What is Wrong with him?

United States
April 27, 2011 10:44am CST
I don't understand my husband and he stresses so easy!! He told me to stay home from my job until we got another car and I thought I was going back today but no I called and told my boss I would be there sometime this week but it is almost Friday!The Kitchen sink is leaking and the washing machine just all the sudden stopped, and it is full of water that one he doesn't know it is full of water but he knows it is broke so this morning he was yelling and told me to go outside and turn off the water but if I did that I would not be able to use the restroom if I needed it so I told him I can wait until he got home and he asked me what did you do? I said I tried to fix it myself and he said there is too much water leaking I told him I can wait until you get home and then he told me well yelled if you don't know what you are doing don't try to fix things! I did not want to ask him because this is how he gets and I have high blood pressure and I don't want to have a heart attack over stupid small things like this! These are things that can be fixed and really don't bother me I just tried the best I could but could not find the problem,and I laugh them off while trying to fix them, then he got mad because I called my mom and asked her he said why you called your mom? It was wrong then she thinks I don't know how to do anything, well this was her house and it happened before that is why I called her but it is just his attitude every morning like this! I don't know how much more I can take!! What would you do?
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• United States
27 Apr 11
Personally because of the love for one another I would say something. I know you probably have said a great deal and it is not working. Somehow I would try and really have a heart to heart and ask him, if he was fed up and tired with me to the point that perhaps we do not need to be together. I am not advocating a separation; simply saying something needs to be said/done to change things. I have found that when I have had issues I would say can we discuss "my" problem. See if we say you have a problem that will start defensive arguement. If he thought he had a problem he would recognize it. So I would ask how can we fix "my" problem. I would say I don't know what to do to fix "my" problem and always take a few deep breaths as he speaks and allow your mind to be open to discuss on how both of you can repair the tension. I know you love him very much so try sweetie to really have a heart to heart talk with him and see how the both of you can mend some of the tensions. They will not go away on their own. Instead they get worse. Plan a day, where you both can have a nice dinner at home alone with no bills, car issues and or work issues to discuss and try and discuss the you and he. Do not be afraid to tear and let him know how you feel. Always wishing you the best, because coming here to discuss tells me you really care for him and want things differently.
• United States
27 Apr 11
Thank you so much!! Yes I need to talk to him but every time I try someone calls him or his friends show up or he falls asleep snoring, but I will get to him soon!! I feel like telling him that if you are not happy with me Why are you here? But he asked me the other day 'do you think you can spend 10 more years with me? I answered him "I Love you and yes" And then I asked him what about me? He smiled and said yes. Thanks again for your support!
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@johnpillai (2083)
• Germany
27 Apr 11
This happens in my house also. Whenever anythig is to be repaired My hubby needs me to be as a servent. I must behave like a 10years old boy. he tell me some works like bring me that, this, hold this, etc etc. I must make make atleast two cup of tea for him. He continue shouting during the work. So if there is any problem I silently hid it and try to do it when I am alone. No shouting; no servant, no tea making duty. One problem I don't have much strength like him.
• Germany
27 Apr 11
But when he comes to know that I have finished the work he says this and that. That is men's nature.
• United States
27 Apr 11
My husband is defenitely not a morning person at all!! I do the same make coffee all the time cook clean go to the store, I just would rather not be around him in the morning at all!! Well good luck with yours too.
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
24 Jul 11
Personally I think most people can Honestly say that they have been there done that when it seems like it continues to rain and everything continues to go wrong. It could be a Big strain just because you are not able to go to work and earn $$ like you want even though he is advising you different. Many times just because of feeling stressed because of all these issues can lead to feeling depressed and over whelmed as well. If you believe in God and Prayer pray always and believe God for something greater in the end.
• United States
24 Jul 11
So true and I have been praying for this kind of crap to end!! I don't want to be rich I just want to not have to worry anymore it seems like all I do is worry from day to day how we are going to make it through the next week or 2 weeks and I am going to pray every night and day! Thank you so much and have a blessed day.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Sorry to hear you are having such a rough time. I would be upset every day if my husband yelled at me like this. I would've called my parents also if my husband was at work and I couldn't fix it. They would come over and help. Both are retired now. I just tell my husband when he got home. Maybe your husband should go to the doctor. Something could be bother him. I don't know. Just a suggestion. Hope you get a car soon. I would imagine locked up at home all day is getting old. Best Wishes!
• United States
28 Apr 11
My parents are retired to and had to go to take care of my grandmother but I did call them because they lived in this house for a long time and knew what to do and my dad told me what to get and he fixed it finally!! Yes being at home all this week is getting old sometimes but I am enjoying being here I don't know what I would do if it was not for My Lot?
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
28 Apr 11
Ah, men! My husband get annoyed at things like that too and in his case I think he hates to have anyone think the is not handy around the house although there are times he just does not know what to do! I get mixed messages from him all the time. He tells me that he likes me to stay home with our daughter and at the same time looks for jobs in the paper for me; the other day he yelled at me for spending two dollars on a scratch and win ticket! He gets very grumpy very quickly although he snaps out of it just as quickly leaving our daughter and I confused…I have talked to him about his moodiness numerous times and that is all I can do I guess…I hope I never get to the point when it becomes unbearable. Your husband may need a break from everyday life...Is there any way you could take a weekend away and talk over your issues?
• United States
28 Apr 11
That is awful being yelled at for a lottery ticket? What if you would have won big? L.O.L. I beyt he would have said I'm sorry then? L.O.L. He is a home body he does not like to go anywhere! I have tried that and nothing.
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