Comparing your discussions, then and now.

@JenInTN (27565)
United States
May 16, 2011 5:46am CST
I was thinking about the new members on myLot and I want to kind of give them a boost. When we started, more than likely, we had no clue as to the way things worked here. I know I didn't. I read the guidelines and here I went...not a friend in the Lot..lol. I started discussions under the "general" interest and would wait forever for responses that I wasn't getting. If I got just one..I was tickled pink. I looked back over my first discussions here and there are great differences in the way I write them now. I am much more detailed and always start them under certain interests. Thank goodness I had a couple of senior myLotters take me under their wing..lol. My first discussion was "Is ignorance always bliss?" And that was pretty much all there was to it. It could have probably been a good discussion had I detailed it a bit more. I got one response. I still have a couple of discussions from when I started that have 0. So how are your discussions compared from then and now? Are there differences that you can share that might help the new members get a heads up? New members..how are things going for you here? Is it as hard for you as it was for me?
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@bunnybon7 (37402)
• Holiday, Florida
16 May 11
oh yes. that same road i traveled when i first started. i had one or 2 with only one response. but like you, i learned as i went. i do try and help newbies, but some dont listen and some sure dont appreciate it. so maybe though some will be like i was and decide they really like socializing here. and become a fun member like you and many of my friends and hopefully do not get put off for it not being just what they thought right a way. some dont realise that the main perk of mylot is the friendship and experience they can get.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
17 May 11
That certainly has become the main perk for me. I guess it is kind of about what they are looking for here too...or maybe what they find. I try to help them too, but you are right, sometimes they don't listen...sometimes it takes time. Thanks for responding.
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@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
16 May 11
Hello Jen, If you are at one particular task for a long term with unbroken interest, it is likely that the quality of the input of the past and that of the present would be different. I do not say I was weak in English and learned this language through mylot, but must say that I have picked up different style of expression and new vocabulary. Initially I was a bit nonchalant towards the discussions here. Tree days after signing up I posted a topic and got only two responses. Then I went on posting and the responses too increased and did friends. Though not so much visible I see change in my inputs then and now.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 May 11
Hi rajibda That is what I too feel - quality diminishes - Economics?
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
16 May 11
Exactly!!!!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
Practice certainly does help to increase quality and when it comes to people from as many places as we all come from, different styles of expression is a challenge. There are ways that people might take offense that one never really considered before to think about too. We learn very quickly..lol...I am soo happy that I have got a friend base that is from all over the world. I have learned so much. I got very few responses to my first discussions. Maybe that is why I appreciate the ones I get now so much. Thanks for the response and take care.
@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
17 May 11
It was difficult first starting out on here. I remember having questions, read the guideline and had even more questions. I learned by default. I had alot of ) response discussions. But I learned something. I think they key is learning when your friends are on and posting during that time.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
17 May 11
It was difficult for me too and that is good advice. There is a trick sometimes to learning when the best time to post is. I don't think I have that one down pat yet either..lol...Thanks for the input.
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@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
18 May 11
I'm on so many different times during the day that I see when they are on and when they aren't. It has been real quiet lately.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
16 May 11
new or old mylotters still hard to do a good one as so many hear post one of what I think of and then I dont do mine as you see I dont start many but I respond to alot !
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
Responding is still a great part of it. Your responses really mean the world to me and I know they do to other people too. It is hard to come up with an original post because there are a lot of things that have been thought of. I bet there are some of mine that greatly resemble other members' but I try to stay original. Thanks for responding!
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
18 May 11
yes you do . when I first got here there was so many post on smoking I got sick of reading them lololol . I smoke and not gonna quit ububt I did get downloaded by some people about it but the this is a place to aggree to disagree if ya want to huh? lollollol
• United States
16 May 11
When I started I was so shy and very private. I was referred so I had one friend. If I remember correctly I stuck to what I knew and loved, movies and sports and t.v. What I would suggest to newbies is to pick interests you love . And when you find a person who responses you like , ask to be friends.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
Heyya Sarah! I used to start my discussions under the General category because I didn't know about the interest section...LOL...I was afraid of starting something that people wouldn't think applied to that section That is great advice!
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• United States
16 May 11
I wasn't afraid , I just said " What the hell?' and wrote my posts. To my surprise, many responded. And to this day I get amazed when I get deemed the best response.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
17 May 11
What do you mean?! Am I not new anymore?! I had the same exact experience when I started out here. I didn't know how to construct the discussion. A lot of the stuff I wrote then, I thought were very interesting. But apparently, they were not! I'm always reminded of it, when I visit the 'unresolved' tab, and I see my first few discussions with zero responses. Thank goodness for good myLot friends! They certainly help make me look like a genius nowadays, by always responding to what I post.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
18 May 11
Don't feel bad..lol...I have unresolved discussions with zeros too...lol...I tried to test the waters with a few unimportant discussions and then I started trying a few more serious ones. I'm sure my earlier discussions are terrible in comparison to some of the ones I started after some much needed advice from some senior members. I love my mylot friends too. They are very loyal. I try to always respond to them too. Thanks for responding and no..you are not new anymore.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
17 May 11
Good morning Jen, i have always enjoyed your discussions. I'll be honest & say i have a hard time finding discussions i enjoy & want to respond to anymore. I have always been fortunate to get respones to my discussions.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
18 May 11
Thank you Jo. I am glad that you enjoy them...I always enjoy yours too. It's very nice to have found a special neighbor too. Thanks for responding.
@SIMPLYD (83052)
• Philippines
17 May 11
When i was a newbie, my discussion would get a few responses only, others have none at all. What i did was to take note on discussions that have lots of responses. That's when i started making discussions that would get lots of responses, that sometimes i don't know what discussion of mine to comment back first. I also learned , not to make the discussion so lengthy, but be brief and descriptive also.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
18 May 11
I think there is an art to the discussion starting for sure. I try not to make mine to one group of people. I try to direct mine to many. I think that is kind of key too. There is also a good point...how descriptive..what is too long and what is not long enough. It can be tough to find that happy medium. Thanks for the response.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
17 May 11
hi Jeninten oh my discussions at first were sortof meek and mild and while I did get some responses they were fewer than I get now. I now' do try to make my discussions readable,understandable and worth responding to also. I also owe the success I now have to a veteran mylotter who told me to start responding more to others discussions so I would get my user name known, and she said we older ones will see you are a great responder and start responding back to your own discussions too.She also told me do not give a br out until your discussion has been here at least a week so your friends will have time to read your discussion and respond if they wish too She said giving them too soon also turns off a lot of newer users. I tried her suggestions and on one discussion I got over a hundred responses.My first ones were short and needed more expansion and more explanation. but I learned thanks to several here who told me what I needed to do. I can say I have never had any discussion that did not get at least four or five even as a newibie. one was about diabetes and I think had i worded it to include all people not just diabetic I woulsd have got a lot more responses. I am surprised Jen that you got none on some of yours as you sound most intelligent and write very well now in your discussions. I also got hung up on general then found by getting my discussions in the right interest I would get more readers and more responses too.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
18 May 11
Great advice! Thanks for sharng your experiences here in the beginning! I know it will help or inspire someone that really needs it. I was nowhere near as detailed when I started as I am now. The ones that I thought people would be interested in, they didn't seem so at all. I did this one about saliva stones that I was sure would amaze everyone. I was amazed when I heard a friend of mines husband had them and they had to be surgically removed. I think I got one response I think it just takes time and that letting people get to know me was a very important part of it. When I first came, there was a big troll scare and noone really wanted to accept new friends because of the trolls. I am glad that I have met the people I have here and learned so much. I hope that all the new members will have the chance to enjoy this site as much as I do.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 May 11
Yeah, it was hard, though my sponsor did help me a bit. Before he got banned. lol I don't have any zero response discussions though. I was sneaky and pm'd the links to friends who were willing, and they would always oblige me with a comment.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
There you go...great advice...being original in gathering responses! Thanks for the response!
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
16 May 11
What a grand thing you have done here. I wish I could have read such a discussion as this when I first started. It would have given me such a boost to realize others have as much problem as I did when I first started. For all the newbies who read this I thank you.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
Thank you savypat! I could've used me a pick me up at a few points too. I am so thankful for those members that knew the ropes and give me a chance to be their friends...you being one of them...thank you savypat
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 May 11
Hi JenInTN That is so sweet to read and know that life was quite the same way for many of us... even the seniors... but I guess reading some older discussions from the seniors that things were more complex those days when you people had started... Today the newbies (and even when I joined, me too), are quite blessed to have a company of seniors who at all steps guide us. I think I was lucky with some special people around me - the friend who got me here, knew that I wanted to share and learn... she told me that to be better here, all I need is patience and once I get the hang of it, things will be fine... My first discussion got me more responses - 6/7 in all but a few later ones got me only 2/3. Have been around here for over a year now with about 100+ discussions. I feel to have matured in the company of my fellow and senior lotters and have always tried to become a better person here and also in real world. A lot of things I have learned and hope to keep learning for good. What I find surprising still is the fact that there has been no positive changes at MyLot over the past so many months... we are still where we were when I had started.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
Hi thesids! It is sometimes easy to forget, but yes, we have all come from around the same place when we started. I think it can be very discouraging and I do thank my lucky stars that I had a couple of members that showed me kindness and lead me through. I hope that everyone remembers what is is like and tries to help. You actually did alot better than me when I started..lol..I was lucky to get one response. I'm glad I hung in there though..I have made some very special friends here. Thanks for sharing your experiences and advice.
@ajk111 (2527)
16 May 11
i think getting your head round why certain discussions get deleted has been the hardest for me. i love it on here but one of the main issues is the time difference. it is good to be on during the US members as they tend to be the best at creating discussions that you can interact on. (no offence intended european and Asian members ) i certainly hope that i improve over the coming months but that will depend on my soberity!
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
That is one of the hardest things to understand. The yes and no questions, in my opinion, are the biggest things. For example....instead of..."do you think people should wear a seatbelt" maybe you rephrase it to "Seat belt laws"...and then in the discussion describe the law in your area and what you think about..then you ask for opinions. I actually got one of my most responded discussions deleted for a little mistake like that. I like the fact that the people here are from so many different places. I have learned a ton of stuff from them. There is a language barrier sometimes though..but be patient and they can turn into some of your most loyal followers. Good luck here and take care.
@shibham (17025)
• India
16 May 11
hi jen... Almost same to you. The main difference is my english, as i am not a native english speaker, i had to struggle a lot at starting to write and understand. I opened dictionary beside me even i misunderstood writings. You will laugh at me that at the first time the meaning of "lol" was lots of love to me. Later i got the correct meaning. Now i have improved a lot but yet to learn more as i have to open dictionary now too. have a nice day.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
Hi shibham! Language can be a challenge for new members too. I think that by being patient and understanding, the new members will learn and excel like you. I always understand your posts and responses. I would have never thought you struggled with it at all. Congrats. That will be a great motivator to others when they see yoour post here. I would hate to think that a new member give up because of language barriers..there is so much to learn from one another. Thanks for responding!
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
Exactly! Shibham will be someone to look forward to among my friends here in mylot. I have seen his progress in using the English language though I'm not telling him. Hi shibham... continue it!!! for you. By the way do you know someone named Stephany in Skype? =)
@shibham (17025)
• India
4 Jun 11
Hi baby... Thanks for your compliments.. I dont know anyone as you mentioned as i have no account on skype now. Take care.
• Philippines
16 May 11
When I was still new here, I started posting right away knowing I can earn money from here. Although notifications were turned off so I didn't know if my discussions got responses or got deleted. I always turn off notifications then because I thought they're just nuisances. I guess I grew learning that everything in your inbox that doesn't really interests you are spam. In a way, myLot changed me. Anyway, I thought people here were also ONLY after the money but I was wrong. There are a lot of nice people here who won't think twice of helping noobs like me back then. They'll tell that what you're doing is wrong and guide you where you have to go. I mean, there were a lot of responses I made that got deleted back then (besides those duplicates I always make ) but I know that the learning process is almost always progressive. You don't learn a roundhouse kick right after your master demonstrates it.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 May 11
Hi frontvisions! I know what you mean about thinking that it was all about the money...I learned that it was more than that for the members here. It became more than that for me too. I remember a senior member fussing at me because I wasn't detailed enough..LOL. There are a lot of members that helped me get on track too. Thanks for the input!
• Philippines
16 May 11
Yeah, there are seniors here who seem to don't know how to say things nicely. I got the same thing back then. They seem to act like they're gods around here. I don't appreciate that and I'm sure a lot of newbies feel the same way.