Have you ever controlled your fights and anger?

India
May 10, 2011 11:28am CST
Hie there everybody..We always are prone to to anger and fights when are temper is high or we are really irritated of the person doing wrong things or troubling us.. Also while traveling or through any situations of your life where you find this irritating disgusting person ruined your day or said any bad things.. My concern is what to do you do in such situations? Do you bash up the person or give me fights or words saying bad things.. I most probably think that tolerance helps in everything and i have also experienced it many ways of my life. But at times when it is too much and the level of water is above the head i just burst out and leads to some anger actions. My friends what to do in such situations do you control things by remaining silent or just try to give answer back?
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@reulin (101)
• Philippines
11 May 11
it depends on the situation...but i must admit that i've learned to control my anger before, during & after my OJT in one of the institutes somewhere in Commonwealth that caters to the needs of mentally & physically challenged people. Not to forget, few years after my marriage life. I've really learned a lot! But, of course, there's always the word "but", we are just human beings, it's abnormal if we don't even feel any anger w/in us or towards other, right? so it rea;;y depends on the situation/ person/ things & place.
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@reulin (101)
• Philippines
11 May 11
in addition, if i can't resist my anger, i'll say that i'm angry then make sure that one day i'll be at the mall walking and checking all the new arrivals at store... :D but the best thing that helps me lot to paive my anger is prayer, just that.... sometimes i go to church even if it's not sunday.... :D
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@tedifa (1235)
• Indonesia
11 Oct 12
Everyone has limited of patients and sometimes get out of control when in the bad situations.But after that he must be so sorry and upset with his anger.People who has good of anger control need to learn and practice everyday.With family,friends or neighborhood.Tolerance someday will give you good effect.Maybe when you're in hurry situation,someone else will give you tolerance too.
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
12 May 11
I'm good in controlling my anger, holding back my frustrations to people who are rude to me. I don't see myself being any different from those people if i started fighting back or talk back. If my bf is with me, he will be the one to stand up for me, protect me. While i will be there to make sure he doesn't do anything stupid. If there's anybody going around, saying bad stuffs about me, i will confront them, but i won't say anything. I just want to make my presence felt.
@in212857 (67)
• India
11 May 11
hi In such situations i try to ignore the person and sometimes when situation goes beyond control i used to shout loudly but i never keep the heat inside me , than i also drink a lot of water to cool down myself
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@picjim (3003)
• India
11 May 11
I try to avoid the person in future.If the person gets too irritating i give him a piece of my mind.I never physically bash up a person but i will definitely let him know that he is repulsive and not wanted in future.I will never remain silent as the person will get the idea that he can repeat the same unwanted behavior with me in future.
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@megamatt (14327)
• United States
10 May 11
I really detest confrontation. Granted, there have been times where the other person is just pushing me a little bit too far. That is just the nature of life I really do think. There are going to be many times where people tend to egg me on in a way. Perhaps they are frustrated for some reason and just lashing out at me. I really do wonder what their problem in fact is. I still try to keep my patience down. Of course, there are times where I have a breaking point. I try to walk away from it, before I reach the point of no return and start lashing out at people. Thankfully nothing really sticks out about the time where I really do start throwing fists. I really have come close many times to starting something. However, I have really not pulled that all important trigger. It just is really not worth it more often than not.
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@taski24 (214)
• Philippines
11 May 11
I have learned to control my anger and my emotions. After all, nothing good would come out if I would engage in a fist fight or a brawl. It is easy once you get the hang of it. You just have to train your mind to think ahead of the situation. Ask yourself: What would happen if I lose control? What would I gain? What would I lose? Would fighting someone make me a better person? I know you understand already.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
14 Oct 12
I think it is always good to control. Now a days I just walk out of the situation and goes for a long walk rather than fighting or saying bad things. I think the best thing one can do is just get up quickly and get out of the situation as soon as possible and may be going for long walk or getting to the nature or place with flowers and trees as soon as possible.
• India
11 May 11
hi dude there is a famous quote from tom and jerry,"the one who irritates you more is the one who likes you more".if a person irritates you of doing a work wrong the best thing is to ask suggestions from them.it will stop their upset and also their irritating character.it doesn't bother whether you are a comedian but try to cheer up others wherever you are
• India
11 May 11
in most i will forgive if he or she telling me bad words about me i also forgive , if they tell any bad word about my family then i start counting 1..2..3.. they said more than 3 words about my family then am in action i will never say any bad word to them,my hand and leg take that job if any body say any bad word about my sister here no counting just immediate action
@ludyvel04 (311)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Before, I answered back when I got mad and had fight which lead to destruction, I mean emotional hurt because the simple irritation leads to more disgusting, non sense thing. I learned that we need to be more patient and pray when we get angry and do not sin as what God said. If someone did or say bad things against us, speak blessing to them that we may be also bless.
@mantis36 (4237)
• Philippines
11 May 11
it needs two or more persons for the fight to begin.... if you aware and have a good patience.... then where's the fight????
@wolfwise (100)
• Philippines
11 May 11
I do have a sense of control, and usually just don't bother to mind someone even if they said something wrong considering it's not worth it. There are times you just know when to fight I mean you can't always fight someone every time your angry. In times when I do get really angry I first try to determine if it's worth it or how consequences of doing it might affect me or the people around me. In the end it's about choosing your fights properly. But it's good to know though that you do have the capability to stand up and fight somebody even if you know you don't need to.
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
11 May 11
I think I can control my emotions pretty well. I don't like fighting and confronting. I rationalize things that happen to me or done to me so that I won't feel really pissed off. There are times though when I do confront, but just because I don't want things to go out of hand. I don't blow up on people that irk me. There's a lot of negativity in the world already. I just smile at the people who are really being mean and be nice to them. After all, being nice is the best way to annoy someone who wants to argue or fight with you. It's also infectious.