Comparing your discussions, then and now.

oh yes. that same road i traveled when i first started. i had one or 2 with only one response. but like you, i learned as i went. i do try and help newbies, but some dont listen and some sure dont appreciate it. so maybe though some will be like i was and decide they really like socializing here. and become a fun member like you and many of my friends and hopefully do not get put off for it not being just what they thought right a way. some dont realise that the main perk of mylot is the friendship and experience they can get.

Hello Jen, If you are at one particular task for a long term with unbroken interest, it is likely that the quality of the input of the past and that of the present would be different. I do not say I was weak in English and learned this language through mylot, but must say that I have picked up different style of expression and new vocabulary. Initially I was a bit nonchalant towards the discussions here. Tree days after signing up I posted a topic and got only two responses. Then I went on posting and the responses too increased and did friends. Though not so much visible I see change in my inputs then and now.

new or old mylotters still hard to do a good one as so many hear post one of what I think of and then I dont do mine as you see I dont start many but I respond to alot !

When I started I was so shy and very private. I was referred so I had one friend. If I remember correctly I stuck to what I knew and loved, movies and sports and t.v. What I would suggest to newbies is to pick interests you love . And when you find a person who responses you like , ask to be friends.

It was difficult first starting out on here. I remember having questions, read the guideline and had even more questions. I learned by default. I had alot of ) response discussions. But I learned something. I think they key is learning when your friends are on and posting during that time.

What do you mean?! Am I not new anymore?! I had the same exact experience when I started out here. I didn't know how to construct the discussion. A lot of the stuff I wrote then, I thought were very interesting. But apparently, they were not! I'm always reminded of it, when I visit the 'unresolved' tab, and I see my first few discussions with zero responses. Thank goodness for good myLot friends! They certainly help make me look like a genius nowadays, by always responding to what I post.

hi Jeninten oh my discussions at first were sortof meek and mild and while I did get some responses they were fewer than I get now. I now' do try to make my discussions readable,understandable and worth responding to also. I also owe the success I now have to a veteran mylotter who told me to start responding more to others discussions so I would get my user name known, and she said we older ones will see you are a great responder and start responding back to your own discussions too.She also told me do not give a br out until your discussion has been here at least a week so your friends will have time to read your discussion and respond if they wish too She said giving them too soon also turns off a lot of newer users. I tried her suggestions and on one discussion I got over a hundred responses.My first ones were short and needed more expansion and more explanation. but I learned thanks to several here who told me what I needed to do. I can say I have never had any discussion that did not get at least four or five even as a newibie. one was about diabetes and I think had i worded it to include all people not just diabetic I woulsd have got a lot more responses. I am surprised Jen that you got none on some of yours as you sound most intelligent and write very well now in your discussions. I also got hung up on general then found by getting my discussions in the right interest I would get more readers and more responses too.

Yeah, it was hard, though my sponsor did help me a bit. Before he got banned. lol I don't have any zero response discussions though. I was sneaky and pm'd the links to friends who were willing, and they would always oblige me with a comment.

Good morning Jen, i have always enjoyed your discussions. I'll be honest & say i have a hard time finding discussions i enjoy & want to respond to anymore. I have always been fortunate to get respones to my discussions.

What a grand thing you have done here. I wish I could have read such a discussion as this when I first started. It would have given me such a boost to realize others have as much problem as I did when I first started. For all the newbies who read this I thank you.

hi jen... Almost same to you. The main difference is my english, as i am not a native english speaker, i had to struggle a lot at starting to write and understand. I opened dictionary beside me even i misunderstood writings. You will laugh at me that at the first time the meaning of "lol" was lots of love to me. Later i got the correct meaning. Now i have improved a lot but yet to learn more as i have to open dictionary now too. have a nice day.

Hi JenInTN That is so sweet to read and know that life was quite the same way for many of us... even the seniors... but I guess reading some older discussions from the seniors that things were more complex those days when you people had started... Today the newbies (and even when I joined, me too), are quite blessed to have a company of seniors who at all steps guide us. I think I was lucky with some special people around me - the friend who got me here, knew that I wanted to share and learn... she told me that to be better here, all I need is patience and once I get the hang of it, things will be fine... My first discussion got me more responses - 6/7 in all but a few later ones got me only 2/3. Have been around here for over a year now with about 100+ discussions. I feel to have matured in the company of my fellow and senior lotters and have always tried to become a better person here and also in real world. A lot of things I have learned and hope to keep learning for good. What I find surprising still is the fact that there has been no positive changes at MyLot over the past so many months... we are still where we were when I had started.

When i was a newbie, my discussion would get a few responses only, others have none at all. What i did was to take note on discussions that have lots of responses. That's when i started making discussions that would get lots of responses, that sometimes i don't know what discussion of mine to comment back first. I also learned , not to make the discussion so lengthy, but be brief and descriptive also.

i think getting your head round why certain discussions get deleted has been the hardest for me. i love it on here but one of the main issues is the time difference. it is good to be on during the US members as they tend to be the best at creating discussions that you can interact on. (no offence intended european and Asian members ) i certainly hope that i improve over the coming months but that will depend on my soberity!

When I was still new here, I started posting right away knowing I can earn money from here. Although notifications were turned off so I didn't know if my discussions got responses or got deleted. I always turn off notifications then because I thought they're just nuisances. I guess I grew learning that everything in your inbox that doesn't really interests you are spam. In a way, myLot changed me. Anyway, I thought people here were also ONLY after the money but I was wrong. There are a lot of nice people here who won't think twice of helping noobs like me back then. They'll tell that what you're doing is wrong and guide you where you have to go. I mean, there were a lot of responses I made that got deleted back then (besides those duplicates I always make ) but I know that the learning process is almost always progressive. You don't learn a roundhouse kick right after your master demonstrates it.