Do you feel lonely too?

April 18, 2011 5:14am CST
There are moments in your life that you are downright empty and feels so alone. Even when surrounded with friends and family there are times when you felt you wanted some time for yourself. Sometimes it feels good to be alone and ponder on things that matters in your life. Say, giving a break to yourself? Do you often feel this too?
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@QeeGood (1214)
• Sweden
18 Apr 11
I very rarely feel lonely. When I'm all alone by myself I can enjoy life as well when I have good relationship with people. I can feel really lonely when I am in a crowded area with people and I am ignored and rejected by people. They see me but pretend that I am invisible. That makes me feel enormous lonely!
20 Apr 11
Our own personal experiences sets the criteria of how we define loneliness. Our way of coping depends more on how things work effectively for us, that's why our solutions may differ from every individuals and it's a very personal thing.
• Argentina
18 Apr 11
I feel that very often. Now I'm really alone, but it's my fault. When I feel that I need a break and a time for myself (that is almost always, I turn from my friends. I don't have contact with nobody. And during that time, I think, all the time, about my life, about the things that I have, about the things that I don't have, about my goals, about the person I want to be, all those things. I'm young, so I have young friends, but I'm interested on things that most teenagers or young people are not interested on, so it's hard to communicate with my friends. So, I really need being alone, but most of the time, I'm feeling lonely, and I feel like I need somebody to talk with. But I enjoy being alone anyway, I can think better.
20 Apr 11
Yeah, like you do, I do it most of the times when I am alone. I discern, introspect, feel how I've lived my life and envision where I am going. I backtrack on things i've done worst and hope it will make things better for the ones we have hurt in the process. And lastly, I forgive myself to attain that inner peace I've been longing to have.
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Loneliness is one of the scourges of humanity. It seems to affect everyone regardless of age or ethnicity. Yes sometimes even without reason I also feel that way.
@Kirinx (1693)
• United States
26 Apr 11
I agree with you everyone will feel that way sooner or later.its a part of being human.
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Yes, especially when I don't really have the guts to stand out in my clique. I have hard time with that, but there are times too that I needed to be alone and I have to keep away from them for a while. Usually I don't tell them anything about it when I have that feeling of emptiness inside me. Sometimes though, whenever I feel lonely, I tend talk to only a person about my problems. It's effective for me though. If you're feeling that now jazzglen, don't worry! Time will heal your loneliness.
20 Apr 11
It does misterMR, time heals all wounds! Meanwhile, that it is not yet healed you have to go over and cross that line to overcome what you feel. This is just one of the emotional feelings that i'm vulnerable and it keeps me human. What I am feeling right now maybe over in a day or two. However, I just need one thing, a clear head!
@picjim (3003)
• India
18 Apr 11
There have been several such moments in my life.I've felt lonely when surrounded by people.I've felt the need to have a few quiet moments by myself,to introspect and find solutions to problems confronting me.But at the same time I've enjoyed the company of those close to me and such moments have alleviated my pain.I think we require a bit of both,solitude as well as the company of those who comfort us.
19 Apr 11
Picjim, you have a healthy coping mechanism! I wish I had your kind of personality. The type of person that can maintain a cool head and find solutions when confronted by problems. And when it comes to sharing problems, nothing beats the comfort of the ones you love and trust.
18 Apr 11
Yap, I feel lonely everytime my husband get mad at me and we never had the chance to work things out, I also felt like running away and have sometime to be alone and try to figure things out.
19 Apr 11
Marital differences is also one of the causes why we become lonely and sometimes this type of differences could be patched up immediately granted each one has a cool head.Heavenrenz, sometimes I do what you do when I have problems with my husband.But that's all there is to it, we settle our differences immediately whether anybody of us is right or wrong. Taking more time to solve it gives more headache or heartache.
@franne32 (695)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
I've felt that way in the past when I haven't met my current boyfriend yet. I have my family and friends but the feeling of loneliness was still there. I have also given myself a break every now and then to relieve stress from work and other stuff. But now that I'm spending some time with my bf, my life has turned around and I feel happier than ever before.
19 Apr 11
It's good to have somebody to share things in life. You've found a reason to be happy and enjoy life together.Being around with the people you love gives you more reason for living. Enjoy your life to the fullest! Thanks, franne..
@jenggai (19)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I feel lonely since my husband left 3 months ago to work abroad. I have gotten used to him fetching me from work especially when I have to work overtime. I feel lonely at night thinking that I would still need to wait 7 more months before I can see him again. Even though I have friends and family around, I still miss him everyday.
• India
19 Apr 11
It rarely happens with me but off course it happens. I believe that it happens with everybody at some point of time. We feel everything is doing nothing. We lose interest in everything. My best solution to avoid scuh lonelyness is go for a walk. Once you see people around you, there are chances that ypou come out of this lonliness.
@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
19 Apr 11
There are times when I feel lonely. Espicially when my husband works long weekend. I have my children of course, but it sometimes gets lonely being by myself all the time. I talk to his family and my family of course but it just sometimes feel like no matter who I talk to I feel alone. And sometimes thats okay because like you said, I get to reflect on me. Then there are other times when it is just icky. My lonely days are far and few but they do happen. I think that everyone has moments when they feel alone, and that we need them sometimes to remind ourselves of who we are.
• Mexico
18 Apr 11
Hi jazz glen: I think this is just normal. I use this moments where I am feeling lonely to think about what I am doing and what should I do to be a better man. I also take profit of these moments thinking about how to be a better boy for my family. The best part of being lonely is to prepared yourself and go back to your daily activities with your friends, family and job feeling happier and prepared for doing the best. ALVARO
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
18 Apr 11
Hi jazzglen, When you feel lonely counts. If it is once in a blue moon it is alright but if it is when you are forty plus then you have to think seriously about it. Of late I am passing through that phase. I do not like anything. No company of people, no reading, no watching TV for a long time, no talking, just sitting somewhere alone and thinking incoherent things. I know why this is happening and I know I will over come this. But if you are young and still in your teens you need to see a psychiatrist. Because this is not a time that you remain pensive for a longtime. Something serious is going underneath. Or if you think you can solve it yourself do it. Talk more with your friends, go places, engage yourself in positive work. You will be aright.
• Nigeria
18 Apr 11
yes i am lonely can you make me feel occupied please
@mallu30 (463)
• India
18 Apr 11
There are the moments in my life also that I have felt lonely. When I lost my father I felt very lonely and deeply under depression. However when I sit alone only I get good plans. This is my positive point when I will be alone.
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
oh yes. and if you ask me, there are more times that im alone than im hanging out with my friends. but loneliness and being a loner are 2 different things. being a loner is what i am, often. and loneliness is what i often feel whenever i feel like it's only me in my world. sometimes, being a loner has no connection to loneliness. it's just that you want to think on some things that's why you want to be alone. but this doesn't apply all the time as well. it may be difficult to understand, i also had hard time when we were discussing bout this at Psych class, but more understanding leads to better learning.