How important is "I Love You" to you?

Philippines
May 13, 2011 11:29pm CST
How often do you say I love you to your partner? Would you believe that I have been with my husband for 15 years without saying I love you? We have a very smooth relationship. We are like best friends but we do not say "I love you" to each other. Well, once a year maybe...LOL. It is because he calls me an "I love you" person. I am used to saying I love you to my cousins, my friends and everyone special to me. For him, saying I love you does not make him any special. So what does he usually tell me? "You made my day!" =) How about you? How often do you say I love you to your partner and what do you usually use instead of I love you?
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@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
14 May 11
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we say "i love you" every single day to each other. We say I love you after every call. I know it sounds too much but it just turned out this way. In the beginning, we did not say. However, after some months together, my boyfriend suggested that we could say I love you at the end of every phone call. Because i was 16 then and my parents were very against our relationship and so we did not have much chance to meet. Therefore, we started saying i love in in a bid to remind ourself how much we love each other and that just acts as motivation for us. Five years down, we now are into the habit of saying i love you at the end of every call. Indeed, it might seem meaningless when it is repeated so many times during the day. however, it reinforce and reminds us that there is someone who loves us. I know that if by saying this, we don't mean it then there's no point. However, this is just the habit that we ahve.
• Philippines
14 May 11
i find it sweet for people in love to say I love you to each other too. In your case, saying I love you is the most assuring word you want to hear. I am so happy for you.
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@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
14 May 11
Yes, that's why we insist on saying I Love you after every call. It's different for every couple and it's interesting too.
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• China
14 May 11
I don't say"I love you" very often,because when you say it very often it kinda lose its value.
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• Philippines
14 May 11
some people find it that way but some people just want to say and hear I love you as an assurance. It rally depends on what you both are used to.
• United States
14 May 11
I tell my guy I love him Every day. before him I thought I didn't need the words as long as i feel them. I mean I thought as long as a guy Shows me he loves me I wouldn't need the words. Boy was I wrong. Every time my guy tells me he loves me , my heart fills with joy. Every time I say I love you to him, he smiles. Unlike you , he is the only one I say I love you to. So He Knows he is so special to me. But that's us. 15 years of bliss is great to hear about!
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• Philippines
14 May 11
That makes us different. What excites me our anniversary. Every wedding anniversary, we reminisce the days when we were still friends and how we become lovers. It is when we hear our I love you's again and it really feels different. You will feel the same magic you feel when you were still starting. I guess staying to be close friends while in our marriage is what makes us stay stronger and love each other more each day.
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@sunny5u (2072)
• India
14 May 11
Hi hpalm, i say to my girlfriend, every often, almost in every call, sometimes when i'm busy and i don't say her, she makes her face just like a small baby , she is such a cute pie :).
• Philippines
14 May 11
yeah, girls just wanna hear assurance from the ones we love.. no matter how you say it but the most used word and the sweetest of all is of course "I love you".
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@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
14 May 11
hello, Wow, that's soo sweet even your not telling each other the I LOVE YOU word it makes still special when he is saying that to you. My boyfriend used to said it to me every minute and every time he said it to me I felt really important to him. So, maybe we have different kinds of showing how we love.
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• Philippines
14 May 11
I would also love to hear that from him...before, when we were still friends because that is how we usually say goodbye, after a group date or after every call but when we were together, it seems just like an ordinary goodbye so I was just amazed when one day, instead of I love you, he just said "You made my day" and since then, I did not hear him say I love you.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
14 May 11
For me and my husband its more of actions rather than words. We speak of it sometimes but I think what's best is just to show our love for each other.
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• Philippines
14 May 11
I agree. In our case, I think it is a lot more effort we exert to make sure that our partner will feel the love we do not say.
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@Jailey (107)
• China
14 May 11
I like to hear 'I love you' from my husband, and also I will say that when I am moved or just he was angry, and that time, we just feel the heart together, and till now, I do not say 'I love you' to the other people I care, for I think the important person in my heart is my husband, and also I love my parents, my brother, and even my children in the future, but I think that love is differnet, the love between me and my husband is special.
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• Philippines
14 May 11
i think that is what's wrong. We were friends before and I used to say I love you to him like all my other friends so when we fall in love, we stopped saying I love you. Some people think it is weird but I just find it cute. :)
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
14 May 11
it is important, for me, i think i love yous are good and it keeps you assured of your partner's feeling for you... and i guess it wont hurt to say it if you do mean it to...
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@cloud31 (5811)
15 May 11
Myself doesn't always say the word "I LOVE YOU " I don't have much courage saying that so often but I love to hear that phrase from him. Sometimes he nagged about not saying or responding his words when he says I LOVE YOU. For me its not merely important saying that phrase so often.Its my feelings towards him that counts though I'm not saying it always I can show it through my actions. Well, i believe in the sayings called. Actions speak louder than words. When He say I love you i would replies back, "likewise" ..That's so funny. Happy myLotting!
• Philippines
15 May 11
in my case, whenever he tells me he loves me, I make sure to say the same to him so he would know how I really love him.
@katieh (151)
14 May 11
To be honest, almost never. I'm a writer. I believe in "show, not tell" :) He's my best friend. I trust him. I share everything with him. I want to spend time with him (and do, unless there's a specific reason we have to be apart). He's part of me. I don't say "I love you" to my right arm, either.
• Philippines
15 May 11
you are just so like my husband so every little move he makes, I appreciate big time.
@gstitzer (104)
• United States
14 May 11
We say I love you alot although I have found that they are just words and that actions speak louder than words. So sometimes you can say I love you without saying a word.
• Philippines
14 May 11
I agree and in most cases, it is not just what you say but what you really meant when you say it.
• Portugal
14 May 11
i dont have a lover right now. but when i had i always told him those words. i guess is very important to tell that to your loved one. about you dont tell to your lover is ok bcs he knows how you feel. you are married since 15 years so i guess he really knows you love him a lot. sometimes isnt necessary to say those words if person shows you everyday how he loves you through actions. if kisses you a lot, if holds you a lot, if always say to his friends how important you are to him or if whenever you argue he says sorry and try to make things right is bcs really loves and cares. is like people say sometimes words arent needed^^
• Philippines
14 May 11
In some cases, it depends on how your partner used to treat you. Hope you can find someone to love very soon. :)
@nezavisima (7423)
• Bulgaria
14 May 11
Me and my husband often tell ourselves that we love. It is very nice to tell you that they love to hear it from your favorite.For me it is very important because if you do not tell me she loved me then something lame. So love must be shown and is said to be demonstrated. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
14 May 11
I get your point and it really is so sweet hearing the person you love telling you they love you. But in our case, we come up with a word that means a lot more than saying I love you.
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
saying I love you to the person that dearest to you is the best way to express and show how important he/her in your Life,It is the best word to say to make one heart to smile. three words but meaningful expression of our deep love and devotion.. Every time we talk or exchange messages I always express my love to him, by simply saying I love you and my heart belongs to you:)
@moirai (1472)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Ahhh! That's very nice. =) I guess that shows that, when it comes to words, the more important thing is the affection or sentiment behind it, not necessarily just the actual words... (I hope I made sense. =P )