In a huge number of friends in one group are you all close to each other?

Pasay, Philippines
April 19, 2011 5:25am CST
Many people are valuing of having friends especially the more the merrier. Sometimes you could see a huge number of friends in just one group. You would really see they are 5 or more in a group it could be all boys, girls or mix. There are times that you would see them as very happy especially when they are in outing. But I still have this curiosity if all of them are really CLOSE to each other? Meaning what if one of them need something do you think they are all helping to each other? Or what I mean is one person can approach all the people that are in a group? Or at least no one is in out of place?
12 responses
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
There are times when I'm with my group of friends where an individual is not in good terms with the other. This is a usual thing that could happen in a group, and if the effect gets worse, it could lead to the separation of the group. Most of the times though, we do not concentrate on a problem of a friend, usually one of them will just be in good terms again. I could say that not everyone in the group is close to each other but when we unite as a team, our bonds get stronger and most of the times, our anger towards one another could vanish. Also, if one of our members need help, they are always saying it out. So that he does not have to keep it to himself.
• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
I have never experienced that for having strong bonding in a group.
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
The reason why we have strong ties with each other is because we believe in each other. That is why we are still intact.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Nice topic Meta! In our gang, we are 13 friends; but i am really close to 4 only. I hang often with the top 2. But all 4 know what is inside my heart and true feelings. I confide to them my deepest secrets and heartaches about family and other stuff. For a group of friends which are more than five, expect that there would be inner groups of friends. We cannot get too close to each and everyone. No one gets out of place.
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• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
In group of friends I've already experienced of being out of place. But then in terms of college friends we are already 5 in a group but still there is something wrong with our 1 or 2 friends that has different attitude. In five of us I am only trusting the 2 of them.
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
Hi there Meta! I can relate to that... In a group of friends, there would always be some who are quite sour to the taste and has some "weird behaviour." Like for instance, in my gang, we have one friend who is quite possessive when it comes to friends; too possessive to the extent as strangling them.
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
It really depends on what kind of friendship the groups have planted.
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• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
That is true then sometimes you can't really trust all of them.
@sashakiddo (1104)
• United States
20 Apr 11
I am in a group of friends the way it works for us is this: One or two people are the ones who sort of brought the group together, the leaders and they are the ones who value each person. The others are close to one or two people of the group, mostly the "leaders." And they might not like other members at all, but they still are friendly with them for the sake of the leaders. It is actually the leaders who seem to need the group the most, while the others don't really care much about the group.
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• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
Meaning to say in your group of friends it is like there is a commander or leader in group?
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
19 Apr 11
This is not possible everyone friend can be best or close friend. Like not possible every girl may be your wife. In my college life we are also 11 friends 5 girls and 6 boys we all were enjoying in canteen all are help to each other in study and do the study in group but only one or two friend may be closed. In our group 2 girls and 2 boys get love marriage. One is Sheetal and prashant and other bhagyashri and shailesh.
• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
That is good to hear that all of you are at least close to each other that you can be helping to each and everyone. So I could imagine that there was no hesitations at all in times that you need help.
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I do have a lot of circle of friends, but the one closest to me are composed of four people, one of which is a boy. We have no problems with it, we encouraged everyone to be open with their feelings so we would know if were neglecting a friend or if someone has a problem we really encourage him or her to open up especially on instances when we can help, we trust one another :) i think that is the secret to long-lasting relationships :)
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• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
That is correct that if you are into encourage to open up something without hesitations at all then probably your relationship with one another would be long lasting.
@ann815 (54)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
unfortunately i never fared well in big groups. i only have a very small circle of friends. in rare occasions where i find myself in a huge gathering of acquaintances, i usually find myself either chatting up just one person with whom i will be closest to. Or i will be the loner and the odd one among the group.
• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
It happened to me that I was being out of place in one group to the extent that I can't relate with their conversation. Just can't get in but then at least I can still adjust with them.
@dimzok (127)
• Indonesia
19 Apr 11
i have 7 friend in our group,all is the boy,were happy to be together even sometime rise a problem but we can handle it with good communication between all of us,we have same hobby which is travelling,and we are really close.
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• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
Good thing that you can approach all of them without hesitations at all because not all friends in one group can be like that. It has still categorize into something which is closer to this and to that.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Unfortunately I had a group of friends before but one or two were good friends. But that I realized after one girl entered in the group. Some friends changed behavior and /or attitude. Then I began to see the real faces of my friends. Some betrayed me by mouthing at my back and others stole one precious guy in my life. Imagine.. It was very terrible. But i have to move on! I am happy with my husband now.
• Pasay, Philippines
20 Apr 11
Good to hear that from you, maybe it has a good repercussion from what she did when she have stolen the precious guy that you were talking about. Maybe your husband is far better from him.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
2 May 11
hi, having a lot of friends,yes its nice and good,but sometimes we cant avoid to be close by some of them,in a huge of friends,i could say that i have some friends that not really close to me or i am not close to him/her.
@enciel (371)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
There are those that claim that in their group all of them are actually close but for me I think that not all of in a group of friends are equally close to each other. There are some that are closer to a certain individual. And as a group they are good together but the actual closeness is between the different individuals in the group. For me I can be in a group of friends but I am not close to all of them like my closeness to my best friend. It is like when we are all together we're fine but when I really have a big problem or secret I usually just share it to the people I am truly close in the group.
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
We're 11 all in all and we're all close to each other. We make other friends outside the group but when we're together, we're like a very solid, unmoveable rock. It's like having a lot of brothers outside the family. There are some people, though, that tend to pick people out of the group. I get them, they choose their friends and I somehow understand why. I, too, most of the time do that not because I'm a social climber or anything, I hangout just great with broke fellas. I pick my friends because when you're in a group, there's this phenomenon that happens when you don't know what you're doing, bad or good, anymore and I'm staying away from that. When you're in a very large group of friends, there's this some kind of norm that forms. If you don't follow that norm, you'll be out of place, I know you know that term, and no one wants to be out of place. I'd rather stay away from those group of people instead of hanging out with them and at the same time keeping my principles intact, which is hard to do when the norm pressures you to break them. I hate that kind of pressure because I always like to be myself, it's easier than being someone else.