My girlfriend is planning to work away and she is leaving.

@Danzylop (1119)
Philippines
April 26, 2011 11:04am CST
Guys I really need to know your advices. I really badly need it. My girlfriend is planning to work to a very far place. I dont want her to go away from me cause it is really to go into that place. If ever I want to see her when she start to work there, I'll be riding on a bus for one day. That is how far that place would be. It is really really hard. I do not want to be so selfish. It is better opportunity for her but our relationship would surely suffer. i love her so much now but I wwant to let her go with her plans in life. I want to her more advices and encouragement. Please help me buld my sanity. It really makes me crazy. it as hard to know that, soon, very soon, shell be leaving.
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@MsTickle (24991)
• Australia
1 May 11
You will just have to work extra hard and save up and buy a car...then it will not take you so long to travel to see her.
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• Philippines
26 Apr 11
Hello Danzylop, Relationships is about sharing of Lives and showing love to each other. If she made a choice to work there and it's her career and hope, i think you should let her. chances are change might happen if you don't do something making time for each other. I think that's alright better than working abroad. if you two really love each other, then you must be innovative in terms of communication through the phone and internetyou can send cards through mail even though it's old fashioned. i think you need to rationalize what can benefit her in that work. you know the unemployment in the country is large and it's hard to look for work.
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
27 Apr 11
Hi,i can understand your feelings. It is a good chance for her career but it means she must go to a far away place. It is a big challenge for two person in love. But as you know, throughout our life we must face lots of challenges. If she lose this opportunity, it will be a big regret for her. If she goes, you must suffer the pain of missing each other. But everything has two sides, you should try to see the good points. If your love is strong, distance will mean nothing. There are so many ways to contact with each other, even seeing each other. You can be together at the weekends. Actually, the distance may become a katalyst for your love. And with she get well on her job, she will have good mood, then you will be much happy when be together.Let her go, because now having a job, especially having a good job is not easy.
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
I guess you don't love her. You know true love is letting go of your love one. Let her enjoy her life if that's her choice you don't have to disagree on it instead give your best support. True love comes with a great sacrifice. If you are meant to be together then the love will never fade away. Distance can never be a hindrance of love. Your being selfish now though you claim you are not but you really do. You were just thinking about yourself c'mon don't be like that. Let her soar high.
@jepoy11 (56)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Danzylop... please do not let her go. almost 90% of the friends and relatives I know that has a long distance relationship end up with tears and break ups. have you heard the song of Leanne Rhymes " life's goes on"? it said that ... "Oh, life's goes on, and its only gonna makes me strong. Its a fact, once you get on board say good-bye cause you cant go back". it also happens particularly to my brother. her wife left to work for a shipping crew in malaysia. after a few months, problems starts to make things complicated for both of them due to misinterpretations and lack of quality time or communication. what I can suggest you to do is to be always be together no matter what happens. I know everything is possible when you help each other together. physical and emotional affection really makes a good relationship last. =)
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
27 Apr 11
If you two were meant to be no amount of distance will matter. If this is something that will benefit her and maybe both of you in the future you can't hold her back. Why can't you move with her?
• United States
26 Apr 11
all i can tell you is it is hard to have a long distance relationship. My boyfriend lives over 1200 miles away. I hardly ever get to see him and spend time with him. But it's worth it because i love him. I really miss him all the time though. I'm sorry your girlfriend is moving away.
@misc11 (384)
• United States
26 Apr 11
That is a very hard situation, but I think everything works out how it is supposed to. If you two are meant to be together, it will work out. I think you should help her with her move if it is a good opportunity for her. If you hold her back, she will hold it against you, and you want her to be the best she can be, and then you two will be the best you two can be together. I think you two should make a commitment to see each other x amount of times a month or once a month or once every couple of months, whatever works for you all and stick to it. Technology definitely helps out long distance relationships stay together....you have the internet to stay in contact with her, and you even have skype so you can see her. Make sure you have both downloaded that and have the necessary equipment for video so you can skype right away. If she has the opportunity, have you looked into you going with her? If that is possible, maybe you should talk to her about that, and then you two could stay together. In my experience, long distance is a good thing. It either makes or breaks a relationship. If the relationship it meant to be, it makes it and you learn to appreciate the person more and see things you didn't before. It strengthens the relationship. If it is not meant to be, it does break it but if this happens, it would have happened sometime whether she had left or not. You can only benefit from her taking this opportunity. I wish the best for both of you and hope it works out how you want it to :)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Awwh my friend this is hard to deal with but on the other hand you do want her to do well. The only way around it is to let her go and continue as hard as you both can to continue the communication and try to meet up as often as possible. With time, if all goes well, perhaps you could move closer and or maybe she will decide this job is not for her. In the meantime my friend as hard as it is when we love someone we must let them go, not doing so will grow regrets between the two of you. Letting go does not mean breaking up. Try and continue strengthing the relationship as much as you can and allow life to bring you two back together again.
• India
26 Apr 11
Well Relationship is always a sacrifice to be done within ourselves. You should understand something keenly that your girlfriend is going to work. Love doesnt mean to stay together to complete successful years with one another. It is all about sacrifice and understanding with one another. I think you should let go your girlfriend for her work you guys can stick on phone or internet with this your relationship will be very healthy.