Have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

April 29, 2011 2:48pm CST
There's this girl that I've been chatting/talking to everyday for months now and I'm in love with her, she always tells that she's in love with me too though we haven't really met each other in person yet. I really want to be with her but what can I do? she now lives in a very far country.
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@misc11 (384)
• United States
29 Apr 11
I was in a long distance relationship and we were literally on different sides of the world, living in different seasons and on different days. It was hard to communicate because of these differences, but we made it work. If you don't already, download skype and you two can talk via video and it is free. You can make arrangements to talk at certain times every day/week. You can visit one another on holidays and breaks. Just start putting x amount away every week or month and you will have enough. I don't think long distance relationships are as hard as people make them out to be. If you want to be together, you two can make it work and make the sacrifices that are needed. I think this can make relationships stronger because you have to learn to listen to each other and get to know a person better by talking and not seeming them. When you see someone all the time, you don't listen as much and just get used to routine but you two don't have that option. You don't see each other so you have to tell each other what happened and so you listen more and you do get to know each other better which ultimately creates better relationships, so don't let the distance deter you because eventually you guys can find a way to live together and will have a better, more solid relationship because of it.
29 Apr 11
yeah we talk to each other everyday if there's still plenty of time for us, we use the voice call from yahoo messenger and sometimes video call. Thanks for sharing BTW, it really helps a lot..
29 Apr 11
I've been in a long-distance relationship, but it was/is different to yours. In my case, I met the girl here (in person) on holiday but she lived in another country. This changes quite a lot of stuff - most of all, the fact that I'd met her and therefore had a better idea of who she was. The problem with purely online relationships is that they don't always bear any resemblance to how the people really are. Without any personal contact, you can never really know if the other person is who you think they are. You'd be surprised just how easy it is to maintain a false personality - in fact, there's a whole style of scam built around that very possibility (where women (mostly) get close to a guy, ask for money, then disappear). It's definitely worth meeting the person in question, preferably in a neutral place (like taking a holiday at the same time) before making any real decisions. It could be perfect... but it could be a complete nightmare. Be careful. And good luck!
29 Apr 11
We used to live in the same city and we have common friends that's why I got to know her online, my close friends knows her too. Thanks for sharing dude.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
1 May 11
hello, If you really love her you must do every thing for her, and besides you love each other and I think there is time for that or maybe you should set a time to be with each other. If you think your feelings is enough to settle down each other then it might be the time that you make a way to be with her. good luck
@oninomar (506)
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
My girlfriend is working now, and she is working really far from me. But after 3 months she will come back for her work destination near in our place. In your case, it is really hard to fall in love with a person that your are not with personally. It has a big difference in a attitude you show to her as well as the feeling she express to you. Although we say that you and the girl is really in love with each other. But how will you react when the two of you meet? Would it be the same as two of you expressing while chatting everyday? These are only some possibilities that will happen in the near future. For now, you must enjoy what you have and try to ask your self what you really feel with her. Stay Happy!:)
@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
i had been in a long distance relationship but sadly it did not work out. i think it really depends on each partner. It depends if they are willing to endure everything thru distance. As for you, if you really want to be with your girl, i think you should save a lot so that you can go to her country and see her and maybe decide to work in her country.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Apr 11
I have been in a long distance relationship in the past. These can be hard to maintan=in because not only do you have the emotion, You have the distance and the miles to contend with. They can survive if you put your heart and your soul into achieving this dream and this goal.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
30 Apr 11
if you guys already talk in a long time and understand each other, why dont you guys meet in person even though she and you are living in 2 countries.Just trust on you guys' love and do what your heart want...If you dont do it now, so you may regret later, right? Good luck for both of you..^^
• United States
30 Apr 11
Yes i am and is quite horrible
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
Dude, In my honest opinion, and no offense aaight? I think long distance relationship won't always be successful, yea you love her, and she loves you back, but after quite a while that will fade, Specially if you haven't seen the girl in person and If ever there is no assurance of you meeting each other while your in a relationship with her. Only few had been successful with it, and unlike yours they probably met each other before they part. If there is no will, then it won't last. So what should you do? maybe go fetch her. :) Good Luck! :)
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
30 Apr 11
yeah i had a long distance relation , i was completely in love with her, she also used to tell that she is in love with me too, she lives 300 km away from my place, whenever i asked her to meet, she refuse it , i was completely dissolved in her love, i used to think everytime about her but without anycause she told i would not come online any more, and told forget me, i just got pain , and now my condition is like that my heart is swollen and is not capable to love anyone any more, my opinion is that dont stay in long term relationship until you have personal or face to face contact, you cannot know him/her well from long distance
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
29 Apr 11
Hello, Edwin, and welcome to MyLot. I have been in a long distance relationship, and it's very frustrating, but you can't help who you fall in love with. We tried to make time to be together as often as we could, but the trouble is, it's never enough, and you finish up leading separate lives, when all you want to do is be together. I do hope you can find a way to get together sometime soon.
@swtpareek (651)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Well when u mentioned Long Distance Relationship I really didn't think it would be of this kind. I am not sure if I would have ever fallen for a guy I have never met and known. But I am in a long distance relationship right now. I have been transferred to a different city than him and now our talks are limited to only phone calls. I haven't seen him since 5 months now and it is quite difficult to sustain a long distance relationship but I hope mine goes along the same path on which it is right now and I get transferred back to the city! And all the best to you too for your relation.