since you had broken up with your boyfriend for many years,do you feel good now?

@mandylee (267)
China
May 8, 2011 6:32am CST
Many years ago, i have broken up with my boyfriend for some reason,i can still remember the scene today that i'm depressed and my nervous breakdown, my family and friends gave helping hands to me, they said you will live well after you seperate with this man ,that's right time to heal!so many years passed,i never miss the man.but sometimes when i'm in bad mood,i would ask myself are you really well today?do you live a happy life?Dear friends,do you like sharing your experience with me?
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17 responses
• United States
22 Jun 11
Every once a while I do wonder what happened to my ex. He disappeared about 2 to 3 years ago. And even though I am with the love of my life , I wonder where he is and is he as happy as I. But I know I didn't love him the way I love my guy. I hope you can let go of the past so you can find someone who will love you back.
@mandylee (267)
• China
22 Jun 11
i hope i will find my true love again someday,thanks alot,i'd rather take your advice
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• United States
22 Jun 11
I'm living proof that there is someone for everyone. Just take your time and mend your heart . That way when he comes along , you will be ready. If you go too fast, you won't be ready or worse you may settle for Mr right now. So take it slow.
• India
8 May 11
Since I had break up with my dream gal. She is a nice gal, very Intelligent gal. There is a lot of butterflies at that time around me. Love is such a nice feelings. But due to some situation it was ended. Because i didn't propose my love to her. This was happened at my 15th age while studying in school. After the summer vacation we missed each other because i got my TC to move another school.. It was a great pain. But very recently i came to know through another person that she too was in love with me. But what to do? Unfortunately i missed her.
@mandylee (267)
• China
9 May 11
The first love is unforgettable.i think you will meet your dream girl soon
• India
9 May 11
Thanks to both of you my friends. But i felt pain when i had break up with her. But a nice memories which i spent with her in school is still alive in my heart. We both always fighting in the school. She is a class leader and she always used to report my name to Head Master and he will punish me. After that she will ask me sorry. I always break the rules in the school just because to get punishment from HM. Because after that punishment i get some lovable words from her. Hope i will meet my girl once in my life again.
14 May 11
Energy follows thought. If give way to a negative thoughts then you feel depress. Do make some self affirmation everyday that would lead you to love more yourself. Much more believe in the goodness and the love of God in you.
@mandylee (267)
• China
14 May 11
Yes,it did.if i had a optimistic thought to everything in life,i will lead a better life.have a nice day
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 May 11
I have had a few boyfriends before I married my first husband and even after we divorced I had a boyfriend that was killed when our house burned to the ground. However, the ones that I broke up with, I never looked back. Once I break up, I'm through with the person. I don't dwell on the past but instead, look forward to the future straight ahead. I'm married now and for almost 20 years and couldn't be happier and you will too one day. Just open your heart and give love a chance with someone new till you find the right one.
@youless (84899)
• Guangzhou, China
9 May 11
Long time ago when I broke up my boyfriend, I felt so sad and it had been a long time. I already went over it because right now I have my own family. I have a good husband and a nice child. When I look back, I don't feel painful any more since I know who are the most important to me now. Just let the bygones be gone. I love China
@mandylee (267)
• China
10 May 11
You're lucky that you had found the most important person in your life and have a happy family!but there's few people not so lucky like you,maybe if they missed the chance,they can not find it anymore.whatever,we had to move on,ereryday is going on
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@amora123 (85)
• Philippines
9 May 11
I've also been in that kind of situation maybe 1 and 1/2 year ago, all my friends where comforting me time. Telling me that there are a lot of boys out their who are much better than him. Well what i did to forget him easily is that keeping myself busy and burning all our pictures together,
@mandylee (267)
• China
9 May 11
yes,keeping busy is a best way to forget a person,the world is beauterful,we had to enjoy it enough
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• Indonesia
9 May 11
it's really hurt you know when we broke with one we really love and Painful too see them with someone else After Year I still feel that like yesterday I just can't forget it :(
@mandylee (267)
• China
9 May 11
i will get better,thanks
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
9 May 11
I have not broken up before, and it's currently my fifth year with my boyfriend. I sometimes wonder how it would be like to break up with my boyfriend. we had almost break up once and i believe that day seem to be like hell for me. I believe time will definitely heal all wounds. And I'm glad to hear that you are doing well currently. But yes, to do ourself a favor, we need to make sure we lead a better life than before, not for anyone else, but for ourself. Are you currently in a relationship?
@mandylee (267)
• China
9 May 11
I prefer your advice than the others.i think you really getting what i mean,i had started this discussion for making sure one thing that i will lead a better life than before,for myself
@Achaiah (34)
• Mexico
8 May 11
Its like the song says: Breaking up its hard to do... it about letting go; when one starts a relationship we dont want it to be a bad relation or a lousy experience, we always will be expecting the best of things and when things do get ugly we tend to take that as a failure, and blame ourselves for it. We can pretend we are ok, or that we get over it, but one day, the wind will blow on the wrong direction, or a song on the radio will takes back to those days... memories tend to be with us till new better ones take their place, time does not heal all wounds, but it helps a lot when we want to move foward =)
@mandylee (267)
• China
9 May 11
time helps a lot that can change our looks and the heart,whatever,we had to move forward
@wongchoiyee (5516)
• Malaysia
8 May 11
I also have experienced bad and good relationship. Today, I am careful choosing the right one to spend the rest of my life. You are right. We all leave this world someday alone so cherish ourselves if our other person did not do so. Take it easy and I wish you will soon meet a Mr Right!
@mandylee (267)
• China
9 May 11
We all enjoy our everyday and enjoy we have at present,it's the right thing we can do.thanks
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
8 May 11
Right now I'm fine. But when I broke up with my boyfriend I wasn't. I was so broke and if i didn't have my friends with me, I don't know what would have happened. Anyway now I'm perfectly Ok and I'm glad actually we broke up coz we seriously couldn't have been together.
@mandylee (267)
• China
8 May 11
i see,if you can not being together,you'd rather to apart as soon as possible,love is both,let it be.lover is important but friends and kinsfolk is more important
@nezavisima (7419)
• Bulgaria
8 May 11
Some time ago I had a big beautiful love. Everything was great mnoo. But as you know after all happiness comes and sorrow. So happened to me. We parted, and each has his own way. The pain was tremendous and cutting long time I could not believe it happened. But now that everything I experienced at first although it is very difficult and can never be forgotten. After a while it passes the time heal me. Remained only a memory.
@mandylee (267)
• China
8 May 11
yes,everyone had to experience lots of things and grow stronger,later on,we're able to understand to cherish what we have at present
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
8 May 11
hello, I have broken heart many times and I still didn't learned from it I still love the wrong person but now I have a present boyfriend we are now 2 years and I was happy and contented with it. Well, I will share my experience when I am single no love life, no boyfriends because it is never been legal to my parents. So, I always end up heart break. but since I was able to move on one time I can already do it for the next time. Now I have a happy life because I have a special someone that will love me.
@mandylee (267)
• China
8 May 11
i'd say i appreciate you who is so strong,i can't do that like you.but i think i'd rather go ahead and do not look back,let sth. before fading away,thanks,have a nice day
• India
8 May 11
hi mandy... Its pretty difficult to erase all the things from mind. the feeling kills me if i were in your situation.Even years are not sufficient once you fall in a situation of that kind. I feel very disturbed and hollow inside if i were u. Not able to explain with words all such thins ... Any way all the best for ur future...
@mandylee (267)
• China
8 May 11
i will live well because of all friends in mylot caring about me,though i'm not quite well at present,but i try to keep my thoughts uplifting and positive,thank you very much
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
8 May 11
hi mandylee, recently, i have a friend who also broke up with her childhood friends. I remember telling her to be careful with anyone you're dating with, and especially this guy whom she dated with. The first time before they got into relationship, I did tell her to be careful and to learn more about the guy before you get into relationship with him. My thought and instinct told me that he is not a good guy, and it took less than 2 years for their breakup to happen! Don't put too high hopes on the guys you dated. Love and cherish yourself more. My mother always tell me this, sooner, all of us will die alone one day. We will leave the world by ourself and don't worry, coz God will always be by your side. Be strong. What doesnt kill you only makes you stronger.
@mandylee (267)
• China
8 May 11
yes,what you said is right.all of us will die alone one day,we will leave the world by ourself,so we must take care of ourselves if the other didn't cherish you.thanks lot
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
5 Nov 12
Time heals the pain we once had. So I feel very good now with a happy family and a caring wife after my parting with my ex-girlfriend. Sometimes I think of her, but it does not mean I still love her because she is part of my history in my life. Take care, mandylee.
@Cannonball (3639)
• France
8 May 11
The same thing happened to me something like ten years ago. When she left me I physically collapsed, was really depressive for something like 2 weeks, then little by little I tried to find a taste in life again but the real healing asked for months. Now I consider I am fixed in the way that I'm not going to cry when any kind of futile thing happens but the memory of it was printed of dear SO badly that now I know it turned me into another person. It made me be bad with girls even if I'm a kind person, it was unconscious. Then, well I knew it from the beginning that the thing was all about self esteem and now my heart, head etc are fixed I just work on it even a little bit every day and I won't let the ghost of my ex interupting my new affairs so when I have the chance to meet someone I would give my heart 100 % like I naturally used to always do BUT I would also keep in mind that just like a sleight of hand, it can definitely collapse, that's where self esteem always help. Great Topic !