Do you care about fitting in? have you ever had problem with that?

@kwylima (452)
United States
April 18, 2011 7:50pm CST
We have to be ourself and don't care a lot about what people think about us. But sometimes it is really hard to have friends or other kind of relationships..I mean..if you are fat and all your friends are thin so you are gonna have problems to fitting in...if you like rock and your friends not you have to find new friends.. for jobs we can apply the same thought. If you like tattoos you may can't be a kid's teacher or so....I am just saying... do you have some kind of problem like those? sometimes I feel I have..people like to think things about me even before know me. let's share!
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21 responses
@GardenGerty (95522)
• Marion, Kansas
19 Apr 11
I have never fit in. It does not matter. I like me. I am uniquely me. Yes, we need to avoid certain trendy things for the sake of our careers. I avoid them because I do not want to be like everyone else. As we get older we find that we are fine as being who we are.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
19 Apr 11
I am a beautiful,intelligent and good at heart and believe me i still face this! There was time i had force myself to fit in.In my college esp.All girls there were in to drinking, shopping ,partying and going to beauty parlor.I was odd girl out.I had no interest in those activities.Two years were really difficult for me.
@Kirinx (1693)
• United States
19 Apr 11
thats a good thing better to be odd then to comform and do the same thoughtless things some are doing.
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
people who don't know me always label me off as a snob and a bi*tch, I just look the part I guess...but I never really gave a farthing about what other people call me or fitting in at every crowd...I have my friends whom I fit in, not because we're similar in attitudes but because we accept each other for who and what we are... I guess, if you try to fit in you'll lose your real self in trying to please the crowds your in and you'll never truly belong anywhere...so stay true to yourself, there would always be people who can't accept you, because they are too narrow minded and they don't really deserve to be in your life...but there would always be kindred spirits who can accept you for who you are and you'll find that those people are people you don't have to try to impress because they are already awed for you just simply being you...
• United States
22 Apr 11
People think of me as a snob as well. I think the rest of the world is just stupid if they're going to think of me that way without knowing me, because once people get to know me they realize that I am very sincere. I think they think of me that way because I really don't try to impress other people. Some people work hard to fit in, and I can understand why they would do that - they are just the types of people who feel more secure with a bunch of people to make them feel special. For me, trying to fit in is a waste of energy that I could spend on something more interesting.
• United States
19 Apr 11
I always used to get bullied in school because of my looks. I hated school because of that. In fact it got so bad that I dropped out of school when I was sixteen years old. My self esteem was already bruised an account of an abusive father, so I pretty much kept to myself for most of life except for a few family members. I actually thought I would never be seen as pretty so I gave up on ever getting married. In fact I even came to terms with this & found peace in being single. Then I met my husband & for the first time in my life someone saw me as not just being pretty but actually beautiful. I knew almost immediately that he was going to be my husband. He is such a gentle, good, kind & loving man. I thank God for having him in my life because for the very first time in my life I not only fit in, but I also belonged.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
19 Apr 11
I got tears in my eyes reading your post.God bless ya!
• Philippines
6 May 11
I have difficulties fitting in with the people who are pimple-free. I have a bit of pimples which appeared quite shockingly and it really lowered my self- esteem. That made me feel having a hard time fitting in. At least that's what I thought. :D
@sashakiddo (1104)
• United States
22 Apr 11
I have a friend who tried really hard to fit in. The funny thing is, he is good at fitting in even if he doesn't try, yet he still tries to act like someone else around certain people to impress them. I almost feel sorry for him because he cares so much about what others think.. but that is why he has so many friends.. he stopped listening to his favorite music and going to his favorite concerts for his friends. but he can do this because he is adaptable. there are certain types of people who live for their friends and there is nothing wrong with that, if you truly enjoy adapting to other people. If you have many individual desires that you feel strongly about, then you shouldn't try hard to fit in because it will just take you away from your sense of self.
• United States
20 Apr 11
I would like to say that I would like to get along with absolutely everyone I encounter but sadly not everyone is a good fit in all of our lives. I am me, and do not pretend to be who I am not. I would like to also say that it would be nice if all could see me for who I am, but I understand that it is what it is and I can only be me. So if that means I don't fit in, I am fine with that because I will not change who I am simply to please others.
@Hatley (164777)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 11
hi kwylima i used to care and felt like I did not belong anywhere then my husband taught me that I am one of a kind , unique, I did not have to fit in as I could be me, Patsie Hatley, one of a kind,I like myself, I love myself so I can give love to others, I am unique.we each one are unique. nobody else has our fingerprints or eyes. each of us is most unique so I am elderly and i say so what? I am of sound mind and am functioning as well as a fifty year old. when yuo are of sound mind thats the whole thing, I know who I am and I am unique.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Hi. kwylima. Yes, all of my life, I have never fitted in. I just never have. I have always been on the quiet side and many people could never understand me. I was just as normal as they were. I was just a sweet person that did not want to start trouble with anyone at all. I will never fit in with the "in crowd', because I am different and unique in my own special way. As a matter of fact, we all are unique and special in our own kind of way. God made me who I am, and I am not going to change, whom I am to fit into the whims of negative people. Either they will like me or they are going to hate me. My motto to them is: "Take me as I am, or have nothing at all."
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
Yes, I do. It is actually one of the ways that you are able to converse with them more and have their respect for you as a person. It is difficult to fit in. Yes. I remember there are times that you would be the main attraction of the group. Meanwhile, there are times that you are just an ordinary person for them. It's just the way it is. I have no problems with my weight though, even though I'm the fattest of all my friends. Sometimes, you just need those little wonders called confidence in order to be happy with your friends!
• Canada
19 Apr 11
i dont really care abouot fitting it or people liking me. Iv never fit in with the 'In' crowd and im fine with that. Iv made friends bing myself and dont have to worry about trying to fit in bcuz they like me how i am and they kow im not going to change because someone doesnt like how i look, act, dress, or talk. I love my friends their amazing true friends like that are hard to find so cherrish the real ones you have. and if you end up finding out someone isnt who you thought they wer and arnt as good of a friend as you thought. dont fret. your group is like a garden you can always grow new flowers and it never hurts to get rid of some weeds. :)
@Kirinx (1693)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I used to care about that when I was in middle school but as the years went on I realized that I would never fit in because of my eccentric thinking so I just dealt with my weirdness and look for people who can accept it. oh i dont like tattoos at all.I dont want any markings on me unless they are those cute 25 cent tattoos that come in the vendor machines.
@CR55562 (23)
• Bahamas
19 Apr 11
Honestly yea i use to care but then i realized that your true friends matter most and when you begin to be yourself people love you more :)
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I don't have any problem with fitting in in any situation. See,some of my friends loves to have fun,party and clubs. Sometimes i joined them,and since they know i don't like it that much,they knows how to adjust. It's a give and take situation. I'd given them their wants/like i never been a "killjoy". So,when i also asks them to join with my charities...they never let me down. It's taking in and giving out expectation with my friends. Now with job...i never stayed long in a job that i don't fit in. It's useless to keep in job where in you are not happy and satisfied. In events...when someone invited me,and i feel that i don't fit in or i will be like crashing...i politely say No.
@xjosiax (74)
• Australia
19 Apr 11
When i was younger i did. I care so much. Now I'm older and wiser and I don't care anymore. I'm comfortable with myself. I have a husband I love, A career I love, friends and family. I'm happy with myself. I've since discovered that it doesn't matter what people think about you they will think what they like, it only matters how you see yourself. If i don't 'fit' with friends they don't stay my friends. My friends are people I can feel comfortable with and be myself with. Same with family. If they judge me before they know me I don't see it as important. I don't put my self value in someone elses judgment of me. Know yourself and love yourself then it won't matter what people think of you.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
For me I don't want that case because I love to try it in the home.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I never really care either way if i fit in or not. Often i fllowed a different drummer than most so fitting in was something that didn't always come to mind. If i was part f something, that was fine. it was also fine just to do things i the way i wanted too.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
There shouldn't be any problem there but some people seem to be making a big deal of little things like looks, etc. I think we should at least be able to look at people as different individuals, but society usually has its own standards for what is supposed to be normal.
• Calgary, Alberta
19 Apr 11
I have always been a social oddball, well before at the work i have lots of friends but they all hated me ever since I get promoted. Ever since childhood I always stick out like a sore thumb, Actually I even feel out of place here in mylot since people have different interest from me.... well before I have diverse things to discuss here, no things gets limited.... I think there are moments in my life when i was able to fit in but there was this bad influence going on, Now fitting in is not an issue for me anymore.
@LaDeBoheme (1987)
• United States
19 Apr 11
I guess when I was younger, it bothered me. Gawd! I hated high school! But the older I got, the less I cared what other people thought. Fitting in? I fit in where I want to fit in. If not, I have no problem moving on.