stay or try to find my luck....

@spockers (221)
Philippines
April 20, 2011 7:25pm CST
I was been active in advising in one discussion here in mylot about how to continue life in a situation of loneliness. But even my self, i had a problem to overcome also, right now i'm in the state of deciding we there to stay here in my life now, or to go outside my comfort place and try my luck in other place. In other word, I had to decide we there to stay at home or try to go some place were I try to stand on my own. My mother always sermon me about that, she always said that I'm useless in some ways and that really hurts me. I really want to show to her that I can stand on my own. I had many friends out there that I can go to, but I really need to be sure first on my decision. What should i do? I can't really decide.
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12 responses
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 11
I would say, go out and try to find your luck. Even if it takes months, with diligence you will find it. Good luck to you.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
That's what i really love in this site, always cheer you up. i love to share a lot of my insights here. thanks.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 11
Great. Just can't wait to know your insight on life.
@kwylima (452)
• United States
22 Apr 11
I think you don't have to go out..because it will be more hard for you..well, this is my decision...if she is tell you that you are useless..maybe you are doing something that makes she thinks like that..what you can do is..maybe go look for a job (if you can).then you will be out most of the day...then when you get some money use it to learn something that will make you sucessful..like courses,college or so.. then you will prove to her that you are great (what I am pretty sure you are) show her that you can do whatever you want and then soon you will help her.. don't let anybody tell you that you cannot do anything..beleive you can..and go forward!!!
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
You really get what i was thinking. I am only waiting the perfect time to do it, because i think that every thing has a perfect time to do. I only thinking my future, and i must be sure to it. Because I really don't want to failed again. I loce my family, and that's make me think twice to leave them. But times come that i need to go part from them. To prove to them and specially to my self that i can stand on my own. I really can, I know it to my self.
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
21 Apr 11
Hi, The rudeness of the truth is that life life would not provide you many options at the same time. You have to think over where you feel you fit and step into that. And good or bad, whatsoever follows later you can not regret. Hence think yourself or discuss with your parents and friends and then proceed. After all you have to stand on your own feet sooner or later.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I love what you said " rudeness of the truth ". That really the reality, after all I will force to do it, so it might good to start as early as i can for me to gather more experience in life outside my home. Even when i was in high school, i was thinking what would be the feeling of settle out of my parents, and trying to live on my own. And I feel really the time for mo to do it, is near already. And I must decide to it.
@dab0503 (26)
21 Apr 11
It is written in the bible that man when time comes has to leave his family and to look and make his own. In your case i think maybe your time has not yet come or you have this very strong ego of yours. There is really no harm in trying. Do not be afraid when you fall, in order to be successful you must first under go failure in different stages of your life. Remember that a journey to a mile always begins with a step, and just don't forget to pray to our lord for guidance in every decision you want to make. Good luck.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Thank dab0503. I really to start my own journey in my life soon. I know it would not easy, but i had to, maybe at first im sure there will be failure. But I'm confident to my self that i really can do it, for sure. Thanks again for such nice reply.
• Indonesia
21 Apr 11
Just try, do not even care what people said. If you try, you will know your ability and finaly find what's better to you. If you stay and keep your on this situation, you'll get more hurt and pressure, you don't know where you have to run. instead all shout that surround you, trust your self. look outside and open your eyes. a lot thing to do, enough time to prove that you're higher than you seem. go.... dont be afraid to lost. you'll learn from what you did and tried!!
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
their no bad on trying?? Am i correct? But i need sometimes to think about it. Every decision needs to have time to think, for me to be sure if i'm already sure to what i really what. But for you guys, thank you, you had help in some ways. Sharing to others about your problems really make you fell lightened.
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
It all depends on you spockers. But I guess showing what you're made of to your mom could do less, especially when you will live at another person's house. I suggest you stay in at home but you have to show her that you are not useless in many ways and you could stand up alone by doing it yourself. If you would stay at another person's house, it would likely cause more trouble for your mom. You should be patient in these kind of things, because if you are patient, you will be rewarded with a better outcome. Good luck!
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
Thanks misterMR, but moms really pressuring me. And I think that I need to go somewhere else just to prove to her that she's wrong, but not totally wrong. Patient? I'm losing my patient here, and I need to do something before losing it totally.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
21 Apr 11
I know you must feel like you need to get out there and prove yourself to people, especially your mother. I would not do it if you are truly not ready to make it all work out.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
I know i can do it, but i need to be sure for it, i will find the right time to go out here.
• United States
21 Apr 11
I would be very careful moving in with friends. if you think you can keep up with your end of the bargain go ahead and show yourself first that you can master this. Don't set out to show your mom anything. You come first and it should make you feel better after moving out and not hearing tese words again.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
That's what really i've been thinking, I must be sure to every decision i will make. And i really want to show to her that she's wrong, I am also preparing for my future, but for now, i really want to enjoy life first. But when i heard those words from her, i feel so sad. I must be sure first, before i left here.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
I can relate to what you're going through, because even up to now, sometimes I feel that I am not living my life to the fullest. And, it's sad in your case that you have to hear harsh words from your own mom. But, I guess that I could say that the only one who can answer that is your self. Search deep in your heart what it is that you really want to do. Make a decision, then stand by your decision. It is always hard to confront your self, especially considering the pressure from other people, but ultimately, it all depends on you. But, you have to make that choice, and no matter what the choice is, if that is what you really wanted, it wouldn't matter - you would be happy with your choice.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
thanks, i really appreciate what you said. Yup, your right, I really need to decide to it, but i will think this carefully. It is really hard to choose, but it will come to the time that i will be force to decide.
@bird123 (10518)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Well, do the Math. Does your job pay enough to pay all your bills plus some to save??? Do you have some money saved up now for emergencies that might show themselves. Never ever listen to those who say you aren't good enough or can't do something. You are much more capable than you realize. You will stand on your own two feet at some point in the future. Plan. Get the money right. Stop worrying. Figure it all out and do it!
@kramsgir (146)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
take the risk. who knows?, maybe it will do you good and even if it won't, at least you tried:)) good luck!!
• Indonesia
21 Apr 11
better if you try to find some place to stand on your own,. cause sometimes your parent can't understand with your life, or what you want.