Hubby has been diagnosed with Hodgkin's lymphoma

@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
April 27, 2011 8:31pm CST
I can't remember if I told you all last week that my husband had to have a lymphectomy because he had three swollen lymph nodes on his neck and under his arm. Well, we got the results last Tuesday that he had lymphoma. Today we had our first visit to the oncologist, which took all day. As of right now we don't know what stage his cancer is at, but the visit today but us at ease because of the fact that this is a highly treatable cancer and the doctor seems confident that we caught it early. Treatment is expected to start the week after next, and his doctor hopes to shrink the lymphoma by half in the next few weeks. I'm still scared about all of this, but I also believe in my heart that everything will work out well. To make this a discussion, have you had someone that you are close to that has had cancer? If you have, did the idea of chemotherapy and radiation scare you? If you ever had cancer, how would you feel?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
I am sorry to hear about your husband's cancer. My father was diagnosed with prostate cancer 7 years ago when he was 71 yrs. old. The doctor said he have at least 5 more years to live. He was given medicines he takes religiously. In addition, he was treated by an alternative doctor that costs him a lot of money, but it really helps him a lot. It has an everyday detoxification procedure, enemas of two kinds and some medicines said to be probiotics. But that didn't take long because my father stopped coordinating with that doctor, who turned out , he overcharged my father for those alternative medicines. He just continue some , specially the detoxification. At least , until now he is still alive, sharp minded and still very much mobile. I wish your husband good luck in his treatment. Modern science now could really fight off those cancers. And i know God will help him as he go through it. Just be strong !
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Apr 11
You are right that modern medicine has come a long way with treating cancer. This time many years ago I had a friend that had leukemia and she eventually lost her battle with cancer during our freshman year of college. But today, there is a lot more effective treatment for cancer patients than there was then. In that sense, I consider my husband to be lucky.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
That's the spirit! Your husband needs that from you. Keep it up!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 May 11
I'm certainly trying to. He and I are two parts that make a whole, so the battle that he is going through is the battle that I'm going through and for that reason I know I've got to be strong.
@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Apr 11
Oh gosh, dorannmwin, sorry to hear that about your hubby! Sending healthy vibes out your/his way!! I know several people/friends who were diagnosed with cancer. One of my cousins was diagnosed with testicular cancer in his very early adulthood - but he didn't want to tell anyone so he left it alone for 2 years - can you believe that? He must have been in serious denial or something. Ultimately he had to have some "things" removed - he went through chemo and all that - I know it was draining for him. My ex-boss and his wife both passed away in the past year from cancer . . . my boss had pancreatic cancer which never has a good outcome and I'm still not clear what kind of cancer his wife had. It just scares me because in my last years at work, it was just us 3 - me, boss, and his wife - and 2 of them are gone . . . which makes me think in the back of my mind that we were all exposed to the same things, so I have to wonder - very scary. If I actually had it, of course I would be scared - but I'd probably think about it long and hard and try to be productive about it . . . I'd need to for the sake of my family.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Especially being that both you and I have young children, there really wouldn't be any other choice that could be made if we were diagnosed with cancer. Both of us would have to be proactive about it for the sake of our children.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
i am very sorry to hear about this, dear. i have known lots of people (not really close to me though) who had had cancer. each time i see them going home coming from a chemotherapy session, it truly scares me. the effect of the process is not always good. many times i wonder what if i have the C, what will i do? i dont think i will be spending too much on medication when i know i will die soon. but if it is on it is early stage, then i will do everything to have me treated.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Apr 11
I tend to think that I would be the same way. This particular cancer has a very good cure rate, meaning that the majority of patients are cured from the cancer. However, if I was to have something with a lower cure rate I don't know if I would undergo treatment or not, especially once I get older than I am right now.
@whateva (786)
• India
28 Apr 11
I'm glad your husband got it checked in the early stage and if the doctor seems confident, i believe he'll be just fine. Keep up your sincere efforts to make things better and chemotherapy, for what i know is pretty strong and to be your husbands support you have to make him feel better about this somehow, specially, by not being scared at his face. Be confident in front of him, like the doctor. I've heard, how you feel about yourself helps healing the disease and vice-versa.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Apr 11
I do believe that you are right. There is a lot of power in positive thinking and there is power in prayer as well. Right now I've got both and I've got friends of mine from all over the world praying for our family as well.
@libramie (562)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
Diagnosed early doran was good enough coz as they said 'early detection is easy to cure'. Be optimistic always and accompanied with prayers it cured successfully. My sister-in-law suffer also a lymphoma but it caught late,in a terminal stage already so she stayed and suffered only for 2mos and passed away.
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• Philippines
28 Apr 11
My dad had cancer of the throat and passed away about 2 years ago. I know it's scary, I was scared at first but then when you love someone you will have to be strong for that person because you have to be there for him. I'm mighty glad you caught it early and being optimistic I guess that your husband has a better chance of having it treated. Dad went through radiation therapy and it killed the cancer cells I mean it shrunk the big mass on his throat but it wasn't the cancer that killed my dad. I guess he was old and other body organs were not functioning well anymore. His kidneys gave away and so did his heart. My dad was 87 when he passed away and I think your husband is way more younger than my dad. There is something that cancer can't kill, it can't kill the strength of the human spirit and it cannot kill love.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Oh yes, my husband is about 52 years younger than your father was when he passed away. I also think that we were able to catch it fairly early because of the fact that he knew and knows that there has been something wrong with his body, it was just a matter of finding a doctor that would listen to him and point him in the right direction.
• United States
28 Apr 11
My inlaws both were diagnosed with cancer under 6months of each other in '08. They have both gone thru chemo and radiation and MIL went thru surgery as well with hers. The whole idea scares me to bits about my husband and my kids getting a form of it. In particular my hubby who is a smoker and only goes to the Dr when he's quite ill ie no regular physical. Keep us posted on his diagnosis and feel free to vent as there is always someone here to listen.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Apr 11
That is honestly one of the things that I like the most about mylot is the fact that there is always someone that is here to listen. It feels good to be able to talk about the things that are bothering me without burdening my husband with them. If it wasn't for this site the only other person that I would be able to turn to would be my mother.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
2 May 11
These things scare the he11 out of me! Even though as you say that you're husband is a bit 'lucky' as this is a treatable one, I still would rather not have any people I know go through this ordeal. I send out prayers to you and your family. As this is yet another test, and I hope that you pull through this.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 May 11
I too would rather that our family or any of the people that I know would not have to go through this. However, it is something that is beyond our control, so at this point in time I have to take the lemons that we've been handed and make lemonade out of it. Of course, as Pat said in another response, that lemonade could possible used to help treat the cancer.
• United States
28 Apr 11
I am so sorry to hear of your husband's lymphoma, I will be praying for the both of you so that all gets taken care of. My brother in-law was diagnosed with prostate cancer and was told he was in his later stages. Some miracle has take over, along with the surgery and treatments and for the last 9 years he has been cancer free, So lets keep our prayers close so that you husband as told by doctors confidence will be fine. Do take care of you as this has to be really hard for you to deal with.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Apr 11
It is something that is a little bit hard to follow. However, I have to keep things as normal as possible for the sake of our entire family. With that said, I have confidence that things are going to be fine because I've heard positive things from so many people.