Have you had an unpleasant or dangerous experience with online dating?

@stary1 (6622)
United States
April 22, 2011 8:14pm CST
I know sooooo many people who have met their boyfriends/husbands through online dating. I always suggest it when my single friends talk about dating since it seems to be a more effective way to meeting people than bar hopping :( I also suggest joining clubs, taking classes, joining church gropus, etc., but honestly I think the internet can be a great place to meet people. Lately in the news there have been some tragic experiences reported so I wondered if anyone could share their not so good experiences so others can read about it and watch out for anything similar. TY.
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@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
23 Apr 11
Hi stary Never been lucky dear to have gone on a date ever - be in real life or even on the virtual internet kind of. Sad part but it is okay. I have made some invitations to some people here at MyLot no doubt, but then meeting them in person I am not quite sure how it will be like. Oh yes, I am happpily married, have my beautiful wife and we do do some dates kind of things between us... but I am sure that is not what you ask for on this disussion
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
25 Apr 11
You have never been on a date? Well it isn't toooo sad because you are happily married and didn't have to go through the dating scene. Some of it was fun..but not all of it. I am very happy for you :)
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 May 11
But I did miss the things when they should have been happening with me dear. Upto 32 I never had any girl around me... feels sad and deprived of some better moments at times. But yes, now that I have a so very loving and caring wife, I think it balances that.
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 May 11
Oh dear... that is a sweet BR from you - a dear friend. And it comes at times when I am balancing my life in real world as again...
• United States
23 Apr 11
I tried online dating briefly, but was very disappointed. I discovered that in many cases, the online dating scene is a place for people with low self image (which was me, to be honest), and for the less attractive and socially awkward. I never found Miss Almost Right, but I did find people who didn't know how to treat people right. One that comes to mind was a woman who had been abused a lot by previous boyfriends and a husband. It seemed that when she realized that I would never, ever mistreat her, she began taking out her anger on me. I tried to be understanding and patient. Finally though, I said, "Enough being patient. I deserve better than this treatment from you. I am NOT going to be grouped with the losers that you were involved with before." Frankly, she needed help that I was unable to give, and she was unable or unwilling to see her own damage and work to repair it. For some, dating sights can be a way to get outside of their own envelope, or back into a dating scene after being in a long relationship. But I just didn't meet those people.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
25 Apr 11
Wow she wasn't fun..sounds like psycho-girl...good thing she wasn't a stalker..that is what people have to watch for I guess. I wish you well...it's just so hard now to meet people and the Internet seems like a logical place.
• United States
27 Apr 11
I think I will eventually meet someone online that I will fall for. But not through a dating service. I will probably keep swapping jokes and stories through Facebook until finally we encounter each other at an event or just say, "We have got to get together." And during our first date, we will probably be on our smart phones, posting back and forth to each other on Facebook about our date. This posting on Facebook about a real life date that began on Facebook will create a paradox which will rip a hole in the fabric of space/time and suck us out of existence. But at least our last memories will be happy ones.
• United States
23 Apr 11
I never dated online before and I don't think I would want too. Online has a lot of creepy people but I've heard successful stories with dating online just people who are doing it should be super careful and when they meet in public- meet somewhere there is a lot of people!
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
23 Apr 11
I am with you. Thing is I have heard way more positive stories than negative so I was wondering if that is really the way it is. Absolutely everyone involved in online chats or dating must be super careful!!
@piya84 (2587)
• India
23 Apr 11
I have not met many people through internet so cant say.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Have you joined an online dating site? Several of my friends have and have talked to and even gone out with many guys before they found someone. Some are still trying. Some gave up. One of them told me.."you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find Prince Charming" :)
@tiina05 (2318)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
hello, I am not personally involved in online dating because I have a present boyfriend now and I am so scared to try. Well, I have a friend who join in this kind of site and she probably met her husband. It is kinda unbelievable right? but it is true, the thing is, it is too old for her but it is rich and can give her everything. I don't know if it is right? but what do you think?
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Yeah, best not to look for a boyfriend online if you already have a boyfriend :) I know MANY people who have met their husbands online and so far as I know, all have worked out very well. As for your friend..I don't know what to say. I think it is sad to marry just for money but I also know some people have had very hard lives and look for the security and comfort. I wish her love and happiness whatever she does. Tell me what happens...I wish her everything good!
• Australia
23 Apr 11
Hi Stary1, Welcome to MyLot! I met my hubby through facebook.So, i must say that internet indeed is a great place for meeting people. But it has its own disadvantages too. Sometimes people fake their identity and tend to chat just for fun. I have heard about some heartbreaking internet stories. In my case, i was lucky and we are happily married. I think people need to be more careful and specific when they are willing to engage with the other party over the internet!
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Thank you for the welcome and for sharing your good fortune!!..I am enjoying talking to people from ALL OVER THE WORLD!!..it's amazing... I am very very happy for you..congratulations. Yours is the most common story I have heard, fortunately. I am becoming aware of more and more dangers and I find that really sad...