She becomes to be more gentle after she had a kid

Vietnam
May 13, 2011 9:46pm CST
She's my neighbor. She lives with her husband and a son. I must say that she's an unpleasant person. She doesn't like to communicate to others. She usually wrangles with her husband and to speak loudly with her son. Her neighbors must stand this. However, everything seem change after she had a little son. She has stopped to argue with her husband and the elder son. She has started to talk to others. And she has tried to make relationship with us. Does the new kid make her change? Is she better because the kid?
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12 responses
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Most of the mothers I know changed because of their new babies. It's because they already feel that they are responsible taking care of the kids and that when they show to their kids that they have this bad attitude, the kids might be afraid of her and sometimes would end up that they won't be able to respect her when they grow older.
@jackgone (50)
• China
15 May 11
hello.I have not been a mother or father.But i can understand what you said.a woman can be more gentle after she had a kid.to give birth a baby,it needs 9months to prepare.during that time,the woman should encounter many issues of walking,eating,sleeping and so on.we can ensure that it is a hard time for someone to live.after giving birth a baby,it can get relax.what will she feel?just you get the payment after hard work.you can be very proud of it.to love it beyond yourself.you will struggle to work to get more money.in this process you have changed.woman will be more gentle for looking after a kid needed.that is my thought.thanks
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
14 May 11
It is possible that her aspect of being a new mother and a parent, her child could have made her look at life more differently. She probably was lonely, stressed and bitter before she had a child and that could be the real reason why she was so argumentative. Or she could have been pregnant during the time that she was acting in this way too.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
14 May 11
Yes she is. Having kids does that to you. That is why people should not say that someone should not have children, because they woud be a horrible mother. I read somewhere that it takes having two children before the gentleness kicks in. So I thnk that is what happened in her case. So it is her having the new son.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
14 May 11
Hi Tkonlinevn, I would say this involves a biological change and physical change i her. A kid has truly changed her world and it can be harmonically too which made her feel satisfied and happy that makes the change in her attitude and behaviour.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
14 May 11
I think being a mother will definitely tame someone down. It's good in a way that she has change. But you mean this is her second son?
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
14 May 11
Maybe being a fresh and new mother has made her calm down a little bit. I guess she sees now that she needs to be extra gentle because fo the baby.
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
14 May 11
maybe she realized things in life, she realized that her attitude is far from what she wants her son to be. and perhaps those are the things that made her decide to make changes. im glad that she's now a better person, i hope people will give her another chance.
• United States
14 May 11
I want to take the positive approach here and say that she has given her life a once over. Meaning that she finally realized that her attitude and or ways will affect her babies future behaviors. I do know people like this who spend an eternity being mean and then once a child comes along it is as if they are completely different people. I want to say that whatever the reason is, it is a positive approach. See her previous behavior would have a lot of impact on the child's future behavior so if in fact it is the child many should friend her nicely and continue her positive attitude.
@SIMPLYD (79764)
• Philippines
14 May 11
Well, maybe in a way the birth of a younger son did helped her change. In addition, , that as one grows older, one mellows and get to change some bad traits. I speak through my experience. When i was younger, i am really war freak. I would get angry at the slightest mistake. But when i get married and had a child, i noticed that i became kinder. I now know how to be patient and how to control my temper. Though, of course sometimes, it still could be seen from me, but not as frequent anymore, as when i was younger.
@chuyins123 (2118)
• Philippines
14 May 11
It would be a frantic conclusion and presumption that the new child brought change in her. But it still good, for whatever reasons she started to change. It is never too late to make amends, to change and to build relationships. Life is not all about the money, fame, popularity or wealth or power it's more about RELATIONSHIPS. So maybe she'd become aware that what matters most in life are not the material and tangible things that most people crave for, but it's those strings that connects people with each other as humans that we shall call "RELATIONSHIP"... Help her have a radical change, build relationship with her. Who knows, she'd be a great friend of yours in the future... God bless you and your relationships. Have a happy life! chuyins
@allknowing (65198)
• India
14 May 11
You have assumed that the baby has changed her. There could be other reasons. It could just be a coincidence that she has realised to change. Anyway it is not difficult to believe that new born baby could change a mother's attitude.