Revealing my top secret..

Philippines
April 20, 2011 5:31am CST
I really want to tell my family about my top secret. I want them to know first before the world knows. It is really hard for me to open up this issue because I can feel that they are expecting from me a lot. I am the youngest and I am once noted to be the future of my family. I had a lot of fears and second thoughts. I hope in the right time they will still love me no matter what... are you experiencing the same situation too?
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• United States
21 Apr 11
it sound like you could be challeged with something many people are dealing with. It could be something you can''t change and they have to live with. If you know for sure they will be hurt by this then for yoursake hold on to this for a short while longer. Get someone to talk to about it and see if they can be with you when you reveal your secrets. Secrets can be deadly too..
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@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
I have experienced that too and most of the time I have told it to my family.I think you should tell them as you have said they are expecting a lot from you.But there are also secrets that should remain unsaid than spilling it all to them especially if that secret of yours would mean losing their trust in you.Also telling the truth would mean you trust them and vice versa, because trust is the most important traits that a man should have.
@toniganzon (49185)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
I am not experiencing the same situation but i can somehow relate to what you're going through. I'm the youngest and believed to be the smartest among my siblings and my family expected too much from me. Yes i have disappointed them once in my life and until now i'm still proving to them that i can make my life a better one and more successful than they expect it to be. It's difficult when we have to think about other's expectations because those push us to make decisions that we are not happy with. It's like being chained and imprisoned. I hope that someday you'll find the courage to reveal your secret to them and hope it won't be that long before you do it. Remember as time goes by, the higher the expectations will be and the more difficult it would be to open up your secrets to them. Good luck.
@Hatley (164671)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Apr 11
njamoroso if your family loves you as they sho uld they may at first be upseet with whatever your secret is but real love overcomes that first upset. be honest and clear, and if its what I am thinking you are talking about it may take a little hard thinking on their part but true family love will rise above it.I am not experiencing that no, and i am old enough to be your grandmother.If you are talking about what I think you are you might be able to persuade your family pastor to help you tell your family, I am resp ecting your secret and will not put into words what I think it is but really families usually have a lot more love and resilience than you think they do,
• United States
21 Apr 11
Family doesn't always take things the right way just when it is said but they love you and no matter what they say at first they will come around. Just take some things as shock value and leave hurtful things behind you.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
if you are the youngest i am the oldest and they expect too much of me also. but i want to be honest to myself so i told them them what i wanted and i dont like to play roles of what they think i am. lying to myself is not a good thing and so as lying to them. of course they were shock but i just want them to know. we are five kids in our family and since i am the oldest and i guess i had achieve a lot of good things at school when i was growing up they expect me to do wonderful things for the family as well. then my parents started to pair me with a friends friend who lives abroad that even my personal life and love life they want to budge in. i stand at my ground. i want to be me and i want them to accept that. if you want them to love you as you then you have to tell them for it will break their hearts if you did not reach that expectations. goodluck
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
20 Apr 11
I think when you tell your family they may be hurt or disappointed but they will still love you. You are important to them and they will only want the best for you. They may even see that you wanting to tell them in the right way and time as your love and respect for them. Families can tend to expect a lot and that may be overwhelming. Try to keep positive through the whole thing. Let them know you care and that you appreciate all that they have done for you.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
20 Apr 11
Dear friend, I feel some secrets can be revealed and some may not as it may create much big problems. If revealing a secret creates unpleasant things in life I hope it would be better not to reveal let it be a secret forever. But if we our self feel guilty conscious may be it is an individual choice.