why is it so hard to live happily?

Lithuania
April 19, 2011 10:01am CST
i mean most people when they see that you are happy they try to make you sad . Is it the jealousy of the people that make thems just want to mess up your day? Do they really not care about how they will make the person feel ? Share your personal experience here :)
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@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Life is tuff, and misery needs company. I can remember experiences like this. Just because you are in a better mood than another, some people do like to bring you down because again misery needs company. These are just bad habits. I do have an experience somewhat like this. My friend was having problems with her boyfriend and was seriously thinking about breaking up with him. I told her of an instance were my boyfriend and I had a dissagreement, it was a pretty bad argunment, but she suggested that I break up with him. Which was nothing that I wanted to do. People argue because no one is alike. But because she wasn't happy in her relationship she wanted me to break up with my boyfriend as well. I didn't think that was cool.
@ofabiania (421)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
i've read in a book written by a priest that what makes people sad is the fact that they never seem to be contended no matter what they have.. they are the persons who make their own lives complicated.. maybe, you're right about the "jealousy" part.. for me i see them as pathetic for they don't know how to deal with their own self that they try to make other people's lives same as theirs.. i guess, it would be best not to stoop down to their level and make them a lot more "jealous" by letting them know and feel that you are not affected by their actions..
@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
i think it is hard for some people to see other people happy because they are bitter and jealous. They do not want others to be comfortable and happier than they are. this is what we call crab mentality in our country, we do not want anybody to be more successful, more happy and more comfortable than us. This is the reason why it is difficult to succeed and difficult for our country to move forward.
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
20 Apr 11
Life is like this buddy, you can never fulfill your dreams and needs, once you fulfill one off your dreams then some other dreams will come into your mind then again you will rush to achieve that, greed never decrease , it increase and increase, but it depend on you, how will you makeover your mind, always think about those people that what they dont have that we have, how they survive ? i hope you can understand
20 Apr 11
I think people in general are unhappy because our society has become a giant rat race with no winner. I think its human nature to feel jealous in some situations but its lack of maturity to act out in a way thats brings someone else down. In life there will always be those kind of people, accept that fact and do your best not to be one of them. Haters are gonna hate! Just smile and keep on keepin on!
• United States
20 Apr 11
I think that in today's world stress is the main cause of being selfish. We all start to think about ourselves and forget that the more we help others the quicker we will get everything we want. I am not happy all of the time, but I do have people in my life that are always wanting to see me in a good state of mind because they like that side of me. So maybe that is the other thing, surround your self with people that want you to be happy and eliminate those that draw off of your misery.
• India
20 Apr 11
Well hie yes there are such people in life that we go through it messes our day..If we see the situations and the root cause of our unhappiness we cannot blame others.. thought it is the mistake of other people we tend to think that they are the main reason for our unhappiness. From my experience i tell you there are such people in my life that hurt me a lot my own friends at times they get good and at times some thing else just grabs their mind. Now its always up to you how you react to this situation.. if you take it negatively you will think they just tried to hurt you but in my life i see these situation positively i just get least bothered when such things happen in my life. Past is past i try to be better in future.. We cannot show then their mistake it is just if we remain good others will be good. Time heals everything..
@dodo19 (27728)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
20 Apr 11
I think that it's just the way that life works sometimes. There are days when we are happy, while other days we feel like there isn't a lot that seems to be going well for us. All we can do is try to keep things good. We might not always succeed, but we can still try and do the best we can.
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
It is just a matter of mind over matter dude. Before I am so sensitive to people's judgment or unfair decisions with regards to my personality but those experiences I think made me stronger. I only learned one thing from those "crabs" who will try to pull you down until nothing is left for you but sadness. Don't mind them and their motivation to do those acts will fade. Just ignore them, search for peace within your heart and to the faith you are acquainted... He will help you in times of trouble. People will always fail you but He never will. If you really don't mind them their acts will never materialize in your life.
19 Apr 11
It's human nature to want to become happy. However, It's obvious that the world must be in balance. For someone to be happy, someone must be sad. Jealously is born from that sense of balance. A is happy while B is sad. Because B is sad while A is happy, everything is still in balance (+1 + -1 = 0) But because B grew jealous and wanted to be happy too, someone must feel sad in his place. That person is A. And so, B mess with A, causing A to be sad while B is the one being happy. There's no way everyone in this world can be happy at the same time. Humanity will prevent that from happening.
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I guess all people experienced that.. I think it's human nature that people will try to put you down.But what's important is we should not let them ruin our day or mood. Just think that we have the right to be happy..
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
what makes people's live so hard? is that sometimes we're just thinking about ourselves, we always complain about the things we can't get. sometimes jealousy is also one of the reason, we don't want other people to be more successful than us. We usually get angry and not thinking twice, we easily fell to temptations. to live happy is to sacrifice things that could help the most. control our emotions, and always think other first rather than ourselves.
• India
19 Apr 11
its nature of human beign that they are mean and they cant see someone feel good they are not feeling good jeolousy is the main reason .
• United States
19 Apr 11
Life is what you make it and you can not let other people bring you down!! If you are happy don't let others ruin it for you life is too short!! I don't care if I am happy I won't let no one bring me down!!