running late and lying about where you are...

@chiyosan (29388)
Philippines
April 25, 2011 8:37am CST
Whenever you are meeting with your friends or family and you are running late, do you tell them that you are near already even if you are not really that close to the meeting place. I mean we often find ourselves doing this right just so the people we are meeting won't be too angry to know we are running too late.
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@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
I know it's bad and it's also lying to that person. But rather than have that person get mad at me for being so late, I would just have to lie. It doesn't work sometimes though since most of my friends also do the same alibi..lol!
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
hihi sometimes its okay to tell them where and how you were caught up in traffic just so to manage them but i think its quite hard to always let people expect you are near the meeting place and not show up even after 45 minutes, that is just so bad. regards and thank you for your response to the discussion. appreciate it, see you around!
@natnickeep (2340)
• United States
25 Apr 11
I think everyone does this from time to time. Just to make the other persons wait seem less longer. There are different kinds of lying and I don't think that this is that bad. It's hard to not lie and say you are closer when the other person is putting pressure on you. you feel you need to re-leave the tension some how.
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
hehe hmm yeah actually i can say that i have sometimes too, but not all the time and towards the same person!! i mean that is already a bad habit. :D regards and thank you for your response to the discussion. appreciate it, see you around!
@casualkT (141)
• Canada
25 Apr 11
I would say "sorry but I will be late" if they ask me where I cannot lie but I may say I am coming and avoid being asked again if that is lying , I don't know I usually forget about telling them unless they ask me
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
hehe but that is good of you to say the truth about where you are and you are at least setting up an expectation. :D regards and thank you for your response to the discussion. appreciate it, see you around!
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
hey there.. well i myself is guilty of doing that sometimes.. but the truth is, as much as possible i try to avoid doing so.. you see, lying to someone wont make them feel better since you are already running late.. and of course in the long run, your concience will be bothering you for that one since you lied.. am i right? as much as possible we should at least try and tell them the truth of whats happening or howcome we are running late.. and if they are your true friend they will be able to find it in themselves to forgive you.. anyway its not a grave sin if you will be running late anyway.. just some things to ponder.. but im not saying that i nvr did lie to someone.. .. but the moral here is the truth will always set you free.. ..A man's strength is not measured by the size of his fist.. but the size of his heart.. take care.. - hush
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
oh yeah i know someone who is always doing this, and believe me i have always timed him and i ended up concluding that whenever he says he is already out of the house and is about 15 mins near our meeting place i know he is lying and would come about 45 minutes later.
@naija4real (1293)
25 Apr 11
I do tell them just to douse or reduce pressure or stress. Sometimes it is very hard to tell the truth because not all truth will help a situation. So I do tell my friends,family member and boss at my office some little lies just to save a bad situation. I am the type that do not like people to shout on me. So a clean lies like this will just sail me through. I do not think there is anything bad about cooling a pressured moment with some good sweet lies.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
oh well i think that is fair enough t manage their expectation and not say you are about 5 minutes near the area and they end up waiting for 30 minutes. :D at least that can be a good reason to be understood when you are in a bad situation hehe
25 Apr 11
I know it is not right but actually I always do that just to calm them and ease their exasperation but I am trying my best to be honest because either way they will still be mad.
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
haha ohyeah people always say they are already at this place so you will think they are near already.. oh such lies.. but i'd say i am guilty of them myself at times. =)
@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
i think most of the people use that phrase that they are already near or they are going when in fact they are still a mile away from the place of meeting. I think that they do this so that other wont be very angry but then the people who are waiting is still angry :) i rarely do this because i am rarely late too. I respect other people's time.
• Philippines
1 May 11
i believe about the phrase. most people use this phrase because they are mostly afraid that other person might get annoyed because of waiting long enough... but if you know you have appointment with the other person on a certain time make sure you're ready... no latecomer and no lies...=)
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
that's true we get this a lot right? and i am sure we do have different people we know but are saying or using the same excuses. hehe :D
@dhysanne (451)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
Yes, I do this most of the times to make sure that they will wait for me.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
regards and thank you for your response to the discussion. appreciate it, see you around!
@sashakiddo (1104)
• United States
25 Apr 11
This is a good way of stalling people, because they can't really get angry if you say you are one minute away as opposed to 15 minutes away. If you say you are a minute away, chances are they will wait at least five minutes. Then you can call them and say, there was an accident on the freeway so I'll be there in just two more minutes. Then they'll wait a bit longer, at least another five minutes. Then you call and say, I have to get some gas, so I'll be just 2 more minutes, but in reality you are just stalling to get another 5 minutes. So by lying you get 15 minutes without them giving up on you, leaving without you, or starting a movie without you..
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
yeah actually i get this all the time from someone until i do not believe him / her anymore because its just always like that, same reasons, nothing to expect anymore. hehe regards and thank you for your response to the discussion. appreciate it, see you around!
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
25 Apr 11
Hi. chiyosan. No. I don't really do this because if I did, when they don't see me show up in the time frame that I have told them that I would, they would know that I was lying then. My husband has a tendency to do something like this every now and then. He would tell me that he is going to be here at me in ten minutes. But his ten minutes turns into thirty minutes or so. Without him realizing it, he has told me a fib that he did not intend to do. Many people do things like this because they want to buy themselves some time so that they can do what they have to do.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
oh actually that is the truth, people would know and remember but rarely would they bring it up when you have showed up already... or at least with me when i see a friend who is late coming, i tend to forget already that she was late... especially when we start chatting up.. hehe regards and thank you for your response to the discussion. appreciate it, see you around!
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
25 Apr 11
Honestly I will tell them the truth where I am on that time. If I am still at home I will tell them that I am at home and if I am on my way to get there I will tell that to them. They will know exactly where I am. I hate people who always lying about where they are. The person who wait for you can tell whether you are on your way to get there or not basically depends on the time taken to get there. So we don't have to lie to them about it.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
oh that is wonderful that you always tell the truth. that's great and that is one thing i really do not get about people who always lets other people wait for them... regards and thank you for your response to the discussion. appreciate it, see you around!
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
25 Apr 11
I dont do this. I actually work very hard to get where I am supposed to be on time. I will even tell my family an earlier time to get ready just so they are on time getting ready to get out the door so we are all on time. This is mainly for holiday's but when it comes to meeting up for casual things I am usually the one that is on time and the others arent. You kinda learn the ones that will be late and so I adjust accordingly. I dont get mad tho. Thats really not a good reason to get upset unless its a wedding or doc appointment.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
that is true. i mean there are just those person who are really punctual and i or lets give it up to them for being so. :D regards and thank you for your response to the discussion. appreciate it, see you around!
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
Personally, I have to agree with you. This is my usual reason to my friends whenever we go out. I am always the late comer. And since our meeting place is either at school or somewhere near it, and my dormitory is also near the school, I could wake up late or any time I want. That is why I love living near the school. Even if our meeting place might be outside the school or a further venue, I would be always the lat comer.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
hehe oh lucky you that you are just near the place but then sometimes do try to spare your friends the time spent waiting for you! haha :D you'll never know when you become the topic because you are always late. :D haha