Harassment!

Philippines
April 30, 2011 7:35am CST
Every time we have a fight between my bf and me he always throw something hard at me, banging the door and slap me. I'm so tired, I've been extending my patience but I can't hold on anymore. He is the one, though I love him much but I can feel it this not the kind of relationship I wanted and he's not the right one. I had forgiven him couple of times, he said he will change but it's enough now. I'm so tired of him.
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13 responses
@tlb0822 (1414)
• United States
30 Apr 11
This defiantly doesn't seem like a healthy relationship for you to be in. It is really bad that he has slapped you, because no one should be putting their hands on you in that manner. I think that you should seperate from him, and if he says he is going to get help. Then I would tell him that he needs to do so, and then maybe in the future you can try to work it out again. If you aren't in love with him any more then I would cut your loses and move on, because you don't want things to escalate and get out of hand. I really hope that you consider leaving him, because no one deserves to be abused, and what you are going through is abuse. I wish you the best of luck, and hope that you are able to find a better relationship where you are respected, and treated right.
• China
1 May 11
yes,i totally agree with what you have said,the relationship between them is abnormal and i can barely endure such a man treating me that way ,leave him before it's too late .there must be someone more suits her...
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
21 May 11
Hi. christine888. You don't need to be treated like this at all. Your boyfriend is mean and violent! You should not even stay in a relationship with him any longer. He does not deserve your love at all. You can do so much more better without having him in your life. He is not doing anything for you, but causing you harm and agony. Save your tears and stress and move on with your life. He has no right to treat you like this and he does not even care at all. You can still forgive him, but you don't have to be in a relationship with him when he is like this too.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
13 May 11
I think it's about time you use your mind and not your brain. Better leave the guy and look for someone who doesn't hurt you emotionally and best of all doesn't hurt you physically. Go start finding someone new and make sure he's worth your love girl ;)
@griecy07 (103)
• Philippines
10 May 11
He's a threat to himself and to others, specially to you. In this generation martyrdom is not an issue and not that important. It's time for us women to fight for our right and not be dominated by men. Men and women are equal in every aspect now a days so he has no right to hurt you. Even the law tells that he has no power to put hands against you because you're not yet married, right?
@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
1 May 11
get out of the relationship as early as now. do not wait that he slaps you hard you get bruised on your head or you will have a coma. that boy is not worth your love and time. find another one that does not slap you but love you truly.
@vexxus (706)
• Philippines
1 May 11
you don't deserve such treatments, no matter what binds you together, he doesn't have the right to hurt you physically, you have to let go of your feelings for him, you don't have to endure your boyfriend's madness.
@ajk111 (2527)
30 Apr 11
You don't need me to answer this, you already know. what you want is assurance that you are doing the right thing. I do not know what country you reside in but most countrys have a system in place to protect people like yourself. scour the internet for local help. whatever else you decide to do, wave this relationship goodbye.
• United States
30 Apr 11
Christine, Personally why would you be with someone who dares put his hands on you and or throw things at you. Love is not suppose to cause injuries. If you continue to allow him to do this, Christine it is not going to be okay, in fact it is going to get worse. I do not believe he will change on his own and nothing you tell him is going to change him. Sure it gets better for a few days but he will do so again. It is important that both in a relationship respect one another. There are so many others in the world that deserve your love and certainly you deserve to be respected. Sorry to say but you cannot continue in this type of relationship, in fact it is not a relationship because ask him if he loves you? If he does then why would he hurt you? We do not cause someone we love pain.
@Harold_ks (1674)
30 Apr 11
You better get out of that relationship before he can do a much serious damage to you. He is not respecting you, he is not treating you as his girlfriend. Since he can do those things, it just means he don't really love you coz if you love a person, you don't want to hurt her or be hurt by anybody/anything. Living with that kind of person is dangerous, you better go now and end the relationship as soon as possible, for your safety. It's not worth loving that kind of person. Free yourself and live a peaceful life. God bless!
• Philippines
30 Apr 11
the best thing to do is to end your relationship with him. i don't think your bf truly loves you when he's been harassing you physically whenever you have a fight. nobody deserves to be treated the way your bf treats you.everyone deserves to be respected. you can sue him for violating your human rights.
30 Apr 11
Get rid of him. No one should stand to be abused either physically or mentally.
30 Apr 11
Dump him. Dump him NOW. Violence is inexcusable. Any man who slaps, hits or throws things at a woman is a coward and should be publicly humiliated (or arrested, of course). Get rid of him. Report him to the police (if they'd do anything - I don't know how domestic violence stands with the police where you are). And if they don't do anything, you can always hope that the next woman he slaps is a black belt in karate or something and whups his pathetic butt.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Apr 11
Nobody should have to put up with such treatment and behavor, especially from somone who is supposed to love and care about them. There is haassment and then there is just being fair and just.