some girlfriends are complicated huh?..do you agree?..
April 27, 2011 10:35pm CST
first she's happy..then later on she gets mad at you for an unlogical reason..like you going out at night..not yet home at 9pm..you're doing nothing wrong..just bonding with your friends and chillin' out..she'll respond by texting you coldly..and sometimes even pretending to send you wrong sent messages..making it appear as if she was texting some other guy..LOLz..but anyway, i love her..and i'm patient on her..but i wonder how long i can stand with this if this keeps going on..i already tried everything..i said sorry even though i did nothing wrong..i texted her sweet messages..babied her every minute or so..tsk..
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28 Apr 11
Sounds like she's just got some insecurities. I can't say what you should or should not do but you are allowed to go spend time with your friends. Maybe just reassure her that you love her but you both need to be emotionally independent and stable. Sounds like she's playing games (ie the texts meant for "other guys"....that's ridiculous). Anyways, just be honest with her about how you feel, set some boundaries and see what happens. Good luck.
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29 Apr 11
Hahaha. I can totally relate to her! I laughed when I read your topic. I understand why your girlfriend acts like that, it's because I'm also like that. Well, I think she just demands more attention. I always get mad at my boyfriend without any good reason and I get moody always. You said that you went out at night and not yet home at 9pm just because you're with your friends. She was just jealous of your friends because she wants that time your spending with your friends to spend on her instead. She wants more time for you to be together. Explain to her clearly that you just want to have some time for your friends and a different time for your girlfriend. Learn to balance time between her and them. And also, your girlfriend must understand that. And when she sent wrong sent messages, she's making you jealous. Try to make her feel you also become jealous sometimes. I had a boyfriend before who doesn't get jealous, never at all. That may be a little bit frustrating for us girls. Sometimes being jealous can be cute too. It's good that you love her and don't give up on her! Eventually, she'll understand that she's not the only important person for you. You also have family and friends that are already there even before she came. Try to make her understand that but in a very sweet way so she won't get mad.
29 Apr 11
i've gone through those things with my wife. it's more on the jealousy-priority-type of thing and i opted doing the same things you do, but on the other hand, there are some instances that you really need to open up and rationalize to be yourself. don't worry about arguments or conflicts that would arise as these could be resolved and hopefully make your relationship to have a stronger foundation.
28 Apr 11
Yeah, I agree, even though I am a girl too. I think the reason why she's like that is that you babied her as you said. Or maybe she's an attention grabber, she wants your attention all the time and jealous girl too. I am a jealous and attention grabber too but I let him be with his friends. I just understand that he needs to be with his friends and socialize too. You need to talk with her about her attitude or just stand with it.