can anyone give an advice?I am really very puzzled!

China
April 17, 2011 10:35pm CST
My heart really aches when she say she don't want to talk with me. if it is my fault that I want to make a girl friend!As we all know ,we're growing everyday,and we would marry with somebody someday.but our age is not so small,we must think it twice. Though I admit that I love her a lot,she likes me too,but when she doesn't want to be my GF,and my parents hurry me up,I think I should have a GF,but I should control my love first,or I think I won't love others,and it's not fair to the others,then I control myself not to touch you and then you say you have a hard time,and won't touch any more. But how do you know ,I have a hard time too,but our age don't allowed us to wait each other untill we accept the other all. If my choice is right?I don't know,but now this is the result. what should I do?if I'm right ?
8 responses
@franne32 (696)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
You should really think a lot before getting into a relationship where everything's really complicated. How old are you anyway? Why would your parents hurry up in getting you married? This is your life. It's your decision whether you marry someone or not, but you should also think about yourself. Do not hurry too much. It's more devastating when you marry someone who's not right for you. Take your time to get to know the other person first. This is not a race against time. Marriage is supposed to be forever. Weigh the pros and cons when you're with someone. Also, love yourself first and make sure you have a little love left for yourself when you give your love to someone else, otherwise, you'll end up heartbroken when things don't work out between the two of you and she takes your heart with her. A relationship should be enjoyable for the both of you, understanding each other, accepting each other's faults, and working your problems out together.
• China
19 Apr 11
yeah,I think I would insist my own love.Marriage is my own thing,I won't let my parents paving the way to me.
18 Apr 11
My advice to you would be not to let your parents pressure you into any sort of relationship. I can understand that they want the best for you, and for you to be happy. They may even be keen to have some grandchildren! But ultimately, it needs to be your decision. If you get involved with this girl because of what your parents think, you may be making a bad decision. You should only go ahead if it feels right for you.
• United States
18 Apr 11
I'm not really sure what you are asking. You can't hurry love. You can't make someone want you. Your parents need to let your find your own way with relationships. That's all I can say right now, because it is hard to know what you are really talking about.
@cgrant (270)
• Spanish Town, Jamaica
18 Apr 11
its not really good to try to be with someone who do not love you back. You are running a risk as she might be tired of you. Dont let your parents rush you into things, choose someone who loves you and who is genuine about it. Many marriage failures are caused because family members rush their relatives into weddings when they are not ready or are not in love with the person favored by family. There is no specific age to have a girlfriend but you should know that its good to date and "test the waters" before jumping into a relationship. Be safe and make the right decision best of all one that is right for you.
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
you should always think twice. think about not only the girl you love and your parents but also yourself. be sure of what you really want rather than what others feel. and although your parents are hurrying you up i think it's still safe if you think before you act. hurrying might end you up in a wrong path. think first always, and take your time.
@tlb0822 (1414)
• United States
18 Apr 11
I think that you should wait until you know what you truly want in a partner. You should tell your parents that you don't need pressure from them to find a parnter that you will do it whenever you are ready. You need to be sure that you are ready to commit to someone exclusively when you are in a relationship like this and to make sure you are truly in love before considering marriage. Don't pressure yourself just because your parents are wanting you to be in a relationship, wait until you feel ready and it is the right moment. Good luck.
@Feneth (3)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
How old are you? All I can say is, do what makes you happy. It's your life so you have to decide on your own and learn to stand on your decisions. Parents always think what is the best for their children yet it doesn't mean that they will control you through out your life right? Don't get pressure if they want you to get married, just tell them that you are not yet ready and you want to marry the girl you want and not just anybody. Happiness is a decision, you just have to make a choice.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
18 Apr 11
tell you parents to not to pressurize you for marriage.