May 12, 2011 10:34pm CST
When my mom met my dad, he already had two sons and she had a daughter. His sons were 2 and 4, and her daughter was 3 months old. Their other parents were never in their lives, so both of them raised all their step kids and biological kids as if there were no difference other than the fact the two oldest, which are my half brothers through my dad were really bad and they had to be punished all the time. The oldest is my brother and he is now 34 years old and lives in Philly, but he was out of my home by 17 because that was his 1st time going to prison, and up to a few years ago he spent most of his life after that in prison. He has a bad attitude towards my family and thinks we all forsaked him. My family had a bad falling out with him and his girlfriend a couple years ago. Since then he has had a baby, and my brother under him has had a baby, and one of my sisters has had a baby. My mom feels like unless he contacts her again, she is going to give him his space because he is so negative and offensive. Although, with my other siblings, which one is her step son too, she sends gifts and tries to visit their kids. She has mixed feelings to what she should do, but in my opinion, I feel like we are better off having nothing to do with my oldest brother. That may sound harsh, but he brought our youngest brother up to Philly and was trying to get him to rob people, so he called my mom and she had to send for him by bus. Then him and his girlfriend kept calling my brother and mom threatening them for money, saying they were going to call the police and lie and say that my brother stole money from them, or come to North Carolina and kill my mom and brother if she didn't wire them money. I would love to be part of my niece's life, but I know that her parents are bad people and I feel bad for her to have to be raised in that kind of living condition, but I rather keep my business in NC, while they can have theirs in PA. I don't want that kind of drama ever in my life again, and I don't want it in my Mom's life either. What are other people's perspectives on this kind of situation?
• United States
13 May 11
I am saddened to read that your brother and his girlfriend are doing such horrible things to your family! No wonder you don't to have anything to do with them. I don't blame you. I would feel the same. Sounds like he is a bad character and still has a lot of growing up to do!