sometimes the best discussion you have only have few participants

Calgary, Alberta
April 21, 2011 6:30am CST
I kinda remember some if the discussions I love the most dont even have multiple responses, sometimes I participant is a party already, i remember i have a discussion about something I really enjoy and only 1 person participated but we were talking for days on that single discussion. Its a fun experience, I know many people here were discouraged when only 1 person responded to their discussion, they will just give up and choose BR and forget about it, but you know if you only tried to continue talking tot hat single person, You could have the best conversation you ever had. So yeah, if you only get 1 response, why dont you try talking to that person. Sometimes a discussion with only 1 or 2 participant can be considered a quality discussion.
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@thesids (22362)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Apr 11
Hiya Captain It happens so many times, I have a few discussions which are so close to me and I dont mind re-reading them again and again. But as you mention, the best ones at times do not get as much support as was expected. but they were great discussions from my view.
• Calgary, Alberta
21 Apr 11
many people here gets upset when they get only 1 responder, they will abandon it for good, they didn't even try to talking tot he person who responded who is interested and gave an effort. I'm starting to make discussions that i expect not to be popular but somehow I enjoy them despite of lack of support.
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@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
22 Apr 11
This is very true, some very good discussions get very little responses while those that are not really of great quality gets plenty of attention. Why? Because people use their right to choose what they want to read and discussion, some are more interested in quality discussion on world affairs, are discussion on families, new research, rather than on personal issue. What it all boils down to is choice.
• Calgary, Alberta
23 Apr 11
As long as you have at least one person who will make interaction and conversation with you out of that topic, It will be enjoyable.
• United States
23 Apr 11
It really only takes two people to have a conversation(good or bad), but in this case, being on this site, you want to attract as many readers as you can.
• Calgary, Alberta
23 Apr 11
I know what attracts readers but sometimes its worth it to take the risk if I choose to play it safe only I will die of boredome. there are things I am very passionate about and I want to satisfy my urge to talk about them.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
hello Albert, I really enjoyed having discussion with friends. It happens that the best topic you've made don't received too much responses as we expected. But like what you've said...keeping that topic alive make it more of a quality discussion and also the more you keep talking with the responders,the more you get to know that person. that is what i am always trying to make with my topics...kicking in with lively inter-action. have a great day
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• Calgary, Alberta
22 Apr 11
I try to avoid making topics I will not enjoy since i want it to be worth it wether I get a 1 or a hundred responses. Nothing beats interaction. I am very quiet and real life but in this place I can be very talkative and let lose. In real life I'm just the "devil who fires people" so they were to intimidated talking to me. I do have friends but they were boring people....
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
yayyy...i know what you mean "the firing devil" hehehe i can't imagine you being my superior...hahaha having inter-action here in mylot,but in real life i hated you that much
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• Calgary, Alberta
23 Apr 11
before my promotion everyone are so nice to me but after getting promoted and many people getting fired,things change. If the term "stabbing in the back" is literal, I could have got so many daggers on my back. Its like a different way of acupuncture. (Its their fault though and I just do my job, My butt will be in the line if I tried covering their violations.) Here in mylot, I'm not the devil who fires people. I'm just Albert.
@topffer (33198)
• France
21 Apr 11
I agree completely : the number of persons responding to a discussion has nothing to do with the quality of the discussion. Some of the best discussions I remember here had few responders and were really good, and you made some. Remember you "exotic meats" discussions under your first user name ? And more recently this funny discussion about parallel words ? I am a bit handicapped today as I don't receive notifications of comments on comments made by my friends. It is the same for the discussions I started : the best are not those with a large number of responders.
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• Calgary, Alberta
21 Apr 11
also there are times when you discussion have so much participants its not fun anymore, there will be some sort of over saturation. I think a discussion with few participant will be fun if everyone is engaged to it and converse deeply and have fun.
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@topffer (33198)
• France
21 Apr 11
I am a snail responder, and too much responders is not funny for me, except if the responses are diversified enough to maintain my interest. I made only one like this, and I think it was a good one : at least, my opinion about the topic evolved with it.
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• Calgary, Alberta
21 Apr 11
I am considering to stop making popular topics since playing safe sometimes makes you feel unhappy. I already quit all "the earn online topics", since I want to be focused to stuff that is more worth talking about for me. People don’t really believe me that I joined this place for the art of conversation. Someone here seemed to accuse me for trying to please everyone but that the case though, I think you had seen me argued with people, I'm not sugar coating stuff, Some people don’t like it that I make disclaimers, I put disclaimers because I have a target audience. Many people here thought that having lots of responses makes the quality of their topic, i think its the involvement.
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
23 Apr 11
I know exactly what you mean. A discussion does not need many participants but if those few have an interest in the subject, the discussion can be great. I know I had a few chats with you under your old account that had a few responses but the few that did reply were talking for days and it was very enjoyable and it is always a pleasure talking to you.
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• Calgary, Alberta
23 Apr 11
I know those discussions will not appeal tot he demographics of mylot but i tried taking risk in able to find some people who were into them. some of them paid off, I was able to talk about thinks I like. Not all of them pays off but if I will try to do nothing but discussions that appeals everyone, I am going to be deprived,.
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
23 Apr 11
I think you have found a niche on mylot. I like most of your discussions and when I have something to add I will. There will be people who just don't get it but then there will always be many that do
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@danitykane (3192)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
Hi albert, Haha! I know! I have started a topic wherein I talked about tech and stuff and I only got three responses.. but I am grateful for it, I'd rather have one response than zero ~ nada. But the beauty of our started topic is that someone might find it anytime either by search and respond to it. As long as it will not be deleted by admin. LOL! Happy Lotting!
• Calgary, Alberta
23 Apr 11
her long time no see, I remember I have a discussion where there is only the 2 of us and its a great discussion, I dont remember what is it but its from my old account which i had deleted due to bugs so i dont know where to find it.
@Hvaniday1 (550)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 11
Hi CaptAlbertWhisker, it's true while reply to a single person make a quality post but I think somehow I might feel boring with never ending story. Do you have the same thought? This will depends on every individual I guess.
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• Calgary, Alberta
23 Apr 11
Its actually more boring to respond with 100 people with the same comments than have a deep conversation with a person. I prefer long conversation than 'have a nice day happy lotting'Plus two people who are into the topic wont be bored until the a new discussion is available.
• China
22 Apr 11
I totally agree with you.It happens to me a lot when I started to think about the best discussion I ever had.The number of participants do not have much effect in the quality of the discussion.I have few friends with whom I can start one topic and continue to talk about it for more than one week.Sometimes I do learn from the discussions we had.
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• Calgary, Alberta
23 Apr 11
Basically people should continue talking as long as the person you talk to continue talking.
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
Hello Captainalbert, So, that means all this time all of my discussions are not the best? wow that's a relief, maybe i should make my discussion so serious that only one person can respond so it may be really a best discussion. unfortunately, i get to have so many responses whether i like it or not. some that i am not expecting any high response, that's when they start popping up
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• Calgary, Alberta
23 Apr 11
I did enjoy discussions that gets many responses though some of the discussions where I get the most interaction and chains are the ones with chains. I love long chains you know, thats how I want discussions to be.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
22 Apr 11
Hello again Capt! As usual you never cease to amaze, at least me. Where do you think up these topics? If I can think up 4 topics a year that is major?I never thought to look at it that way. When I get low numbered responses I feel like a failure! I never thought to look about it any other way. I got one discussion that had over 200 responses about my first year of sobriety only to have them delete it 2 years later! Again,
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• Calgary, Alberta
22 Apr 11
I actually love gettign lots responses but having uber long chains is more satisfying to me. and I was able to get more chains in discussions with 1 to 4 participants. But i am able to have conversation with people too in my discussions with hundreds of responses too. Though there are times that you can actually enjoy a conversation when there is only few of you but all of you are interacting.
@GardenGerty (96662)
• Marion, Kansas
21 Apr 11
If you were to go back to that discussion today and make a response it would then open up in the recent tab and you might even attract more people because I am sure you have more friends now than you did then. I think if two people really enjoyed a topic, it definitely was a quality discussion.
• Calgary, Alberta
21 Apr 11
I am actually re-enjoying some of them currently but some of them are in my old account which I already deleted and its hard to track them back.
@joystick (1680)
21 Apr 11
I do think that there are alot of discussions that either have only a few people that have responded, or worse still only one response.I am the kind of person that answer discussions that have even no responses as i think that some of those are ok and feel like people are just nor seeing, or not answering them if they are new people that have joined.
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• Calgary, Alberta
21 Apr 11
sometimes you created a single discussion and only 1 person participated but that person is able to give you a conversation hundreds of people cannot give. i wish people will realize that if only 1 person give an effort to their discussion its a failure but they didnt even try talking to that lone person. sometimes fewer people makes a discussion more personal and intimate.