Why would I attend that Highschool Reunion?

Hi,Letran! Yeah,high school was kinda like a disaster to me as well.Maybe the conditions were better than yours. I love the first year.My deskmate sometimes was hard to get along with,but most of the time I got along with her just fine.And in the front row there were these two amazing guys.One is quite smart and cute,one is quite honest and gentle.Every Friday or the day before holidays,we four would talk for the whole self-studying classes.We would discuss the news,criticize the bureaucracy,plan for the future.We would gossip abut each other and play games.We even sang aloud.It was quite crazy and that was a wonderful year,really. Maybe that's one reason I felt so gloomy when I went to another class.Here in China,in high school,after a year or two's study,we should decide if we want to continue learning art or science.Art courses include history,geography and politics.Science ones include chemistry,physics and biology.Chinese,Maths and English are compulsory courses.So I chose to learn art since I got higher marks in those courses and I was not doing good in physics.I got enrolled in those so-called upper classes.It was a hard time for me to get by.Our headteacher only emphasized on our marks.I even doubt if she had any love for the class at all.She would handed us some surveys to do while we were watching our guys competing in the basketball match.The ones sat in the front row barely knew the ones who sat in the back row.The monitor was focusing on his studies rather than the relationships between classmates.The whole two years were grades-oriented.College entrance exam was the priority.I was quite rebellious at that time as well.I argued with my parents now and then and even planned to quit school.(Later I apologized to my parents for my bringing them headaches in high school.) There were some plans to hold a high school reunion.The monitor once sent us invitations.But it never actually worked out.We some good friends did get together ourselves.I guess we just still don't feel it,you know,the love for the class. Sometimes we hate those classmates reunions because we don't wanna see some people well-to-do while we're still trying to figure a way out for our future.Yet it's not something to be ashamed of,I think,as long as we're paying the effort.But bad memories of the high school is another thing.If you don't wanna recall,just don't go.There is no need to torture yourself. Have a wonderful weekend!

I've tried to attend the high school reunion it was 3 times but then the grand reunion was different from the other two that I have attended. At first I was hesitated as well but because my schoolmate or batchmate pleased me to go there so I gave her chance and that night it was good to meet my former classmates again. Nothing bad happened to me. On the second reunion it was alright as well and I was able to communicate with other classmates. On this Grand Reunion I was able to attend and enjoyed the event even after that because we went to the Lax Bar that is near to Mall of Asia. After that I was able to ride on my schoolmate's car. There was a bad experience that happened to me inside the car when my drunken classmate have sat beside me and did something on my legs that good thing I was able to stopped him. I was shocked and I don't want to do something like spunk him to prevent the trouble with other classmates. But then when the only 3 of us left in the car including him and my schoolmate would dropped me on my home while on the way going to my home I was able to hit or beat him on his head and told him that he did something to me on my legs. I was really in denial of what he did but it was traumatic. After that Grand Reunion it was long time before they organized another reunion but it was not that same as before and I didn't attempt to go with them anymore. Plus others are not that friendly.

Most of my high school friends are still my friends today, as in fact the closest friend I have today is a high school friend. But, we were a group that was not really in the "popular" category. So, when we had a high school reunion a year ago, I think, none of us went. You're right - when you didn't enjoy high school, why bother remembering it?

I understand that there were no good memories but you are all older now and hopefully wiser. Wondering as it gets closer to the date you may change your mind. Saying only because I too did not want to attend mine and I did and ended up having a blast. It was nice seeing so many of them as the years went by and also met some that I did not even know in high school. I understand it is your choice just wondered if you would keep your options open and decide as it gets closer to the date.

hi, ah i see,you know,even i have many bad memories at high school i would still attend to high school reunion,maybe because i want to see how my classmates looks now,or what the latest updates to there self.a happy moment with the reunion to see my old classmates.

hi LK, I can say High School life was good for me i can't forget the free lunch, chocolates and love letters from my suitors i can say i enjoyed it but since i came from non-sectarian school i don't hear any reunion if there will be one i don't want to join because most of my friends will not able to attend to as they are living and working abroad. If you have something to look back you will not think twice to attend but since i am still attached with my high school friends no need to have reunion . have a nice day!

Yeah, i guess i understand how you feel. I am not very close with my high school friends anymore too and i guess i have not got by guts to in and mingle with them as well. Maybe, i just want to forget that time of my life, worst not because i was bullied, worst not because i have on friends, but because high school reminded me the hardship i had to overcome at a young age because my father left us for good.

I do not blame you one bit for not going. I was bullied in school and did nto have close friends either. I was an outcast, it seemed. I will never go to any of my reunions either to be stared at or made fun of and ignored either, ever again.

I hope I won't be touching any nerves on this one. Hear me out here, I'm just trying to give you some perspective, but if you already have enough, you can rate me down, delete me in your friend list here in this site or what not to what you want to do after. With most of the content that your post had, you mentioned a lot of the bad things about your High school except the NCAA games, yet here you are re-affirming how you didn't like your high school days and how you announce for everyone here in myLot to read that you won't be attending your reunion. Makes me wonder why you don't want to recall anything from your High school while your very user name on this site easily mentions it. Try to be optimistic here. It has already been a long time since High school. You are a different person now. Your classmates are all different now too. The bullies before should be old enough to know that they shouldn't be doing that anymore. We all know that bullies are like that because they don't feel nice about themselves so they try to make themselves feel better by making other people miserable. If you still can hold a grudge against that, well I guess limiting yourself. The not so close friends for classmates you once had are attending that reunion to meet their friends before as well as to catch up on things. They can actually just meet with each other without the reunion. They might be using the reunion to have an excuse to meet each other, but being there also implies that they would meet other classmates and inevitably talk with the others too. They are close to each other because they want it to be so. Now, I do hope that even with the negative things you mentioned about 'once called friends,' have you really tried to keep in touch with them or you simply shunned them out after some misunderstanding? And you mentioned girls and jobs. Perhaps your traumatic experiences before are affecting your confidence about meeting any of the two. Where is your confidence? I know this would be blunt to say, but you also had something to do with this. Why are you giving in with all these negativity? Why not look at that reunion as some opportunity? Yes, they would ask how you are, where are you working at and so on. You can mention that commercial space that your family has. You sound good with those discussions that has that for their topics. The cats that you also mentioned before makes you an animal lover. Don't think little of those things and the other nice things that others might ridicule on. When you mention that you are unemployed, perhaps some of them would suggest a job that you can be interested in. When you mention that you don't have a girl, perhaps they can introduce a girl that they know who is also having trouble looking for a guy. Just be positive. Well, that's just what I can think. A general suggestion if you would call it. You can entirely ignore this post of course. I'm just trying to help

That's ok Letran, many people didn't enjoy high school and don't go to their reunions. Both my husband and I don't go and wouldn't go even if someone were to personally ask us..

hello LK, What brings me to the FB world are my highschool friends and classmates actually. Yes,they are my good friends and they never forget me or any of us. We don't constantly says hi or hello,but then we never forget to send messages every now and then. I missed our grand alumni last December due to my work schedules. I wish i could make it next time. My highschool life is one of the most memorable event in my life. I am sorry to hear that you don't have much fun during your time. Anyway..i am sure you are enjoying mylot circle of friends right?

Some of us would be really concern of how will other high school buddies would look at us especially for not seeing us after all those time. I got mixed feelings about my own high school reunion for next year. I have some friends whom I have lost touch after high school (with me moving to Manila and they to other places or countries). From time to time I do bump into some in my hometown in the province. You can say that curiosity take a hold of me that's why I want to attend that. I once has financial issues of my own last year that's why when this reunion was proposed the fears and negative emotions plagued me. Thankfully God has allowed me to recover. And this can give me a lot of time to look better than my former extra pounds self :). Its more on what effect we can achieve in our former classmates whether it will be repulsive or good that really concerns us.

It would be either you'll show them you got over those bitter days, and started a greater new life without them, or you remain aloft with them, never get along with them for life. You could be right, you are done with High school, there's no need to recall the other bad memories of your life.

I really don't like my high school too. It's just like any other bad day, where you get to see bullies and some other bad-influenced people. I really don't like high school, but there are some fun moments though. But if I were to attend a reunion, I would rather not because of those I mentioned earlier. I do not want to reminisce the bad times again. However, if the bullies are not there, I would try to catch up. Haha .

I was bullied and alone in school, but I realise since I left that I built up a wall around myself because of the bullying and I didnt let anyone get near me because I thought everyone was going to bully me. since I left, I found that I had many insecurities about myself back then, and I am a changed person now, so I'd like to go to a highschool reunion to re-meet everyone in a new light. The people would see now that I am fine and have a good life. If you didnt like highschool though, have no desire to see anyone from there ever again and dont want to bring up the old memories, then no, I dont think there is much of a point in you going.