Why Don't They Plan for the First Spouse to Be the 'Parenting-Partner' Instead?
@mythociate (21437)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
April 26, 2011 4:10pm CST
You know, 'the first girl to have the kids with, the second one to grow old with'? Then life would work out just like Walk the Line (Joaquin Phoenix as Johnny Cash, who first marries Vivian--played by Ginnifer Goodwin--and then marries June Carter--played by Reese Witherspoon).
That 'two-marriage plan' (once for kids, the SECOND time for love) is the ultimate 'declaration of (highly-dependent) independence'---using the first marriage to satisfy your body's RAGE, and then using the second one to satisfy your ambition!
What do you think? Good plan? Why or why-not?
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@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Your plan sounds great if you don't mind constant back-biting, sniping and custody battles. For the parents this might sound like a terrific plan, but what about the kids? They'll have to be shuttled off from parent to parent, meanwhile they'll deal with step-parents who may or may not like them and be absorbed into mixed families. While this happens every day, it's not something people strive for. Also, this seems like a more male-centric plan. Females would be left out in the cold either being the mothers of children with absentee fathers or the "soul mate" of men who just needed to vent their bodies' RAGE and abandon the consequences.
@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Well, if that's the case, I guess my entire statement isn't quite divine. 
I'll step out of the kitchen, put on a pair of shoes and make my way through the world, thank you very much. 
I'll step out of the kitchen, put on a pair of shoes and make my way through the world, thank you very much. 1 person likes this
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
29 Apr 11
An excellent 'second wife' you'll be! 
(See, now wouldn't you rather be a 'first wife' (not to be confused with "First Lady")?)
(See, now wouldn't you rather be a 'first wife' (not to be confused with "First Lady")?)1 person likes this
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
28 Apr 11
For such work was woman made! (I'm sure a lot of the ladies here won't like that, but ... uh ... it says so in the Bible? 
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@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
30 Apr 11
This isn't such a new concept. In many cultures, it was normal for both spouses to take lovers. (In other cultures, women weren't really allowed, but it was normal for men.)
The reason was, you picked a spouse for political reasons; to join families, raise your status in the world, and provide good genes for your children. You wanted a good provider/household manager, and love was the LAST thing on your mind. People realized that lust/love often didn't last, and preferred stable friendships. Then when you felt that stab of lust, you just took lovers on the side.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
17 May 11
"If you wanna be Happy for the rest of your Life,
don't make a Pretty woman your Wife."
... because Then you throw-away 'the thrill of the hunt' forever. Marry an ugly girl, and then it becomes even-more exciting; not only do you have to 'bag the babe,' but you have to do it without your 'roommate' knowing about it! 
... because Then you throw-away 'the thrill of the hunt' forever. Marry an ugly girl, and then it becomes even-more exciting; not only do you have to 'bag the babe,' but you have to do it without your 'roommate' knowing about it! 
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
It sounds like a great plan provided the women are all in agreement. I see that your swimmers will not care so go out and find all the lucky ladies you can to fulfill the happy fellows.
But just makes sure that you are honest with each one from the get go and life then becomes peachy. lol
Because I am not the sharing type I can only say that my partner has me for life or nada.. fair right, at least I am up front and honest. lol
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
26 Apr 11
That gives me an idea: we unlucky fellows (who have not yet found unlucky ladies to make us lucky to make them lucky and happy the rest of our days) have to be gigolos impregnating the lucky women who have already found unlucky fellows to make lucky the rest of their days.
Unless my genes are just 'not good enough' (a very Aryan/Nazi idea, that. I know and you know that the genes are just as 'bad' as how lazy you are with them 
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@Christinelle (396)
• Greece
26 Apr 11
This scenario only works if someone wants to be a parent, hasn't found the right partner yet and the years have gone by a little bit. They'd probably settle and have children with someone they didn't really want as a partner, then break up and pursue love.
In any other cases I think it's not a quite recommended decision.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
26 Apr 11
Well, that might be what I want. Granted, the 'mother of my children' would be my first consideration to be my 'wife'; but my 'little swimmers' don't care!
