does saying sorry enough?

Bahrain
May 2, 2011 9:41am CST
Do you all know what's wrong with sorry? It gives people the wrong idea that any mistake can be solved by a single word.. Today, I felt anger to my co-worker because of what she did to me, she's making fun of me infront of many people which hurts me a lot because the joke that she's been hitting on me is too personal, i think that she really intentionally did that. I don't know why she did that to me, I dindn't do anything wrong with her. After her show, she looked at me and I feel really ashamed and blushing, she noticed that I'm hurt. Then she approached me and say sorry for it was just a joke (and a lot more explanation). I was cold and not talking to her, she was talking and asking sorry for me. Will you easily forgive her or accept her sorry?
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13 responses
@adnileb (5017)
• Philippines
2 May 11
I don't forgive easily nor forget what was done to me. Putting myself into your situation, I won't forgive her instantly. What she did needs more than by just saying "sorry". What is sorry for when the damage is done? She should apologize sincerely and explain to your fellow officemates that what she did was wrong and that she won't do it again. She should learn her lesson. If you want to be rude, try insulting her too in front of the others so she will know what you felt while she was doing it. Best of luck martinnshann!
• Bahrain
3 May 11
Hehe.. No, i don't want to be rude to anyone, it's up to them how will they treat me. At least I did nothing wrong to them, my mind and conscience is free from worries. As of now, we're not talking and chatting with each other, I don't even say "hi/hello" to her or just look at her. Thanks for the response. =)
@adnileb (5017)
• Philippines
3 May 11
Oh, you're such a good person. Sorry for saying rude suggestion.
• Bahrain
4 May 11
It's okay.. Thank you.. =)
@oninomar (506)
• Philippines
2 May 11
Sorry is enough if it is genuine, you can feel it when she is saying that, if she is a good pretender then it is hard to figure it out. If you really know that girl you know also her attitude and her jokes. then you must be observant with the people around you and must be observant of the people you make friends with. have a nice day!:)
• Bahrain
4 May 11
Yes, i know her..but we're not that close.. I think she's not sincere when she say sorry to me, because she was smiling and saying that it was only just a joke.. Thanks for the response. =)
@oninomar (506)
• Philippines
4 May 11
You just understand her, maybe that is really her attitude.. Have more patient in dealing with that kind of person, she is not the only person you will meet in this world, many of them. :))
• United States
2 May 11
It does take me time to forgive, but I can be a forgiving person. Forgetting is another issue for me because not remembering what was done would make me vulnerable to it being done once again. I won't hold it over the person's head as I have forgiven them but will not forget as "sorry" at times is too easy for some and it is not something for me to compensate for repeated mistakes. So depending on the situation, and or cause of action I have to weigh out the instance before I can easily accept the I am sorry.
• Bahrain
4 May 11
It really depends on the weigh of the pain you felt. It was so hard for me to forgive her and forget what she did but I believe that there will always be a time for that. Thanks for the response. Good day!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
2 May 11
Apologies can be both difficult to accept and to give. The words are not always enough to suffice and comfort the situation, often an action needs to show our apologies more than the words can.
• Bahrain
4 May 11
You're absolutely right..The sincerity is more often seen in actions than in words.. Thanks for the response..
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
3 May 11
I can feel you, martinshann. But it is usually depends on the situation and the people around you as well. For me, if it was done around your very close friends or people who are close to both of you and knows you both that well, I think she done it unintentional. Or maybe, she feels that she is very close to you that you know her that it was nothing personal in doing so, then she probably just want to make a jolly moment. It is only you who can read her intentions in making fun of you, how long have you known each other? How close or how strong is your friendship for her to do it? Actually, for me, even we are friends, it's still ackward if it is done around the people whom we don't know. Maybe I can forgive her if I feel sincerity in saying those words, though, I know what was happened will create a wall between us as friends. It depends on how you value your relationship with her and how you can tolerate her doins such things. Just hope, she was sincere in apologizing and wish that everything will be fine in the future. Happy mylotting to you.
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
3 May 11
When ppl do that to me I do it back but I do it real bad for them nt to do it again and when someone do it I come back with the badses one and when they go to do it to someone Eles they will think befor they open them mouth
• Philippines
3 May 11
Apologies really are hard to accept and it is not easy to forget something that hurt you a lot. But I can accept apology if it is sincere and she promise not to do it again. It is hard to live a life when you are not it goodterms with someone especially if you will have to be with someone everyday, and it is easier for me to work when no one is angry at me or if I don't have any enemy.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
3 May 11
If it hurt you real bad, it was wrong of her to do it that extreme. But forgiving her or not is totally upto you. I mean it depends on what kind of person you are. If it were me, no matter how angry I am, I would forgive her because that's how I am. I get angry easily but I cool down pretty fast too!!
@watergirl (569)
• Philippines
3 May 11
I always tell my sons that "sorry" is legitimate only if no harm was intended in the first place. If someone was hurt "intentionally," sorry is unacceptable. Imagine if all the bullies in the world would hurt other kids and just say "sorry" every time!
• United States
3 May 11
It's easy to feel bad for wrong doings and apologize, then go right back to the things that you apologized for in the first place. I know this because I myself have been an unmotivated person who made a girlfriend hate me because I refused to do anything.. I believe apologies are only truly apologies when you shape up after apologizing.
@blogger01 (124)
• Philippines
2 May 11
I don't know how much you've been hurt. However, a sincere sorry is enough.. but then again, it will take some time to absorb someone's "sorry." You were hurt and it won't be easy. You can't forgive her immediately but in time, you will. The important thing there is that she/he realized that what he/she did was wrong.
• Canada
2 May 11
I think you need to have a proper talk with her and let her know your feelings and what you're going through. You should also tell her that whether it's a joke or not, it's not funny to you. Saying sorry is a step to forgiveness but she needs to continue the rest of the steps with her actions. If she really means what she says (sorry), then forgive and forget. If she doesn't really care, then try speaking to her and understand why she is doing what she is doing, then from there you can solve the problems.
@tink91879 (746)
• United States
2 May 11
To forgive is to forget so they say. Forgiving her at that moment would be really hard. Your hurt and the feelings dont just dissapear with a single word. I think when you see her next you shld tell her how it made you feel and let her know I forgive you, but I will be more reserved on information i share with you. you broke my trust and hurt my feelings and unfortunatly the word sorry will not solve the problem, but I wld like to give you another chance and have you earn my trust again. Explaining yourself is the best way to go. This way she understands she really hurt you and wont just be looked over and hopefully think about her actions before performing them. Sorry is a word. its the actions ppl take to prove their sorry that matter. So if she were genuine in her apology I would really think about forgiving her. Its good for you and her.