Do you feel sorry for criminals with troubles childhoods?

@misc11 (384)
United States
April 23, 2011 1:45pm CST
A lot of the time you hear about criminals, you hear about their childhood and how troubled it was. They had no family, grew up in foster homes, parents deceased at a young age, were abused, etc, etc. Part of me really feels for them because I think well, did they have a chance or were they ever led in the right direction. With no good influences and no one to teach them, how did they know wrong from right so how can you blame them? But the other part of me thinks well everyone has problems and everyone goes through hard times but chose the right path and chose to learn from their mistakes and go forth with their lives. What is your opinion?
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• United States
23 Apr 11
I have been through abuse and being raped and so much more. I don't think I would ever break the law to end up in prison. I would have to snap after someting tragic in my life. I feel sorry for the victims and that is all.
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@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
23 Apr 11
I haven't been through all that, but I agree with you about only feeling sorry for the victim. The criminal might have had it bad as a kid, but that doesn't excuse their criminal actions.
@zralte (4186)
• India
23 Apr 11
Blaming a troubled childhood is not an excuse. I know lots of people who had really troubled childhood, they turned out fine. They don't steal or kill or rape people. Two of my husband's best friend have got real troubled childhood. I don't see them doing anything criminal. Both of them are orphan, grew up with foster parents, rejected by their foster parents, then left to the state, those sort of things. They are leading normal lives, doing the best they can as every normal human being.
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• Philippines
15 May 11
To tell you the truth is that I truly feel sorry for them. That is a gesture from a person to another person who has been hurt and perhaps, has no way to heal the wound inside. However, I think that a horrible past or childhood is not an excuse to do crime and not get punished. We all have, I assume, have been hurt in one way or another. Sometimes, we can deal with it. Sometimes, we can't and we hope for the best and the future. But hurting other people and using being hurt as an excuse (or reason) is not a justifiable defense. Society and the law can perhaps can give a little leeway but I don't think not service justice to a crime is a disservice in itself. Perhaps these people cannot be blamed for what they have experience but I think that these people also know innately what is good from wrong, even without influences. It is still their prerogative whether to do the crime or not. If they do, justice must be served becuase their a party who has been victimized.
• United States
24 Apr 11
yes i really have a soft corner for those criminals which are having a bad childhood and had suffered with strong shocks in their childhood.because no man borns good or bad those are the circumstances which make him good or bad.sometime we can say that they have the chance to choose the right path,but no one have teach them which path they should select.they have suffered poverty in their childhood so whatever path they get to earn money easily they will definitely choose that one.
• India
24 Apr 11
v can not blame them directly... it's not completely their fault. it actually depends upon the situation. if you someone who corrects you... then u can blame that person... but wen u dont have anyone who can tell you the wrong or right then... we can not blame them. may be they are forced to do... or they have a reason for doing crimes... none does anything without any reason
24 Apr 11
yes...one reason were doing thing we use to..is because of our past and environment..
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Hi misc... There are those who would view criminals now as victims of society rather than criminals. And I tend to agree with this to a certain degree as there would be no criminals if society is different from what it is. And I suppose when you say society, that would include the elements in it like family, media, education, government, etc. Viewed this way, I tent to understand their deeds, but that is not an excuse to let them go on their way. So there has to be some sanctions, done through a fair, just and objective process. Happy Easter.
@deebomb (15322)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Hello misc. No I don't feel for them. I am sorry that they had a difficult childhood but so do a lot of people. And they don't become criminals. Some criminals have the best childhood and do become criminals. Just because a person has difficulties to over come doesn't mean they have to become criminals. Every one can see the difference of wrong from right. It is choices that we all make every day regardless of our childhood. Using their childhood is just in my opinion is a very poor excuse for breaking the law.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
23 Apr 11
Hi misc11, Yes I do feel for criminals with troubled childhoods. Our criminal justice system leaves a lot to be desired. Do not judge others until you have walked a mile in their shoes is a good way of looking at this. Blessings.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Good question. I agree with a lot of what you said. I too feel compassion for what some criminals have had to go through in their lives. Then too I see stories of others who had it just as bad and they went the opposite direction. I do wonder what makes the difference. There have been studies on which is more influential, heredity or environment. I think they are still trying to figure it out.
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
I think that a troubled childhood has a real effect on how a child would grow up. If the child grew up in situations such as murder, drunkenness, theft, he or she would be more at risk of becoming a criminal themselves. That's why it is important to give hope always to children who need it. Poverty in morality and financially is not an excuse to become less than their potential. Criminals are just a result of countless people that said neigh to them on the past. I really feel for them, however I really think that they could also have used their experience more positively by using it as their will to move on and do something great in their life. Most people who are really great had the passion to change their lives. I believe that all of us can do this.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
23 Apr 11
I think that while people may have had a bad childhood, they still made their own choices in life. If they chose to hang out with "the wrong crowd" so they learned to be criminals, then they would have to live with the consequences. If they didn't have proper guidance, then they could possibly be rehabilitated if they were caught early enough but I would still lock them up while that is happening. If they are in juvenile hall, they can be given lessons on how to be good. If they have reached adulthood and never got the chance to learn to be good people, then they should be in prison even if "they were never given a chance" earlier in life. It might not straighten them out, but it might protect potential victims.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
23 Apr 11
I think that can be used as an excuse for people for being criminals but then again I think that is a lame excuse! There are lot of people in this world with crappy childhood's and ended up coming out great! Then there are criminals who had a great childhood but for whatever reason became criminals! It can go both ways! I never feel sorry for criminals! They did it to themselves!