What Is The Secret Of A Healthy Marriage?

Philippines
May 13, 2011 12:25am CST
Many couple have been entering into this kind of relationship very excited and confidently in love with each other only to find out that they are falling out of love after some years of being together. Then they frankly tell each other that they are regretful of trusting each other during the first stage of the relationship wherein they were still sweet to each other. On the other hand, there a lot of old couples that I see around dating sweetly regardless of their grey hair. In this case, I stare at them in awe and whisper, "what makes this couple stay intact with their relationship until they are old?" Is it not amazing to see couple still doing great as sweethearts up to the moment that they get a grey hair? On the contrary, it is very disgusting to see some couples breaking up even at the early age of their marriage. Seeing both sides, I have been thinking if there is any secret to keep a healthy marriage or relationship.
7 responses
• India
15 May 11
Basic Instincts should be good. Everyone has fallen in love which is not a true one. We should be faithful to the person whom we feel that we are in love. It is possible to live with a person until our last. There is no secret behind this. Couples should be stay united and should have mutual agreement in everything. Pure love without having any expectation is the secret of a Healthy Marriage. But now a days it is getting decreased day by day. But still True love does exist
• Philippines
22 May 11
It is but a great struggle when you already have been in a love commitment and think at first that that is already a true love only to find out along the way that there is someone coming up to be a true love again...The big question is how can lovers be absolutely faithful to each other?
• India
13 May 11
love.....love understanding......understanding patience......patience these are the only secrets of healthy marriage.......
14 May 11
i think you need mutual respect and admiration and you need to care for each other and have each others needs in mind an not be selfish and of coursew trust,,,,,,
• Portugal
13 May 11
in my opinion the secret is..the understanding, the friendship, the regular talks and the same goals.
• India
13 May 11
yes i do agree with you mike........
@ludyvel04 (312)
• Philippines
13 May 11
The secret is making God the foundation of their married life. Before getting into marriage life, make sure that you're already complete, no hang ups in life. Getting a partner in life doesn't mean that he/she has to complete you. That's why many marriages end up to broken relationship because they think that the person they've chose to be with is the person to fulfill their emptinies. This is not right! Think first, am I complete enough to find someone whom I can share my wholeness with? Only Christ can make us whole and that's what makes marriage lasts.
• India
13 May 11
yes i do agree with you......
@menace730 (506)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Hi keshlois...I am one who has divorced. I loved and was loved but what we were missing was friendship. I now have a marriage to a Filipino women and we became friends first. We want to share everything with each other. Sometimes love just is not enough. This is not to say you don't need love, but I believe you need friendship with it.
• Philippines
22 May 11
Hi! But friendship means sharing everything. No fear to open up even the worst of and in you! The problem is when you try to tell something that against his feelings, he will gonna get angry and so, i get hurt all the more. Now, i have a defense mechanism to simply stay silent yet emotionally hurting and mentally disturbed.So, how can we start and keep a good friendship?Thanks for sharing your ideas.
• United States
23 May 11
There are many ways to work on maintaining a marriage, such as communication, companionship, compromise, compatibility and honesty. But they are not ultimate nor everlasting. Sometimes relationships just end. People change, life changes, people grow apart and the relationship just stops working. In those cases, it is better to separate and just move on with your lives. Just because a relationship used to work doesn't mean it always will and there is nothing wrong, disgusting or tragic about that.
@DoctorDidi (7030)
• India
13 May 11
Obviously love is the prime factor. But it should be supported by mutual understanding, respect to each other and faith in one another. Deviation from any of them may act as an obstacle in a healthy marital life.