Sisters are a gift one should treasure.

@stary1 (6622)
United States
May 11, 2011 3:03pm CST
I did not always feel my sister was a gift. Growing up we had many disagreements and thought differently. Now we have different political beliefs, but we are very close friends. Perhaps that comes with age, but now the past arguments seem silly. Our parents have passed away and we have each other and a brother and our own families, but we seem to give each other more respect and patience for our individual opinions. I wonder how others feel about their sisters. Have you grown closer through the years?
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@flapiz (8156)
• Australia
14 May 11
I have a sister too and I love her so much. Before we use to quarrel over stuffs animals and clothes. But now we support each other and learn to share and sacrifice. Indeed as times move forward I love her more. She is the guitarist and I am the singer. She is the house keeper and I am the chef. Hehe... We do compliment each other's work.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
15 May 11
Sounds great. You really do compliment each other. I always find it so interesting how girls or boys from the same family, raised pretty much the same way, can often be so different in personality and talents.
@flapiz (8156)
• Australia
15 May 11
It is indeed worth looking into how people in the same household be so different. But I think it is God's design so that siblings won't turn compete too much with each other or turn into enemies. Haha.
• United States
14 May 11
I have two sisters in my life. one I treasure like you yours. the other I could live without in my life. I think you have to earn the right to be loved by me. Not because your my sister you automatically get love. She is a thief and a lier so I can live without her.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
15 May 11
Well at least you have one you like :) Who knows, perhaps in years to come the other one will see how wrong she was and become more honest. I agree just because she is family she can't get away with doing wrong, even though we usually give family menbers more 'chances' I do hope some day the sister you don't like changes and becomes a better person.
@CRIVAS (1819)
• Canada
13 May 11
I feel the same way about my sister. I am 15 years older than her, so when we were growing up, we were constantly in each others hair. Now that we are older, we are best friends. It is actually a little funny that I came across your discussion because my sister is due to come over to my house today, we are having a girls night sleep over. My husband is working the night shift and when he does she almost always comes over to spend the night. In the summer we spend weeks together. It does seem like the older we get, the better we seem to understand each other, and thus we get along better as well. I am glad that you are close to your sister.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
15 May 11
That sounds like fun. My sister used to visit me when my husband traveled and I would stay over with her when her husband traveled. Things are more informal with husbands out of town and we had some really fun times. Glad to see you doing the same!!
@cher913 (25887)
• Canada
12 May 11
i am an only child but hubby and i have two daughters who are fairly close but will become closer with age (they are teens now) but have always gotten along fairly well.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 May 11
You are lucky. Most sisters that I know of ,growing up, fought and only later calmed down and became really good friends. I guess you did a lot of things 'right' to help that relationship. I am happy for you :)
• India
12 May 11
i have no sister in my blood but i have two sisters in my own heart ,yes sisters are gift of god during my mothers pregnancy i prayed to god that give me a sister give a sister till that last moment of my mother delivered but that was a boy i am truly saying that i hate my brother or i didn't like him then i started adopting sister with heart so many little girls in our family but i adopted only two sisters in my mind i don't know why they are only i believe it's divine
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 May 11
Life does give us people that we need and can learn from and can help. There is purpose and meaning in everything in my opinion.
• India
12 May 11
Hi Star, I'm feeling jealous of you, because I don't have a sister. BUt 'm very close to my cousin sister, we share everything & talk about all the stuff. As we grow older we become more close to each other. Smalll fights & disagreements are part of the life. It'll build a strong bonding between brother & sister. We always wait for a chance to meet up in functions or ceremonies to have a chat with each other. Sister & brother relationship is the best one I can say...
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 May 11
I am happy for you. Your cousin sister can be like a real sister. It's really the relationship that determines closeness. You sound very wise so I think you will keep up the closeness even through the disagreements, and you will benefit greatly.
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
12 May 11
Hi Stary I do not have a biologicial sister - cousins yes, quite many of them and here too at mylot a few. I treasure the moments that I share(d) with them as mostly they have always been helpful,loving and caring... I believe it is not just having a sis of own to realize but it comes to them so very naturally as they are the women-to be and women almost always have great hearts, helping nature, their care for you is quite genuine (most of the cases) and that makes them special
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 May 11
You can always 'adopt' a sister :) I have heard many say 'she is like a sister to me ' Many women have great hearts and are special..so are many men :)
@Razzles (393)
• United States
12 May 11
I have the same feelings as you about sisters. Me and my sister were at odds with one another growing up. There is a 5 years difference. As we got older, and had our own families, we became closer. My parents are both deceased. My dad would say over and over again, -When we are gone, you won't have your brothers to turn to. You will always have your sister. And he was right. We are in a battle right now. My younger brother was made the executor of the estate and my mom had jewelry in this estate that she voiced to me and my sister that she wanted this to be ours. There is nothing in the will that states this. It was like it was a known thing. My younger brother said he remembers mom talking about this. He thinks it should be sold or divided up among us. I have 3 brothers. My mom would cringe at the thought of any of my sister in laws were to wear her jewelry. We are outnumbered in this situation. My sister said that if he doesn't come around, that she wants no part of my brothers or their families. I will be mad at my brothers, but I don't know whether I could go to this extreme.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 May 11
It is so sad when siblings argue. I am sorry you have this with your brothers and wonder if their wives are a big part of it. Some men can be easily manipulated by their wives. You sound like a very kind person. I wish you all the best in this.
• Philippines
12 May 11
I feel the same way too. My sister and I may be different in all aspects but we see to it that we will make a way to meet halfway to be able to meet up our ideals. I am just a year older to my sister however as we grew up, we have different opinions on most of things but we reunite consistently on our beliefs with God.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 May 11
That is good. It is so much better to get along than not to!!
@mandy8611 (154)
• China
12 May 11
I have an elder sister who is one year older than me, we were in the same school from elementary school to senior high school. there are also a lot of disagreements between us when we were young girls, but as we growing up day by day,we treasure each other more and more. now we live in different cities, but we chat online everyday to share our thoughts.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 May 11
Sounds like my experience too, but my sister is 5 years older. I think as we become older we mature past the really childish arguments and therefore many disagreements are automatically removed.
@cora30 (134)
• United States
11 May 11
yea i believe that sister's are a gift because not anybody had given a chance to have a sister,whom you can talk to ,share your thoughts and share moments together,we may have argument sometimes and mis understanding but at the end of the day you will still be thankful for having a sister she may not perfect sister but a sister is always there when you needed her the most..:)
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 May 11
I am glad you feel this way and found a good connection. My Mom always said nothing is as close as family and in many ways I have come to understand that. I guess it is also true that 'blood is thicker than water'
@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
11 May 11
I have a sister that is a year older than me, and we bump heads often. We are different and have different personalilites so we are at it off an on. Right now we are on. I think all the fighting comes with growing up and growing up under each other living in the same household. I do believe once we move out and get our own place to leave our relationship would become better than ever. When we are on good terms we are the best of friend. As of right now, it hasn't been that way for awhile. Why? because she is hard headed lol, but this doesn't mean I love her any less.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
11 May 11
I can relate :) My sister and I still sometimes bump heads, but not nearly as much as we used to and the hurt feelings are over much more quickly now. Good luck :)
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
11 May 11
Hi. stary1. Yes, me and my youngest sister has grown more closer as she has gotten older. When we used to live with our grandmother, my sister hardly talked to me. She was in her own little world and magical bubble. She stayed in her room a lot to write and to listen, dance and sing to music. I used to spend more time with my cousins more than I did with her. Now, she is older and she talks to me about so many things. She gets on my nerves at times, because she always want and need me to do something for her. But as soon as I need a favor from her, she can never seem to do it. I have a half sister that I have grown closer to on Facebook. She is very sweet, although my other sister does not trust her that much. When I first met her during the time that our grandmother had passed away, I was upset with my father because I had discovered that I had another sister. I was hurt because my father created her with a woman when he was stoned drunk. So now, my stepmother had to discover that he had another child out there as well, and she probably was just as upset as me and my other sister was too. So now, we are are adults and me and my half sister get along pretty well. It has been so ill feelings between our father and her, but I won't let that come between our relationship with each other at all. I am willing to move past this. I believe in giving her a chance to be a part of our family.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
11 May 11
Life does have many challenges, doesn't it :( Good for you for moving past and maintaining a good relationship. No one ever regretted having a close relationship :)
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
11 May 11
A sisster is a gift we get in life and we should do everthing we can to hang on to. Sisters are a blessing to cherish for all of the years to come.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
11 May 11
I am happy to hear you feel this way too:)