Have you ever been followed by a stranger before?

United States
April 26, 2011 4:16pm CST
I was at the store today and was just browsing through the art supply section. I looked up and this guy walked by and made eye contact with me and held it for a sec. Nothing too strange at that point. I went to customer service to pay for something and left the store, going around the long way for some reason. While walking around the side I saw the same guy coming out sort of scanning the lot, but I still didn't think much of it at that point. then while walking around the back of the store (which connects to a small park near the townhome complex I live in behind the store) he drove by in his vehicle and was looking at me and waved. I've never met him before but I waved back anyways, a little wary but trying not to think much of it. Then I walked through the park and around a few corners and was walking down a small street INSIDE of the complex and he drove by AGAIN and was eyeing me down in a weird way. Don't get me wrong, I'm not overly paranoid usually but I got a weird vibe from it all so I circled around a few times and made sure that he wasn't going around again before heading home (so he wouldn't see exactly where I live). Have I been watching too much criminal minds to the point of paranoia or do the rest of you women out there agree that that is kind of weird? All I know is that I'll recognize the guy AND the vehicle he was driving if I ever see him again....but I'm still kind of weirded out by it.
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6 responses
• United States
26 Apr 11
I don't blame you one bit for being cautious. If he wanted to say something he could have greeted you right away and or maybe he was a shy type and did not dare. At any rate you do have to be cautious because we simply don't know if someone has an agenda these days. I once was in a store when I too noticed someone who made eye contact and did not say anything to me other then the fact that I purposely went from aisle after aisle and there heas right behind me. I circled the store several times and he did not appear to be shopping or browsing and as soon as I headed for the door so did he. So I asked an employee to walk me to my car and as soon as the guy saw me with the employee he went back inside the store. I have no idea what his plan or intention was but am glad that I thought enough not walk outside on my own. We just can't take any chances sometimes so am glad you take some caution here too.
• United States
28 Apr 11
Maybe he was one of those secret shoppers, where they pretend they are buying things but they're really looking for shoplifters! haha, more likely that he was actually just a creep. Nice thinking on getting the store clerk to escort you to your car though.
26 Apr 11
this sounds rather strange and i think you definaly did the right thing by driving round a few times before going home its always better o be safe than sorry as the saying goes about a year ago i was on a night out with my girlfriends and a much older man started following and he tried several time to say hello and i responded by telling him i wasnt interested and walking away. on the walk home from the club i had a very strange feeling that sum1 was following me and everytime i turned around this man was behind me (several metres behind) i dint recognise him from the area and i know for definate he didnt live on my street so i decided i shpuld go to a friends for a hour till i knew he wouldnt be there. when i decided to walk home again he appeared again so i quickly ran home and locked all the doors and checked all the windows i was rather scared but also abit drunk so i decided just to forget about it and go to sleep. the next day however i had a delivery of flowers from this man calling him self 'the guy from last night' asking me to meet him at the local pub obviously i was very scared at this point and so i called the police and left them to deal with the man luckily since i have had no further storking experiences this was enough to last my life time it still gives me the creeps when i think about it now
• United States
28 Apr 11
I was walking actually, I wasn't driving... but yeah, i definitely did NOT want him knowing where I live. That is really creepy! I can't believe that guy could possibly think for a second that a woman would find that attractive or even remotely sane. Did the police ever get a hold of him?
• Canada
26 Apr 11
Sounds to me like this guy is looking to get you for one reason or another. I'd hate to think that he's watching your home, checking to see if you are alone or not. Being a single woman, you are more vulnerable to becoming a victim of crime. Your guard is down as you don't think anything will happen to you, but when you least expect it, he does something. Just last week, a college student was murdered, the crime was captured on a webcam as she was talking to a friend of hers online when the guy broke in and killed her. He stole the webcam and her laptop, but the description given was enough to catch him and he was charged with murder. This girl was pretty new to the country, her parents aren't even here, and as soon as they were notified, they came here from overseas. This guy knew that she lived alone, and that she didn't know anyone here. You have to be very careful out there.
• United States
28 Apr 11
It's true and it's a bit scary to think how easy it is for people to figure out that kind of information about you!
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Be very careful walking by yourself. you have ever right to be paranoid and I think that you need to be cautious as it does seem like this guy was watching you and trying to possibly see where you live or something. I would tell others who live near me just in case they see him.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
That is really something that would terrify me a lot. I am glad though that I have never had that experience at all. However, I know of a friend who had that experience. She was on her way at home then she noticed that a crazy man started following her fast. Terrified at this and nobody else to go she quickly went inside the internet cafe and called her cousin to pick her up because the man wouldn't leave the spot. Whew! I think I would do the same if I were her. However, it would be tough if I didn't know anyone in the area. Anyhow if all else fails, I guess it's better to call a cop or someone to assist you instead of taking things into your own hands.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Hi. Linzeyloo85. Welcome to myLot! I first want to say that I am glad that you are safe! This guy is very strange. You did the right thing by circling around a few times before heading into your direction to your home. He definitely was watching you and I think that you should be very alert of your surroundings too. I watch CSI, NCIS, Law And Order and Criminal Minds almost everyday. I can understand your fear. You are not being paranoid at all. If he is watching you this much, chances are, he is following you and he is waiting for the right opportunity to come to you. I would stay alert at all times. If you see him again, you should contact the police as soon as possible. Try not to go no where alone when it is dark. And try to stay in an opened crowd. Don't walk or drive in areas that are shallow and desolate. Keep your cell phone on so that you can dial 9-1-1. I don't like being watched intensely or followed by a male. I hope that he does not know where you live by chance. I know that you have dodged him, but I just hope that this creep is gone out of your life for good. Who knows how many innocent women or males that he may have picked up in his car. Just stay safe and I will pray that God will send his angels to watch over you and your every move, even when you are asleep. Don't worry yourself about it. I also think that you should talk to someone about this, so that they can be made aware of what is going on. If you feel like you should go to the police with this information, then please do so. Stay safe and take care!