a huge boat of uncertainty. So it should be the sincere heart that should be chosen instead of the rich insincere one.
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Well for me both, love and money or at least the guy has a stable job. Now a days,life is often full of unexpected no one can tell what might happen tomorrow. And it is better also that you have to be sure of your future on the guy will choose.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 11
In the past, I married for love. But it turns out, love does not guarantee happiness in marriage. I was married, with people who have money. But, I can not have the money my husband. I do not know, what is the meaning of marriage for me.
@Feneth (3)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I will marry the guy I loved and is able to do his responsibilities than a guy fully loaded with money yet I am not in love with.Love is a gift that money can't buy my friend. Loving someone and be loved in return is a precious value that you can't compare of. Getting married takes enough time of deciding and you should consider a lot of factors just like having kids, education,home and etc. In our world today, as a woman, i will consider those factors before getting married because I don't want my kids will suffer poverty and will not able to go to school.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
18 Apr 11
Women need love, and a little bit of security as well. I am a guy, so i don't have to worry much about security but if i happen to earn lots of money (mistakenly :P), i guess i should be very careful with choosing my life partner. I might have lots of gorgeous women following me around, but i want someone who is beautiful at heart.
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
To be honest I want to love and marry someone who is rich and so madly in love with me.But we don't get to choose who we love isn't it.But when we get lucky to have the best of both worlds, we have to grab it with all our heart as fast as we can before somebody else grabs it for us.(^_^) Now if I am in a situation wherein I must choose between two lovers.I would still choose the guy I love so long as I know he is hardworking and has the potential of being rich someday by being hardworking. Love will fly away out of the window someday when hunger strikes more often that it should be. We can love and be practical at the same time, it is hard but it pays off in the end.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Well yeah some woman actually do marry of money because they want to be supported their whole lives and not lift a finger to work. like my friend I know that she wants her boyfriend to fully support her so that she won't work.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I know a lot of girls like that who would marry someone for the money. There are so many cases that I have seen anywhere that some girls would just go out with this guys cause the guy can buy her all the things she wanted. And sometimes some girls go for the older guys cause they are already thinking about what they can get from them.
@cgrant (270)
• Spanish Town, Jamaica
18 Apr 11
marriage should definitely be based on love. but nothing wrong if your partner have a little money.
• United States
18 Apr 11
Although money is ideal and needed, I can't imagine marrying someone specifically because he had money. I would be dealing with the husband daily and the money would not comfort me the way a love/partner would.
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
hmmn...I would not marry for money only, it's not permanent, what if the person goes bankrupt?? But, money is important, and that's a fact...my fiancée and I are saving money for our marriage right now, I work, he works...I guess this way is better, in that way we're building our lives together on team work...money can be made you know, but love could never be taught...
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
17 Apr 11
I know a woman who wants to marry a mand she met 2 months ago not for love but for money! She also wants to marry becuase her Visa is about to expire! If it is not renewed she will be deported back to her home country! Her finance wants to marry her so he has someone to watch his 2 kids for him! There is no love in this relationship at all! I would only marry for love if I met and feel in love with my Mr.Right!
• United States
17 Apr 11
I would never marry for money and I don't really understand why anyone would. I absolutely do not believe in "learning" to love someone. You're either in love or your not.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
Love matters the most. But if i can choose both ..love and money,that would be a lucky me. Seriously,we can't live with love alone and no matter how much the couple love each other when they don't have money,problem will soon arise esp when a kid will be added in the family. So,money also plays a good part in every marriage. I will choose someone i love and can assure me a good future even if he is not rich. We can work for money and save for our future,love will give us strength and inspiration to keep a lasting relationship.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
for me it was definitely not for money because the guy didn't make much of that... so i guess i did it for happiness and love. i'm not saying that money is never a problem in a relationship and it is a factor i guess for some people why they want to get married in the first place, but i don't think it would be appropriate to make it the primary reason for getting married. marriage can wait... and some couples decide to wait until they become financially stable before getting married.
@ivane07 (76)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
For me, love isn't the only reason why a relationship lasts. Let's face it, we are living in a world that demands the need of money in order to survive. I believe that we can learn to love someone; thus, one shouldn't just marry because of love alone but still has to consider a lot of factors. However, this doesn't mean that we also have to marry just because of money. My point here is that, a couple should have enough savings and be financially stable before settling down in order to avoid financial difficulties that might lead to conflicts in the future.