First date? do's and donts? first kiss first move

Canada
April 28, 2011 9:29pm CST
I never been out with a shy guy before so this is new to me I heard from a friend he doesnt like to make the first move...should I make the first move is it ok for a woman to make the first move wouldnt I seem crazy and desperate. what do you think?
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@Cherish14 (2696)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
hmmmm i think it's the guy who should make the first move. but as far as i can remember, it was me who made the first move on me and boyfriend's first date hahahaha sometimes when we talk about it it make me feel a little shy hehehe but it's okay, that was 7 years ago. i just tease and tell him that if i didn't kiss him first, maybe we wouldn't be together right now and wouldn't last this long hehehehe and then we just laugh about it
• Canada
29 Apr 11
that is awesome haha I love your response hope everything goes well tomorrow is my date :-)
@Cherish14 (2696)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
good luck and be very careful
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
hey there chica, im one of the shy types as well .. and i can only express myself best in writing or through chat.. and i guess i would rather make a move on you if i really like you rather than letting you do it yourself.. unless i really like you a lot and im shy enough and afraid thinking that you might not like me in return.. sometimes that is a huge factor.. so i guess shy guys sometimes need some hints .. and try to give out some.. if he doesnt go for it you may try and make a move yourself if you really like him.. who knows you'll be a great couple.. hope it works out for you.. as i am in a bit of thinking myself..
• Canada
29 Apr 11
thanx for your response Ill see what happens tomorrow Ill keep you posted thank you :-)
@jaiho2009 (36769)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
That depends on you. If you think you can handle the situation,then why not. But if you think you will end up looking like a cheap...then never do any step to degrade yourself. If you think he is also in love with you ,but too shy to admit,you can show him some actions to make him feel that you like him too. Like talking to him first..that usually starts with a simple "hello" have a great weekend
• Canada
29 Apr 11
thank you so much Ill see what happens on the date is tomorrow :-)
29 Apr 11
you may do check your date..on the first date you can watch him how to move,act towards you. thats why, you can see and feel if the person is a shy guy.at least you can know if you will make the move or not.but how will we know if the guy is shy or merely not into you?...
• Canada
29 Apr 11
well he did ask me out but it took so long for him to do that he is super shy but I really like him so Ill see what happens tomorrow thank you so much for your response :-)
@misc11 (384)
• United States
29 Apr 11
I don't think you should make the first move on the first date if he is shy. He might get intimidated. I think it is more of the guy's job to make the first move, and if you make the first move, it kind of changes the relationship and he might expect you to always make the first move. But if you have a good time with him and go out with him again, I think it would be ok to make the first move. Maybe he will be more comfortable after that and start being the initiator. I hope your date goes well!
• Canada
29 Apr 11
thank you so much for your response Ill see what happens tomorrow hopefully it will be a great night hopefully!! :-)
@shibham (17025)
• India
30 Apr 11
He is shy and you should not move for that cause. Just wait and let him do first because in later life it can be big problem to you. Anyway why with a shy guy? Just curios to know. have a nice day.