being so pessimistic
By joeyalberta
@joeyalberta (106)
May 6, 2011 9:18am CST
hello mylotters!. i will share to you my story:I have this classmate in college that is so pessimistic (person who is thinking negatively in life). we had a duty group and taht person became a member. yet, we don't like her that much because she thinks that in every happiness or laughter we do something bad will happened later. thats what she thinks..
even though, we tried to understand her but sometimes she;s kinda annoying, irritating to talk to already.that we end up arguing and its such a waste of time!
as a member of the group. i really want to help her out but I'm afraid that if i talk to her she will be disappointed, sad or being so misunderstood. i dont want to hurt her feelings though..
what can i do to help her?
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7 responses
@harck721 (372)
• Philippines
6 May 11
I have a really good friend who's like that. She hates herself and thinks that bad things will always happen. I didn't use to like her since I though she was too dramatic and her tirades depress me. What I did was I became close friends with her and was generally happy around her (something like infecting her with my good cheer).
Then, when we weren't awkward around each other anymore, that was when I talked to her. She understood and was a little less pessimistic after that. I think your friend would trust your opinions and would try to do something about her shortcomings if you were closer to each other.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
7 May 11
It's her upbringing. She should enrol in many Psychology classes so she will understand the workings of the mind. I used to know someone like that and I suggested she take up a Psychology course in college. She did and from then on she had become a most balanced and well-rounded personality.
@jacquericauy (81)
• Philippines
7 May 11
Well, I think you can share with her your feelings and try to advice her that she shouldn't look at the world that way coz if she does things would get a lot worst. tell her the beautiful stories of life.
@shelley0314 (11)
•
6 May 11
you can help her by just being a friend to her. she's being misunderstood becouse of the way she thinks and i believe all us have our own opinions and all of us has our own beliefs. then i think you should start to learn to respect other peoples beliefs although as a friend you also need to influence her to be more positive and tell her that she would feel good if she will learn to appreciate and live life to the fullest without any worries.
@cherryblossom (79)
• Canada
6 May 11
I am sort of like this haha. Unfortunately. I try hard to see the good in stuff though :) As for what you can do for her, you can't do anything really. Just continue being yourself. An attitude change is something she needs to do herself, and for herself! She'll probably realize it when people begin to shy away.
@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
6 May 11
if you really wanna help her, try to befriend her first. talk about something that may not lead into an argument. make fun of someone secretly like for instance, some of your teachers. that's a fun way of spending time with your classmates. then once you get to know her a little better, you would probably understand why she thinks like that... i myself am neither a pessimist nor an optimist... a little on the realist side but not so much. whenever we friends hangout, i usually end up getting an argument from anyone present. but they all know me and they even get touchy when i dont go out with them. i just consider myself as an a$$hole but a direct to the point one. no detours whatsoever. good luck!
