how's the feeling of being adopted?
May 16, 2011 1:56am CST
First of all, I am a biological daughter of my mom and dad. I have friends who were adopted by other people, not even in their blood line. a friend of mine shared her experience about how she was being raised by this lovely couple. It touched my heart so much. her new found parents proven their dedication and love for her. my friend knows the truth of being an adopted child but surprisingly, she accepted who she was. when she got married, her parents gave their full support. they were even thankful that they had another additional member of the family that's her husband. I asked her did she bother to look for her biological parents and she answered affirmatively. she doesn't even hated them for she realized that without her being given away, she wouldn't even experienced a very good life now. so she included her parents in her prayers. she wanted to tell them that they made the right choice.if not for them, she wouldn't have all these these things now. please share your experience.
16 May 11
I'm not adopted and I'd be psyched if I am. Your friend is courageous and a very nice person. Instead of hating her true parents, she still loves them and pray for them. In my opinion, not many would feel the same thing. I always thought an adopted child would feel hatred for their biological parents because they gave him/her away.
• United States
15 Aug 12
I think that every situation is different. My sister and I were abandoned when she was 2 months old and I was 2 years old. Our parents just left us and the sheriff found us several days later. If you are interested in the story of our lives you can read my articles as follows: http://gomestic.com/family/journey-of-discovery-part-one http://gomestic.com/family/journey-of-discovery-part2 http://gomestic.com/family/i-meet-my-sister I never hated my parents although I did wonder why someone would do something like that. But, I know that people are just people and many make bad decisions. My mother went to prison for leaving us. That was many years ago in 1950. I am 64 years old now and my sister is 62. We found each other again last September. We had both been adopted by different families.
18 Aug 12
oh if i am in front of you now i would be speechless. well, let's all consider ourselves lucky since we're all given the chances of living life the way we want to after some tragedies and hurtful events in our lives. If i were to take a poll of the struggles we all face i am sure the list will be endless. Life has its struggles & battles but it’s how we live life that counts.hope all is well with you guys at present.
16 May 11
in my opinion, being adopted is a second chance to live, because if someone's biological parent can't give them a descent or normal life it's good that they decided to give them away with someone who can raise them in a normal situation. so i don't get it why other people when they found out that they were being adopted they get mad and usually rebel. i think it should be something they should thank for that someone took the responsibility of their real parents, raise them and treated them like their own
16 May 11
that's exactly the point.adopted children should be thankful for that. adoption is another way families are created.The child did not grow inside the woman's body. But in every other way, adoptive parents are the child's parents. By going through this legal process of adoption, they are promising to take care of the child and make him or her part of their family.when a child was raised well by the parents adopting him, i think there is no reason for any form of rebellion or such related feelings.most people who are adopted go through a season when difficult issues come to a head and need to be dealt with but as long as they're not being hurt then i think it would be so all right.
• United Kingdom
4 Jun 11
I have a friend and when he grew up he found he has a half sister that his dad got adopted and a half brother that his mom had got adopted. In the 1960s pregnant unmarried teenagers went to live at a home. Their baby was born and they had to care for their baby for six weeks. Then their baby was taken away and adopted. I think being adopted is a second chance to live. I believe they feel grateful that their adoptive parents wanted to have them and got them. A television presenter that co-presented "Long Lost Family" was adopted. His parents were a different religion. One was protestant and one was catholic. One of my friends was adopted from a life of neglect. Another of my friends was adopted and she doesn't know the story of her background before she was adopted. She loves her adoptive parents and doesn't want to meet her biological parents.
• United States
29 May 11
My husband and his brother were both adopted at birth. My husband has never searched for his biological parent because he feels that the people who raised him are in fact his parents. He never regretted being adopted and he has known for a long time. I feel it is important for a child to know if they were adopted and I feel that they should be told at a young age. I am glad that your friend had a great experience being adopted.
16 May 11
I also have adopted friends but I dared not ask them about it. I'm kind of worrying if how they would react to the question. I think, the parents who adopted your friend were really dedicated and loving. They treated your friend as theirs.
• United States
14 Aug 12
I think it is wonderful that your friend was adopted into a happy, healthy family. I was adopted when I was 2 years old (many years ago). Unfortunately my adopted family was not as loving as your friends but I survived and I was much older when I tried to locate my birth family. My birth parents are both deceased but I did discover that I had a sister 2 years younger than I am. We finally met in June 2012 and what an incredible meeting. We are so close it is amazing. We talk every few days over the phone because we live 1800 miles apart. BUT - we have a great relationship and plan to be nearer each other in the future. All things take time. I never held resentment toward my birth parents for giving us away, although they were not very responsible. AND I am thankful for my adopted parents, even though we don't get along and never did. I still learned many good things from them and they did rescue me from some very bad circumstances. So, I am grateful for the life I had with a family who took care of me when everyone else had run away!
18 Aug 11
I'm an adopted child myself and I'm thankful that wonderful people adopted me. I was able to grow up well and never had the feeling of being deprived of anything. If anything else, I was loved and cared for by my parents that there was never a time I would be reminded that I'm adopted. Some of my friends did ask me if I would bother to look for my biological dad (you see, my biological mom lives with us and my biological dad left us as soon as I was born. Her and my foster mom are siblings so in some way, we're blood related but I was able to feel more love from my foster mom than my real mom. But I know my real mom do loves me :) ) and I firmly said no. I really don't see the reason why I should find him. But if by chance we'll meet, I'd love to talk with him but that's simply it.