What do you feel about falling in love with a Friend

India
May 3, 2011 7:32am CST
I heard so many stories that people will fall in love with a Girl or boy who is considered to be his/her best friend , before that , will it be like spoiling a good friendship or else friendship is the base for love ?
21 responses
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
3 May 11
Well my ex boyfriend was a good friend of mine. He was a childhood friend and I never though I would fall in love with him some day in the future. Anyway we did and it didn't turn out so good. After a year and a half long relationship we broke up. We had a really nasty breakup that we aren't even friends anymore. We don't talk to each other. So in my case, I guess it did end our friendship.
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• India
3 May 11
Yeah so , you were telling that falling in love with friend may even spoil the existing relationship .
• Canada
3 May 11
If you fall in love with a friend and your feeling is reciprocated, then that would be no problem. however if the other person does not feel the same way, then they will stay away from you. But hey love should involve risk right?
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
3 May 11
my best friend courted me before, and we settled it immediately. i tond him not to court me because i treasure him so much. and i dont want to loose that treasure due to some thing called commitment. now we re both great, still best of friends. yes, we do treat each other like boyfriend and girlfriend, but we know our limits and we know that we're not committed to each other. no strings attached. :)
• India
4 May 11
That would be very odd feeling to be acting like a best friends , but in some cases if best friends get attached as lover they could lead a better life .
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
4 May 11
it was a little awkward at first. acting as best friends to someone who courted you. but since we were best friends for years already even before he courted me, it was not that little hard. he didn't had hard time understanding my side, and that i was just trying to save our friendship.
• United States
3 May 11
I have had this unspoken rule that I cannot consider a friend in a relationship. I have heard many others do successfully well, but I am always leery that if the relationship does not work out, then where would that leave our friendship. I had a very good guy friend, I considered him to be one of my very good best friends. Turns out he was developing romantic feelings and I could not see him that way. The more he insisted the more I tried to explain it could not happen, especially because I was with someone. Well, long story short he and I are very distance, still amicable but our great friendship is gone.
• India
4 May 11
I would like to go with your rule , probably i too believe the same , if an break in friend ship occurs because of love , it will definitely lead to split up .
• Philippines
4 May 11
It is frustrating when your feelings are not reciprocated, but it is more depressing if the other party "pretends" to feel the same way. I had experienced being in that situation. When I was a teen, I had fallen in love with my best guy friend. Credited to the fact that he is 5 years older than me,I considered him as my figurehead,I looked up to him for guidance and everything. When I had made it known to him what I thought I feel for him (goodness I was still 13 at that time!), he expressed that he too felt the same way for me. Fast forward to 3 months later, i learned from a common friend that he is not really into me romantically. He just said that he fell for me too because he was afraid that I would end up our friendship. I confronted him after that..and you know what happened? He actually had the audacity to blame me for everything! Needless to say, I broke off with him.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Well i think that friendship is the base for love. most of the stories according to you start as best friend before they become sweethearts. I think this is good base to know first each other by establishing friendship. Then if they know each other well and become comfortable this is i think the beginning of much deeper relationship. This is base on my own and true story of love. Hey, but i think my love life is not pattern to this story friends first. He (my husband) is my no. enemy during that time before we get married. We are always like dog and cat we never waste time on commenting each other and teasing and every time we do that we feel like we are volcano that near to erupt. This is the foundation we had before we got married.
• Philippines
4 May 11
loving bestfriend... - sometimes it work, most of the time it dumps
But we don't know sometimes if the bestfriend turned love in relationship can be good. some people have deeper foundation of love through memories of friendship and companionship., not to mention closeness and compatibility. but some people change, i think the degree of change should be measured too. if the other changes, then the chances of falling in love with that person has probability of less success. but who knows, am no expert
@gmkumar08 (396)
• India
3 May 11
I think falling in love with a friend is the best thing that can ever happen in life.It is really a very great feeling.It can't be expressed in words.One has to experience this feeling to understand it.Cheers,..
• India
4 May 11
Hello you speak like an Experienced person , may i get to know what happened in your life , had you got up with your GFriend .
• Philippines
3 May 11
Hi What happen to me is a different story.I have a bestfriend & he has a gf and everything is going well,until I started to date someone,my bestfriend started to tell me not to go out & it seems he is jealous of him,then he starts to tell me,that he is not in good terms with his gf & i even help him fix their relationship & he tells me,his gf is getting jealous of me although she knows me already & then he started to show his possession over me & one night he kissed me,being a good friend & doesn't want to hurt his feelings.I responded,but then the next day,everything change.I kept my distance from him & started not to talk coz I don't want to fall for my bestfriend completely & hurt his gf.We separated our ways for 3 years until one day just out of the blue we started to talk again as if nothing happens & now were back as bestfriends....
• India
4 May 11
Thats really great , You made it awesome , you governed your friendship , it is really a very tough job to get rid of a best friend for years.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
4 May 11
There are many aspects that could make someone fall in love and friendship could be one of them. So a friendship could be the base for love. It is okay for me if good friends fall in love to each other.
• Philippines
4 May 11
i can really spoil friendship, but sometimes it could also be the base for love.. it only depends on how the situation will go..
@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
4 May 11
I've always heard the best relationships comes from friendships and I've seen this happen a lot of times. As your best friend, the two of you wll go throught a lot and developed a close relationship with each other. This is how I am with a male friend of miines. We have always been in other relationships but remain friends, really close. He already confesses that he had/has really strong feelings for me, but he knows I'm in a reationship and he is on and off with a number if relationships. I love him more than just a friend, I don't know what it is, but I just don't see us having a relationship with each other. But you will never know what the future can hold.
@oninomar (506)
• Philippines
4 May 11
I admit to my self that I've been inlove with my bestfriend when i was in high school, and i know that she feel the same with me. But, we i thimk we are not meant to each other.. Sometimes it is better to stick on what you have started. Also, i don't want the day comes that we would regret, and to have a gap between us if we are not be a perfect couple.
• Philippines
4 May 11
falling in love with a friend is so sick, you don't know what to do :((
• United States
3 May 11
I actually fell for my best friend one time and it ended badly to the point where I don't even speak to him anymore. I regretted that because I'd much rather have him as a friend than as a boyfriend because our relationship would've lasted longer that way.
3 May 11
the people falling in love with a friends have understood themselves for a long period of time. i think it is better
@sabhari05 (263)
• India
3 May 11
I think so if you fall in love with your friend then that means you was not having a good friendship with that person when you have a good friendship with that person you will never feel love with that person so I feel if you have love with your friend then you are not true friend with that person.
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
3 May 11
Better keeping the good friendship...because if one day the love is broken,and then the friendship will be gone. From my experience, i have no friendship with ex-bf, normally we never meet again...^^
• United States
3 May 11
I've been there and done that. It was all fine, but we eventually broke up mostly because of my insecurity issues and he couldn't handle my depression. We worked better as friends than lovers, I suppose. I don't talk to him anymore though, as it's too painful and there's a lot more issues as well. It's fine to fall in love with a friend...better than falling for someone you barely know. You can't know for sure if it's gonna spoil a friendship or not until you find out.
@rose1717 (190)
• United States
3 May 11
I think friendship is the base of love. My husband and I were friends before we were anything else. Yes, I liked him very much but we didn't fall in love for a while. We have been married for 14 years and still very much in love.
@drasnian (548)
3 May 11
Falling in love with a friend, I think is a good thing, but I think falling in love with a best friend can be risky. My boyfriend and I were friends before we got together, and now things are amazing - we've been together through so much: school, being a long distance apart, at university...and now we are best friends. But if you were best friends in the first place it seems a lot riskier - if it doesn't work you've potentially lost your friendship, if it does...your partner is your best friend so who do you vent to? In those early stages when you're getting to know eachother and you discover random habits that start to bug you...like his leaving the toilet seat up/getting up four hours earlier than you etc etc...it can be important to vent to a friend who can put things in perspective, "So he's perfect...but he leaves the toilet seat up? BIG DEAL!"
@naija4real (1293)
3 May 11
Falling in love with a friend is by far the most welcomed way of dating. You simply understand that habit,manners and behaviour of the other persons. This is because you have interacted with that person on several occassion and you seem to understand the like and dislike of the other person. So that of relationship works better