Which you prepared church wedding or civil wedding?

@visavis (5945)
Philippines
May 11, 2011 4:17am CST
Hello everybody, I know that we are deffirent cultures and traditions pertaining to wedding, also in practices of getting marriage. Allow me to generalize which related to this topic. Mostly in Christian world specially Catholic they prepared church wedding. So here are some of the related way of marriage arrangement: 1. church wedding mostly Christian practices 2. temple, mosque, garden or others as per they prepared 3. civil wedding - mostly done by judge,mayor, or governor Those are what I know, may be you have more practices of wedding that you can share to us. Sorry in the list not including those relationship outside the mentioned wedding places including live-in and other kind. For this which you prepared and why? In my case we are marriage in civil (by judge) with the witness which for me is good and we are happy. One thing are you prepared for luxury and lavish cost of wedding ceremony, why?
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@cloud31 (5811)
11 May 11
For me as a woman church wedding still the best of all,but as of todays life,practically I will choose a civil wedding.In my point of view having a church wedding and a civil wedding made no difference.For as long as we can be compatible and stays together its not a matter wether a church wedding or a civil. A luxury wedding nowadays is so famous among people.But for me being practical is just my choice.I prefer to get married in civil, first not much for expenses. I would rather what I'm going to spend for my future plan rather than having it spent just for a day or two. Its all about couples choice anyway if they can afford well then enjoy once their memorable moment together.No matter church or civil anyway its a feelings that counts and not how lavish the wedding is. Happy myLotting!!
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
So for you if the time come for your wedding civil is the most practical and easy wedding practices. Your point is also my point of view during planning of my marriage, my wife insisting to have church wedding but I insist no budget for that and told her if you want to marry me accept it or leave... and you know the next LOL see you around..
@cloud31 (5811)
11 May 11
Oh that's really cool
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
yeah some are using at compromising to other
@gyani1978 (147)
• India
11 May 11
I like only Hindu cultures wedding, as arrange marriage is also the nice and long with happiest life.
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Yeah that's understandable because your Hindu you must respect and obey your tradition and culture... see you around
• India
11 May 11
Yeah you are right, I always give first preference to Hindu Culture & Tradition.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
ok see you
• Philippines
11 May 11
hello visavis, I will just get married once so i want it to be memorable i prefer beach or garden wedding i always wanted it but the problem is the groom If we have a budget then why not but if it is budgeted one i can make adjustments what important is we are going to take our vow and become one. happy mylotting
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Thank you for your views and yes normally woman are the one who want something memorable their wedding, some says because once in a life time. I feel guilty to my wife because she wants church wedding I told her budget is the problem not me. You so kind for that kind of understanding you sacrificed your want for the sake of your wedding. You know some are put all their life to become merorable but in the end mess because of money problem - so is it practical way to have wedding outside budge for the sake of women wants...? see you around
• Philippines
11 May 11
for me as long as he will meet me in the altar take the vow whole heartily and never hurt me even it is not a luxurious or the way i want it that will be fine But if he has a budget much better
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
yeah that is most important thing to consider by the woman LOL
@masang (295)
• Philippines
15 May 11
It depends upon you how are you going to spend for your wedding. In the Catholic Church there are options so that you can only spend less. Like on my wedding. No flower girls, bridesmaids, maid of honor. They are all just decorations and not part of the ceremony. The most important is you have witnesses. As a result, we did not spent beyond our budget. I prefer to get married in the Church: first it is both Civil and Church. Why it includes civil? It's because before you're going to get married in the church, the couple should get marriage license from the City Hall. It will be posted within ten days to be sure that each of you is really single, no impediments. The couple should also attend Seminar on Responsible Parenthood conducted by those in the government. If you have complied then that's the time you'll be given a marriage license to be submitted to the Church. Second: The priest also who will officiate the marriage ceremony should also get license from the government. He cannot officiate unless his license is not yet expired. As far as I know they are going to renew it every 3 years. Not all Catholic priests are allowed to officiate wedding unless they have license. In the Catholic teaching it is still considered live in if you are just civilly married. It is also found in the Bible. Therefore wedding in the Catholic Church is both civil and church. It will become invalid legally without those requirements I mentioned.
@oninomar (506)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Well for me I prefer church wedding than civil wedding.. Even don't have a big budget for it , i'll go for church wedding someday. Church wedding is really important because you are making your vows in front of the Body of Christ, that is the church.. Even you have no big amount for a church wedding, you can still have it, and there is no need to be so expensive, what is matter is the pure intention of the couple.. As a tradition, church wedding is more important, in some it is a ritual to have a bless from God.. To have a better future someday.. This is showing a respect to God and asking His permission for the marriage to be blessed. Some people really saving their money to have a good and expensive wedding. But God does not measure on how much you spend money for it.. Some people choose to have a civil wedding because they think that church wedding is expensive that they can't afford to have it. Also they think that the ceremony is the same and no different at all. they think that there is no difference to have it in a civil wedding.. It is there belief about that, and as long as there intention is pure and they are sincere with each other.. God will just make a way to take them in the church to have there wedding.
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Actually if you said important the most important is the marriage regardless of the location instead your wellingness, heart and love and respect to each other... being husband and wife, ready for the next level of new life... see you around
@gelayagui98 (1337)
• Australia
11 May 11
Marriage has always been regarded as the most sacred and purest bond shared between the bride and the groom - an institution that is so central to human experience. Getting married is even regarded by many as the ultimate badge - a way to show relatives, associates, and friends that one has a successful personal life. In view of these, I'd rather prefer to bless me and my groom inside the church and exchange my vows with him with the present of our Almighty God.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
nice and good gesture for wedding but you know budget need for wedding specially if church wedding you should need a big budget on that. right? see you around
@Galena (9124)
11 May 11
we had two ceremonies, one after the other. in the UK, you can't have any religious content in a civil ceremony, and there is no legal provision for Pagans that want to marry in their own religion. so we had the religious ceremony first, which was a handfasting in a stone circle. this was the spiritual part of the day, making our vows before the Gods and the ancestors and asking their blessings on the marriage. following that we had the civil ceremony, which made it legal, and this we had in a disused slate mine, beside a subterranean lake, surrounded by hundreds of candles. in the UK, you can't have a legal ceremony outside, there has to be three walls and a roof (except for Scotland, where they have the much better idea that the registrar is licensed, rather than the location, and can marry someone anywhere) but there are all kinds of venues licensed for civil ceremonies, from castles to hotels, to museums, and even places like our beautiful, magical, candle-lit cave. I wouldn't have ever considered a church wedding, as neither of us are Christian.
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Wow that's good and another information about that, first time know about such practice or may be in the movie but not recognize fully. May be there are many more practices and ceremonial practices for wedding. What the earth consist.. see you around
@SIMPLYD (75895)
• Philippines
12 May 11
My husband and i had our civil wedding a month before our church wedding. In the civil wedding, my husband and i, two close friends of my husband who acted as witnesses , the judge and his secretary were the present ones. In the church wedding, all the family members of both party are present. But only the closest relativea and friends were invited. It was done in a week day and it was so simple. We worked around our budget only. We deemed it right that we still have money to start on for our house appliances, after the wedding. We are happy we did that. So far, of course i prefer the church wedding.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Good, I just wanna ask you - you said first wedding through civil then to the church, why? Your not believe the validity of civil wedding? Or you feel God is not present in the place... just asking you can answer or not.. see you around
@SIMPLYD (75895)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Well, it was one way of my husband in assuring me that he really is bent on marrying me, even though preparations are already being done.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Well contratulation my best wishes.. so your dream come true. but still you did not answer why double wedding since you finished civil.. sorry for a little bit curious.. see you around
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
I prefer a church wedding even though it is expensive. I will be married only once and I want it to be memorable. One kind of wedding that will last to my memory even when I am old already.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
Yeah I respect your dream, however church wedding with out budget for that is not practical, and if your intention and motive is to become memorable I think wherever you done your wedding you can make it memorable - meaning depends on you..
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Getting married must not be necessarily expensive as long as both parties have agreed to be bound in the presence of God.Marriage can be done with only one or two witnesses and sponsors present and it's done but if the couple prefers a lavish one then it's expensive indeed.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
That's good idea for wedding simple but even simple wedding you must spend money because normal thinking is once in a life time.. so better before wedding ceremony see to it prepared and budget preparation
@nimsaj28 (32)
• Philippines
11 May 11
My husband and I were married in civil.. it is ok to have a marriage in civil especially if you don't have a budget of a bigger ceremony.. for me, the best wedding is having your family and friends with you on your special day.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
yeah your correct if budget is concern civil is the best and practical way.. see you around
• Philippines
12 May 11
Yes we did it on civil because we don't enough money to be married on church, and I'm also pregnant that time so we decided to have a simple wedding with friends and families and then save our money when I give birth.. But I still want to have a church wedding someday, but of course with the same guy I married last year!
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Wow your so great my dear. I pray and hope that someday you can achieve what you wanted the church wedding. It is normal... however, what do you think if your dream will come may little late - how you feel about it... see you around
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
11 May 11
Civil or traditional wedding is fine as long as people know that we are already married legally. About the ceremony it should not be grand or high cost just a simple wedding. That should be fine.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
11 May 11
that is good idea but they alibi are once in a life time and should be memorable to them so that grand and costly ceremory should and must be, is it practical or just lavish... see you around
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
15 May 11
Memorable?? I don't think the guest will remember about other people wedding. They just come and nothing to stay remain in their mind~ The person who will never forget the wedding is the bride and the bridegroom themselves~
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
29 May 11
Yeah you have a points of that, but those broken marriage what do you think? All the memories and memorable moment are gone - why it is happened to them? They are just forget the sacred of marriage... see you around
@stanley777 (7176)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
I think it is definitely better to have a Church wedding since it is nice to really promise in front of God and it is the dream of the couple(mostly the women) too. But having a civil wedding is fine too, since the other one's costly...what matters most is you love each other and you keep the vows.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
Mostly they are prepared for church wedding thinking that God is there who can blessed them - but for me wherever the ceremony as long as you both are committed to that sacrament that is the important thing... see you around
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Yeah, it depends on what congregation the couple belongs and how they believe in it.As a catholic for me I prefer church wedding because for me the sacrament of marriage is very sacred, so it's just right to make our vows in the house of prayers which is the house of God.see you again
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Ok I understand your stand and belief about that... thanks
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
28 May 11
In my opinion. Church or civil wedding is the same. They are both valid in terms of law. But I prepare to get married with the church, because this like being formal than in the civil wedding...
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
28 May 11
Oh really but anyway your opinion I understand which you said more formal the church than civil... see you around
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
30 May 11
Yup! This is only my opinion. I don't other people around here if they prefer to get married in civil wedding
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
30 May 11
Ok I respect your opinion... thanks and see
• United States
13 May 11
I had a civil chapel wedding. Meaning it was in a wedding chapel, but there was no religion involved in the ceremony whatsoever. It was pretty nice.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
13 May 11
I think no problem and no big deal as long as both of you are welling in what your done and God will accept that - because marriage is a binding of two person regardless of location and where the wedding is... see you around
• United States
14 May 11
I just said there was no religion involved in my wedding. I don't believe in any "god" so I really don't care about being accepted by one.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Ah Ok sorry for that I respect your belief and you point have noted... see you around
• China
12 May 11
woh!it sounds like the western wedding or your country's practice is complicated,in my country,i mean china,i think wedding have more etiquette and procedure,but you know without the widness of Pastor or mayor,governor,i guess he will be very busy attending theis citizen wedding ceromony,but what i mean it is not serious in our country,we and sent invitations and ask our friends ,colleagues and relatives to come ,have dinner and have fun.the newly wed will be vowed in front of both parents and exchange rings and kiss...of course this one is relatively modern and have influnced someway by the western culture we still have some traditionnal wedding ceremony...what's memorable for the bride is maybe the Bridal Team consisting of a long queue of cars...ceremony is just a form so try your best to give her a memorable wedding...
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Hmmm nice presentation and thank you for your sharing this is my first time knows about Chinese practises which you said modern, I think there is a counter part in our country the practise of vowing in front of the parent - is called pre-wedding ceremony which the boy with his parents ask permission to the parents of the girl to marry him, then they will schedule and where the wedding held.. that's all, Is there in relevance or no? see you around
• China
13 May 11
Actually the wedding practises is more complex than i described,and what i said is integrated Chinese and Western wedding,the newly wed have received permission from both parents and they also need a contact-Matchmaker to propose marriage and engagement,the vow in front of parents i think is more or less the same as the patten in your country,the more tradition wedding have the procedure of three kowtow, The first kowtow is for the heaven and earth,the second for the parents and the third for each other!
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
13 May 11
thank you my dear more and more information you give about your practices and your culture as Chinese... Actually appreciate if you can give us more deatils about kowtow, may be it will help to us in the future... see you around
• Philippines
12 May 11
if i will be getting married soon i prefer to have a church wedding because i want to make such day a solemn wedding not so luxurious, what i want is just a simple wedding, facing the altar with my husband to be.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 May 11
if your plan for church wedding start now planning start from budget, before looking for the right guy. What if the guy offer you to marriage is not willing to have church wedding as you want and dream - what is your most probably action and response... Can your want insist to him...? see you around
• Philippines
13 May 11
we are planning it already, but as of now we need to concentrate on our lives, he's still studying and I'm working. We just talk about the wedding once we have settled at the right time. We won't put ourselves into rush when we are not ready. We are too young to get married.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Only one thing I can suggest to you, since you and your BF still young and if you have plan to marriage make sure your ready from yourself, money, and physically because cost and other are not joke.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
28 May 11
hi, for me, of course i would choose church wedding than civil wedding,because i can more feel the importance and reality,excitement,and more when in church wedding even though its a expensive one than civil wedding.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
29 May 11
Oh as you said civil wedding is like not feeling that you are married, no reality and excitement - meaning such couple are not ready to bind each other. Because for me wherever the ceremonial of wedding made it is legal and bounded by God as long as the couple agree with - the luxury wedding is just traditional way to show public fame... see you around
• Philippines
28 May 11
None. True love cannot be written in paper, for it is the divine cosmic marriage that really counts. Any contract sealed in this world is nothing but a piece of paper, in other words they are not forever. I guess marriage contracts are significant only to ensure the legal concerns of both parties. Now I wonder, if i truly love someone, why would i be bother about legal laws set by the society and governmnet? Why would I allow my love be constrained by laws that are limited and most of the time faulty? Well im just sharing my thoughts so peace to all.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
28 May 11
I understand you thought no problem, I'm open mind for this kind of comments, in some how you have a point about just a peace of paper but as human being under the law of this earth should have abide such law, because they are use such paper for data of the population... so if your not agree for just peace of paper but you have to oblidge about the law... see you around
• Philippines
22 May 11
I prefer a church wedding for Gods blessing but due to financial reasons and practicality I'm getting married in civil by a judge but still I'm looking forward for a church wedding
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
22 May 11
I respect your wants and belief but one question i ask to you, do you know that even in civil wedding is permitted and allowed by God. No matters where your wedding it is allowed by God as loong as you both are believe and accepted such ceremony as wedding.. see you around
@icelgo (23)
• Philippines
15 May 11
for me either...the important is you both love each other,that's matter...:)
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Yeah that is the most important in one relationship specially marriage.. you look like your new here... Welcome here in mylot, suggest to you read first the FAQ and guidelines.. see you around