Who is a friend?

@hnaboro (113)
Uganda
May 3, 2011 3:01pm CST
I would like to understand why some people betray their closest friends
6 responses
@wjack2010 (755)
3 May 11
People have to keep some things secret in life if that means betraying your closest friend to keep something personal then it is your choice.
@hnaboro (113)
• Uganda
3 May 11
i agree, but some don't
1 person likes this
3 May 11
Yeah. Thank you for agreeing with me.
@thotalot (18)
• United States
4 May 11
The only reasons I can think of why some people betray their closest friends are: 1) the thing they get for betraying their friend is more important to them than their friend, 2) they are angry at or jealous of their friend and want to retaliate, or 3) they are inherently selfish and/or dishonest. But I think this situation requires closer examination, because I don't believe a true friend would ever betray their friend, short of the betrayal being necessary to save their life or the life of a loved one. If someone is willing to betray another, then that person must not truly be their friend. I think we can confuse the term "friend" with social companion. I think "friend" goes much deeper than simply someone that you spend a lot of time with socially. Unfortunately, I think the world is too filled with egocentric opportunists, and many people associate with certain people simply to use them to get something that they want. True friendship, like love, exists when you are willing to give more than you take, when the other's personal welfare is more important to you than your own, and your loyalty to them is as solid as a rock. Betrayal occurs because this circumstance does not exist in most cases and true friendship and love is more rare than outward appearances make it seem.
@hnaboro (113)
• Uganda
4 May 11
Your philosophy of friendships is correct but i want you to also look at it his way. we are created and introduced to good and evil and both live in us side by side. when evil gets the best of us we are capable of betraying even a sister/brother and forget the loyalty. Judas Iscariot is a good example of this. he was so much in Love with his master but did not hesitate to betray Him.
• India
4 May 11
hnaboro,i feel the days come when some sort of misunderstandings come between closest friends and if they are not resolved properly then after sometime it becomes the root of dispute and conflict.plus even if someone says that .particular person is my best friend somehow eveyone wants himself to be better than other and the feeling of jealousy would come .i guess these are the reasons that people even betray their closest ones.but honestly speaking ,i feel if someone does it then surely they were never close to each other and were just pretending to be.because how selfish and self centered one gets,he would never ever betray the closes ones...they were just not close enough i feel. dont want to hurt anyone's feeling regards keep mylotting :D
@lazybug (273)
• Philippines
4 May 11
I also do not understand, especially when you learn about the betrayal during her mental/psychological breakdown. It hurts and you can't confront her because of her state. It left a scar on who I am as a person and on my relationship with my other friends.
• India
4 May 11
A friend is one who is always there for you no matter what the problem is. He will be in your happiness and sorrow. He shows a lot of dedication for you cares about your feelings and most importantly ready to sacrifice anything for you. See, someone who betrays cant be called a friend. He is a cheat rather than a friend.
@grace24 (1050)
• Philippines
4 May 11
Friend is someone you can count to when you have problems in life. They are the people who help us to lift our bearings in life. It cannot be called as friendship when someone betrays the other because real friends are true to each other. True friends help each other. Envy is the cause of betrayal. If you are a true friend, you will be happy with what your friend have attained in his life.