Would you take Offence at Being Offered Second Hand Clothes?

@GreenMoo (11842)
May 10, 2011 4:29pm CST
We have very few facilities for passing on second hand clothes around where I live. The nearest clothes bank is in our nearest big town, and we have no second hand shops to donate things to. Consequently people who have more sense than to throw things in the bin are always looking for people to pass things on to, and my family is forever being given bags of clothes. Today I was given a huge bag of lovely tops which will be lovely for the summer, but even when things are old and worn the type of work we do means that we can make use of work clothes too. I'm not at ashamed to accept second hand clothes from our neighbours. I'm pleased to be able to recycle something and not to have to buy something new. It's very kind of people to think of me. Do you feel the same way, or would you be offended if someone offered you second hand clothes? Do you offer your decent second hand clothes to friends or neighbours? Do you accept things if they are offered?
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
11 May 11
I live in a large city, well, its large now anyway. I have 4 Goodwills I go to regularly, and a few more that I can get to on the way to other places. I know where some Salvation Armys are too, but I don't like them as much. I do drop off a lot of clothes, and many other things, and I buy a lot of books and some clothes at them. But more books and "pretties" like I need more of those!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
I'm a sucker for books in second hand shops. I figure that as they're a fraction of the price i can buy a whole lot more of them!
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
11 May 11
11 May 11
I would be delighted if some kind person offered me some good secondhand clothes. I lived in India for 3 years and that really opened my eyes about recycling everything we can, and not just clothes. To me clothes are just a necessary covering and shouldn't be given such a high status in our lives. Yes, of course we all want to look as nice as we can but we shouldn't be obsessed by needing all the latest gear at designer prices, and then binning them after they have gone out of fashion! I love trawling in charity shops and feel that my tiny efforts have made a difference to the planet. I have also found some unique items that I love. Recycling is the way we need to go if we are going to heal our fabulous planet.
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
I couldn't agree with you more. The idea of turning down a second hand item due to pride is just ridiculous, and I don't really understand peoples' reservations.
• Philippines
11 May 11
i have worked for several years with non-government organizations and we visited economically challenged areas deprived of even the basic necessities in life. it really makes one value what he has, knowing more people are less fortunate really. my mom is an occasional seamstress. she has been making us outfits from different fabrics and even inexpensive clothes. and she makes them into wearables and saves us a lot of money especially for costumes and occasional themed gatherings. i'm for recycling too.
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
I'm in awe of people who can whip out a sewing machine and make something new out of something old.
• Philippines
10 May 11
back when we didn't have much, i am so used to second-hand clothes so much that i wasn't sure which clothes were originally mine from the beginning. hehe having 4 older sisters, 2 older brothers and a younger bro, i've been used to receiving hand-me-down and pass-me-around clothes. even now that we have closets and cabinets overflowing with clothes, we still pass clothes around with our ever growing family. i don't get offended if someone would offer me second-hand clothes. i appreciate them in the same way i do hope somebody else will appreciate the clothes we give away too. because at one point, those have been special to us. also, we do recycle and recreate outfits to fit us better and this saves us a lot of money for costumes and such.
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
There have been days when I've looked at my outfit and realised I'm wearing nothing that started life as my own!
11 May 11
I regularly dress a la charity shop! ;)
• Philippines
11 May 11
i was never one to put a price tag on what one is wearing. for me, it's not the clothes, but the person wearing them. even now that we can afford signature clothes, i'm not one to go pricey on shopping. there are other priorities wherein i could put my money on, other needs as well.
• United States
10 May 11
Never be ashamed to take advantage of a good deal. I have a friend who shops way too much and then her daughter goes months without wearing these clothes she buys and so she gives them to my daughter. I love it. Saves me a ton of money. Some of my favorite outfits come from thrift shops also. Some people get tired of their clothes and give them away but they are far from being worn out. I'm with you all the way. As long as they aren't "under" clothes, take what you can get. Especially in these days.
@GreenMoo (11842)
10 May 11
I love making someone smile by being able to give them something they need, so I always pass things on if I don´t need them. Kids particularly grow out of their clothes really fast sometimes that it´s great to have a sort of mutual swap shop going on.
11 May 11
Shwopping (clothes-swapping instead of shopping) is going on all around the UK at the moment. I wish there was one in my town. I'd be there in a flash!
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
Oh me too! I'd be scared though that noone would want my clothes!
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
11 May 11
I grew up wearing second hand clothes and I have a friend that buys most of her clothes at a thrift shop and she finds some very pretty things! I don't need alot of clothes anymore...but I do give my clothes away to a charity when I am finished with them.
12 May 11
I've just been down town and bought myself a very pretty, never-been-worn, pink night-dress from Barnado's for £1.75. I'm thrilled! It will replace my tatty old cotton one, which I will chop up and feed to my worms in their worm-bin in the garden! I'm also sorting out lots of bits and pieces to pass on to our local charity shops, of which there are many!
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
11 May 11
I belonged to a moms group for awhile and often we would swap or pass on kids clothes to each other when our kids grew out of them. Generally we only offered nice things, either unworn, gently worn, or otherwise with plenty of wear left, so nothing with rips or holes or stains unless someone was looking for worn out play clothes. We have also collected used items to help out families who may have lost a home to fire or been evicted and lost things because they could only keep what would fit in their vehicle or downsize to a small apartment. I don't mind second hand clothes - although I would never consider giving them as a gift lol.
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
That's a great idea, particularly as kids grow out of their clothes so quickly. I remember when my eldest was born i was given some lovely clothes which were a little too big. I put them to one size and the next time i pulled them out they were too small!
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
11 May 11
A lot of people here in the U.S. would be offended, but not me. If they were rags, I would laugh but good used clothing is always welcome. People should find more ways to re-use items and feel flattered when someone cares enough to offer them used clothing and other good items. I avoid buying new whenever possible. I can think of better ways of spending my money. If someone offers me secondhand clothing, I'll accept with thanks.
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
I think you're so right. We should be flattered that someone has thought of us. Some days I have a challenge to think which of the items I have on was originally mine!
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
11 May 11
We do have a lot of second hand shops which I visit frequently. In the house we used to live in my next door neighbor frequently gave me her kid's outgrown clothes. She had a daughter just a year older than my daughter, and a son just about a year older than one of my son's.. so I got those clothes almost every season. I was not offended. I have 5 kids.. she has 6.. she understands that putting clothes on children is expensive and difficult. Besides that.. the neighbor across the street had a girl older than hers and a boy older than hers and would also give her a lot of hand me downs as well.. so those hand me downs usually ended up in my possession eventually. Generally the hand me downs I get are for the kids.. though about a week ago my manager at work started asking me what size I wear. She'd just cleaned out her closet and asked if I'd be offended if she offered me the clothes. Not sure why she thought to ask me.. she's got 3 daughters who are close to my age and she knows tons of people. If I start to think of it like that.. then I might get offended.. "Of all the people she knows why would she think to ask me? Does she think I can't afford my own clothes?" But chances are she wasn't thinking like that. It was probably more along the lines of while we were working together she started thinking about all those clothes she just cleaned out of her closet and since I was there and around her size (everyone else we work with are toothpicks!) she figured she'd offer them to me. I told her I'd accept them.
@madteaparty (2761)
• Japan
11 May 11
I go to secondhand stores often to buy clothes, but I have accepted clothes from friends or memebers of my family, because they didn`t use them anymore and thought I might like it or I might want to recycle it and make them into my own style. I like recycling clothes and changing them to look more stylish, so as long as those clothes can be worn and don`t have holes on them, I have no problem to accept second hand clothes.
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
You're very clever if you can change clothes to update them and make them look more stylish. Second hand stores are a fabulous place to search for material.
• Philippines
11 May 11
Me neither. I seriously don't mind getting second-hand clothes because I like using decorated cloth to make new things and there's no shame in receiving something that generally was intended for good. I remember this churchmate of ours who loved passing on her daughter's clothes to my sister, the outfits were kind of out of style in the nineties but they were great for theme parties and these days vintage is in, so it's actually kind of cool to wear second-hand clothes.:)
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
You're very clever to be able to reuse the materials.
@GardenGerty (101693)
• United States
11 May 11
I donate to my local resale shops. I shop the local resale shops. No one around except family to give me clothes. When my kids were young we started something, and I am not sure who started it, but we had a box and we would put what we did not want in it, and take what we wanted out of it, and pass it on. I LOVED seeing some one else, some little girl, wearing clothes I had made very lovingly for my daughter. I feel rich because of second hand clothes.
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
I think there is a bit of a fear of offending someone by offering second hand clothes around here, and now that I have shown that I am very happy to take them my family gets inundated. Even people we don't know send bags of clothes for us on the school bus! I love your box idea. Where I used to live there was a weekly kids clothes swap shop held in a local church hall and it was superb. You got a credit for every item you donated, and could choose an item to take away per credit. So simple!
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
10 May 11
are you kidding? hubby and i both work but don't make a whole lot of money and we have two teenaged daughters who love clothes. we have friends and family members who only buy designer stuff or high end stuff and they always give us their hand me downs. i NEVER say no to anything free! (i also shop at thrift stores a lot too!)
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 May 11
that's my motto too! If someone is kind enough to offer I will rarely refuse unless it's really useless to me. there's always someone else I can pass things onto.
@ajk111 (2527)
10 May 11
i do. when i was younger i bought a lot of clothes from charity shops because they were trendier. a lot of american 50's style clothing. all second hand. it is no different from buying clothes brand new, you only wear it if you like it.
@GreenMoo (11842)
10 May 11
Absolutely. You can always pass on anything which doesn´t fit or doesn´t suit you.