How well do you really know your friends?

United States
May 10, 2011 4:22am CST
We make assumptions all the time because that is what is natural. But when it comes to friends, we should know them really well right? With me, no matter how long I've known my friends, I feel they just don't know the real me. This is because I am secretive about my real interests in life. I am guessing I don't know everything about my friends either. They probably keep secrets from me, although they are really open with me. Do you ever realize that there is a different side to your friends? Do your friends think they know you when they really don't?
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@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
10 May 11
i am the type of person who is very caring, and sweet to my friends. but i always don't feel appreciated. no matter how i reach out, i seem to be invisible. so now whatever happens to me, i don't wanna let them know. i don't wanna share anything with them anymore. whenever they needed me, i am always there, but when it comes to me already, i can't find them. they are only there when it comes to having fun, but when you are down, they're not there anymore. so i actually don't know what friendship really means. i would rather just be alone than be with people like them. for me, my only friend is my boyfriend LOL but yeah it's true... but i am very much happy and contented already
@cgirl123 (264)
• Indonesia
12 May 11
hmm..after reading your comment i feel like i want to sing "where you at" (Jennifer Hudson) to them..
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
12 May 11
i just listened to the song because i have never heard of that before and i loved it
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
28 May 11
I think that is what friendship means to them. Friendship=using people whenever you want. Nowadays it is hard to find real friend. Really hard to trust them.
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
10 May 11
we know each other from the bottom of our heart, he can understand my every tears , we never hide any secrets from each other,
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
10 May 11
you are very lucky to have a friend like him. i tell my "friends" some secrets but then the next thing i know, someone will just come to me and ask "is it true that... blah blah blah"....... annoying right? so now i am being careful already. i don't like plastic friends. they pretend to be people you can rely on but actually they're not
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
10 May 11
I envy you!
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
12 May 11
yeah and so now i am trying to be careful, the only person i trust now is my boyfriend and no one else. friends should be friends, not people who would even ruin you because they know a lot of things about you.... but i learned my lesson
• India
10 May 11
Friends are very important part of life. It is very necessary to choose the right friends in our life, Our friends can influence good and bad behavior that shows character of how we are with friends. When it comes friends knowing about us I always remember this quote " Two is a company three is a crowd that means what ever secrets are been shared no matter how trust worthy your friend is, there is a situation where your secrets are always disclosed before friends. I never share my deep secrets with friends no matter how best they are. Some day they can backstab you. Pretending to knowing us from friends, its just they try to show that you are been knowing by them. No matter how close your friend is remember the quote before sharing some secrets with them.
@cgirl123 (264)
• Indonesia
12 May 11
I completely agree with you Princelierocks..! We should always choose our friends correctly, for a bad habits and bad connections will affect ourself sooner or later. And we can not completely trust others, although we already make friends with them for years, for we only know him or her what they are want we to know. Awareness is important. Blood is thicker than anything else, thats why i only share my secret with my own family: my parents and my sisters.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
28 May 11
I don't tell my secrets to anyone~ No way! Secrets are secrets~ If I have something to tell them that will never be my secret~ Remain secrets except to my own self~
@cgirl123 (264)
• Indonesia
10 May 11
Hi sashakiddo..! :) I think we will never know somebody else that well. Although we already know and make friend with somebody for years, we can only know them as far as they let us know about them. And how far or how deep we can learn to know about our friends will never far or deep enough to completely understand him or her. Thats why sometimes we still feel kind a surprise about what our friends have done or said. And thats what make life beautiful, thats what make our friendship colourful, isn't that great? :) But i think thats not the most important thing in friendship. As long as we do each other good, as long as we can keep the trust, the secret, then the untold thing(s) maybe not that important to know. If my friends just want me to know him or her that far, it's okay, i will not take it seriously. Best friend or soulmate is like one in a million. When i did some mistakes and he/she still stick with me, when i sad and he/she cheer me up, when i dont want to be bother and he/she accompany me in a warm silent, when i am happy and he/she can be happy with me, then i think i already found my bestfriend, my soulmate.. :) And i dont have to know all things about him or her, so does he or she. Know much is enough, to be that close is enough. Thats what i think. :) Have a bless day..! ^^
• United States
10 May 11
I agree with you, we don't need to know everything about our friends. As long as we are understanding and sincere, that is fine. People need their own personal space, and to try to find everything out about someone is an invasion of that space.
@cgirl123 (264)
• Indonesia
13 May 11
Hi sashakiddo..! :) i just want to say thank you very much for marking my comment as the best responses.. :) i really appreciate it.. :) Have a bless day! ^^
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
11 May 11
I don't really know my friends and I am not sure whether they know me or not. It happen many times as for me people change so sometimes I am not really sure they are my old friends or not.Most of them when they are in front of me they acting like they used to and when they are with someone else they are acting totally like a different person.Honestly I don't like that kind of characters but who I am to say like that to them. They just a group of people who know very well how to socialized with different people.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
28 May 11
Yeah, their changes might influence us a bit to get change too~ It is good if they change to be better yet there are some change to the opposite way~ It takes time to get used to it but it is not good if you keep changing too~ It shows that you have no stance and has no goals in life~
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 May 11
i dont think we ought to know everything. i mean, we are friends with our friends because we need them for some reasons but we do not impose on them that we have to know everything. there should not be any limitation. i believe that telling everything gives a way for you to be held entirely by a friend. and it is not fair to me.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
28 May 11
Yes, they need use for some reasons and we need them for the same reasons too~ Having a friend relationship does not mean that we should let them know everything about us. So it is fair I don't know them very well the same as they don't know me that well too~
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
10 May 11
My friends know me really well and I know them too. Not all of them though, just my best friends. It's amazing how they know how I'm feeling and everything. They're really good people but I don't know if I'm that good friend to them.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
28 May 11
You should be a good friend too as you already have many of them~ I envy you~ It is hard to find a good friends nowadays~
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
28 May 11
hi, of course we really dont know well our friends especially when our friends lived far in our place,but you will know them well timely,it will takes how many months to know them well but there are some people who can hide the real them.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Through thick and thin you will know your friends and if they have known you for keeping a secret in other words you have been tested by them that you can be trusted then the more you can penetrate their inner being for they will get to open themselves in you. Trust is the knot tied between friends.
@mythociate (15946)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
11 May 11
I know them as well as I know God. The prideful man would tell you he knows them very well; the wise man, not at all. The only "knowledge" I have is that of myself. Oh, I have information-of God and -of friends, but that's subject to change. (You might disagree with that as concerns the God-information---"God never changes! Just humans' perception does!" Right, perception communicated in the form of information! ... (But for friend-information, the first example I think of is my friend Novotony ... Brittany is an awesome lady, and I'm sure she was an awesome guy too!)
@veejay19 (3592)
• India
11 May 11
No one really reveals everything about oneself to others, be it friends or relatives.Everybody has something which they would like to keep under wraps and would not want others to know.Yes, most of my friends do not know the real me nor am i interested to know everything about them.This happens even in the closest relationship,between husband and wife, so one should not be surprised if we don`t know our friends well or they know everything about us.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
11 May 11
hello, Yes, I know what you are point out. I have a best-friend and we been friends since high school. And she is the only best-friend I have now in my life because I never find like her in my entire life. ha ha We really know each other and we treat each other as a sisters. I love her even we are in separate paths now. We still contact each other in simple ways. I know her family and she also know who my family is.Many intrigues hold our friendships but still we are here still best-friend. She knows what I like and interest and I also know her more than her parents.
• Philippines
11 May 11
For me, it is impossible to completel know someone. It is better that way for me. Whenever you learn something new aboout your friend, the relationship grows. If you know everything about a person, i think it becomes boring. Additionally, I believe that you don't have to completely now a person to develop true friendship.
@paries (29)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Hi, there is an idiom that goes "everyone of us has skeleton on our closet". we all have secrets that even if our friends since childhood that we are assume to know them from head to toe may one day left us in shocked because of something that we found out or just come out about them. I am not saying we have to doubt our friends or should investigate first their lives before trusting them. just like you've said that you are very secretive to your friends about your real interests in life, i guess they are also keeping secrets to you. I guess you wont be fully comfortable and happy if you dont bring out the rela you with them.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 May 11
There are certain things that I don't share openly. The ins and out of my family relationships would be one of them. I guess I have always been taught that what happens in the family..stays in the family. I guess it was considered a form of respect in my family. If you had an argument, you didn't run around telling your friends about what awful people your family was because of it. So now..I am a little reserved when addressing family affairs. I think there is always a side that we are not aware of. I think there are very few people that are completely open..unless it is someone that you are living with. That is when you can really tell about someone. A roomie might be the only one and even then...you never know.
@swtpareek (651)
• United States
10 May 11
I don't like making much friends but the fact is I am open with the ones I already have. Ya but I have some secrets that I haven't ever shared with anyone since I want to forget about them but for other things I always think of my friends as first ones to go and share my thoughts with. I guess they too have certain things that they might not be interested in telling me. But as it is said that "it is not necessary to share all the things between true friends, but whatever is shared should be true" So I follow the same approach.
@guile118 (57)
• Egypt
10 May 11
look friendship differs from boys to girls for boys you dont have to know alot but your friends you should only care about having good times sometimes you get a friend,enjoy being with him and joking without knowing his phone number!
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
10 May 11
I admit, I really don't know much about my friends. And whenever we face each other and talk with each other i can still say that there is awkwardness. It feels like there's still a wall blocking each of us to get to know each other. I tell them stuffs similar to stuffs they tell me too. Like you, i am secretive too and I am not even vocal and it frights me to be. I always wanted to known my friend better but I don't know when will that happen. I guess even until now I still don't have this one person who knows me so much. Because honestly, I don't kinda trust some of them. I mean I just don't feel like telling them who I am really are. But there's a part of me that wishes!
• Philippines
10 May 11
Deeply knowing our friends is a logical thought. How else are we gonna make ourselves feel comfortable being with someone or anyone if we barely knew them, right? The thing is, there is a certain level of intimacy that we share or for that matter..open up to our friends..notwithstanding the years of shared friendship. I personally believe that there are different sides to all of us: whether us or our friends. It is just innate to keep something..out of fear of discovery perhaps or we just wanted to keep some things in our lives "private".
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
10 May 11
I would like to think that I know my friends very well. they should know me in the same way. What kinds of friendships could we have with each other if you don't really know someone. It would just be existing. What kind of relationships would that give to our lives then?