How to survive a break up

Philippines
April 21, 2011 8:04pm CST
My girlfriend is about to break up with me in 3 days. She lost interest in our 2 year relationship. She says that she is still thinking about it, but I asked her cousin and her cousin said that she has made up her mind to be single again. I am somehow doing better now because I tried a few break up survival methods. 1. Be with close friends- I went out with friends until late night to provide me company. I share them my problems. It helps knowing that there are people around you that still cares. 2. Drink in moderation- I don't condone drinking. But drinking too much may make you do things that you might regret, specially when your depressed. 3. Don't do self-damage- Don't be in a brawl, don't drive your car to a tree, don't jump of the cliff. Trust me, I had ideas to do all of these things. The only thing that kept me from doing these is the fact that I won't be able enjoy my own life if I will lose my head. 4. Just be happy- do the things that make you happy. Even if it just balances out your feeling. It beats being depressed. What other break up survival techniques do you know? Please share..
5 responses
• United States
22 Apr 11
Your off to a great start here. i think you should not wait for her to leave you. You should let her know your ready to move on wit your life and wish her well. Te right woman will come along and brighte up your life.
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
I really thought that she would be the right woman for me. She is a really great person. I just don't understand why does this has to happen. I really don't want to break up with her..
• United States
22 Apr 11
She already left you from what you say. You need to break the last bar and move on..
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
I am not a religous type of person but i did pray hard to forget the pain. Plus, when my friends saw me in a rot, they took me places and bought the things i like... they really spoiled me.. hahahah!
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
Maybe I should pray harder also. My friends are a bit different, I get to treat them. haha. But it was really fun to reconnect with them. I really didn't expect how supportive they are to me even if I always prioritized my girlfriend back then. Friends are amazing. They never get tired of you..They would always say the right things to you even if you don't listen. I just really wish that I get to spend time with friends and my girlfriend right now.
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
Youre tips are correct! We almost have the same tips. I think it would be better if you stay away from the things or places that reminds you of your ex. Keeping yourself busy and focus is also a good one. Ex. Joining here in mylot, focus to post to reach the payout. Remember that if you want to focus on doing something, set goals that are not impossible for you to meet.
• India
22 Apr 11
You have come up with pretty good techniques to get over it. As you already have planned on few things, all i can suggest you is, keep yourself busy with something which like the most, be it work, studies, hobbies..anything, but keep yourself as busy as you can to get over it as soon as you can.
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
I remembered eating a lot during that phase in life. I just can't stop eating! I also remembered that I prayed really hard to God that this will soon stop, because I know it is something that could make us stronger than we are. And after that prayer, I started to accept the fact that the person is no longer the love of my life. It is difficult and yet, it makes us grow stronger emotionally and mentally.