talking after break-up

Romania
April 26, 2011 3:23pm CST
would you still be able to keep in touch with your partner after your relationship ended? for example talking on the phone "like friends" or do you think it's better to stop any kind of connection
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• United States
26 Apr 11
I was hoping this would e the case when or if we broke up. But he beat on me so there is nothing he can ever say to me again in life. He did not even call to say sorry to me..
@devijay78 (1575)
• India
26 Apr 11
Oh that is terrible giftsandbagscom. I know how it is to be in a violent relationship. It is better if the break is clean and there is no contact after that. Hope you are okay now.
@sashakiddo (1104)
• United States
26 Apr 11
It depends on the type of relationship. With one guy I was really friendly with him from the beginning so it was easy to talk to him even after we broke up. With another, I was never able to communicate well even when we were going out, so things completely ended after we broke up. I think it depends on just how much intimacy, friendship, and loyalty there was. If a person was just physically attractive, it would be hard to keep conversation just as friends. But if you were just loyal, there would be more desire to communicate long term but the sense of commitment is gone. If you were compatible as friends, that is the major reason a couple would keep up the communication even after a breakup.
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Never tried to communicate with my ex boyfriends even on phone. It is hard especially if you are already into a new relatoinship, for sure your current boyfriend will feel jealous or uncomfortable if you do that. I think it's better to have no connection at all after you broke up, that way, it's easier also to forget each other.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Apr 11
When a relationship end tht does not mean that the friendcship has also ended. Being able to keep communication open with an ex leaves an opening for a different kind of relationship to take over.
@devijay78 (1575)
• India
26 Apr 11
I personally do not think it wise to continue communicating with that person after you have ended a relationship because the past feelings might come and intrude once in a while. All said and done, it is not easy being friends with your ex. So even if the break-up was mutual with no hard feelings on both the sides, it would be better not to communicate with each other as each of you has moved on. Moreover, will it not be like cheating on your current relationship if you keep getting thoughts of your ex?
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
The truth is my girlfriend for two years just broke up with me two days ago. She fell out of love for me and had mixed feeling for her first boyfriend. The broke up was relatively calm. No one was angry, no one walked out. I asked her to stay with me but she rejected me. She kept crying so I said that we we would still be friends. I would come by again if you invite me and all that. Right now, she text me how am I and I reply to her in a friendly manner. I think it depends on you. If you talked in a mature manner during the break up it helps. It is also important to take note on how much close you were before and how practical your relationship was. The only downside is that you won't be as close as before. And I assure you, trying to talk to a past lover like nothing has happened is harder than it seems. Best of luck to you.
• United States
26 Apr 11
Because my break ups with people I cared about were not good I would say for me it was best not to keep in touch at all. I have acquaintances who do keep in touch after but I have noticed that the keeping in touch for the female acquaintances of mine always resulted in heart aches. It can only work in my opinion if he two agree and understand they will remain only platonic friends which in some cases it is hard because the heart was involved.
• Latvia
26 Apr 11
I would be sill able and i am still able to connect whit my girlfriend even our relationship is ended i know that she is good person that understands me and can give me some good advice in future for me. Even our relationship is ended whit her. Just think what would you lose or gain if you will connect whit your partner even you are not together as couple you can be fiends or even best friends.