Take leave for relax
By yspmyl
@yspmyl (3435)
Malaysia
May 19, 2011 6:03am CST
Just yesterday, my wife ask me, can take 2 days leave from you? She said she need a totally free two day without anybody, including without any children at all, because she need to take a good rest and relax herself. She have not really rest and relax after we have children. My both sons are sticking to her everyday, wherever she go, they will want to follow and when they want to sleep, they want her to pat them to sleep. She really deserve a good rest, may be I will take care of the two children for a few days and let her relax. But I am not sure whether the children will let her go or not. 
What is your view on this? Have you ever want to go away for a while from home to relax yourself?
What is your view on this? Have you ever want to go away for a while from home to relax yourself?3 people like this
11 responses
@craftyhomebody (443)
• United States
20 May 11
yes i go away once a year to my parents house and i have time for myself they send me a plane ticket just so i can get away for all the stress and it is really nice to go home
@keenan_savio (416)
• India
20 May 11
Hey rather than let her relax alone may be take a vacation. Dont go somewhere too far but may be to a place that is an hour or two away and the entire family enjoy. I know that you have mentioned that she wants to be left totally alone but I guess the vacation is the best was to destress ourselfs and relax and enjoy. cheers have fun..
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
19 May 11
its hard to do when your kids are little but when they are older, its much easier. my kids are teens and dont really like to hang around mom or dad that much anymore. so for me, its easy to hide in the house with a good book and not be bugged for an hour or so.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
23 May 11
That dream of not disturbance from the kids will only become true in another 10 more years to come. 
My son the elders is only 4 year old and the youngest one only 2, so, there will be many more year before we can really relax ourself without any disturbance. So, we have to find other way to relax ourself that is leave the house for sometime. 
My son the elders is only 4 year old and the youngest one only 2, so, there will be many more year before we can really relax ourself without any disturbance. So, we have to find other way to relax ourself that is leave the house for sometime. 
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
19 May 11
I am not married yet and don't have any kids. I constantly hear from my colleague that after they had kids, they can't have good rest. And there are always some kind of "issues" to be taken care of. That's also why i consider being parent is quite a dedicated job.
I am having the "wanting to leave" thoughts myself. Maybe work is quite overwhelming. And after i graduated from school, i haven't take any long vaca. It makes me feel really tired and want to have time of my own.
Perhaps this is a common desire of women who are not as tough as men.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
23 May 11
You are right, you will never have a good rest after your have kid, it is better to enjoy your life before you have children. 
. All your time will be occupied by your kid. Once your give birth, you have to wake up every 2 hour to feed your baby and from there start the " restless nightmare" . That is why when sometime it is too tension and feel like cannot breath through, we always think to want to take a leave or go for relax our body and soul for some time. But when come to reality, it is always not easy.
. All your time will be occupied by your kid. Once your give birth, you have to wake up every 2 hour to feed your baby and from there start the " restless nightmare" . That is why when sometime it is too tension and feel like cannot breath through, we always think to want to take a leave or go for relax our body and soul for some time. But when come to reality, it is always not easy.1 person likes this
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
19 May 11
Ya i think it better for her to take rest and destress from mothering and being your wife.2 days is ok not too much.Some worst case take separation which is longer period and more worst.I think it is better for her to let go steam and such and take a personal holiday doing what she like to do in free time.Sometime she is a human being too and need to take leava and rest.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
19 May 11
Everybody needs a break once in a while. I have felt the want to be away from everyone once but I didn't really take the break coz I had no where else to go. But everything turned out fine eventually =)
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
19 May 11
Hello yspmyl,
I thought you are the mother of the children now only understand you are the father.
I asked my hubby to the same question, can I take leave for two days from the kitchen, just for joking and I know it is not possible. How can I leave my kids behind and take rest without them. Even if I wish they won’t allow me because they are small. My younger one (4 year old) is so caring if I am ill and take rest, he comes near and sit near and ask what happened and spend time with me. Usually I don’t take rest unless the matter is too serious. In your case, I think she is joking and I don’t think she can leave you and kids for her relaxation.
I asked my hubby to the same question, can I take leave for two days from the kitchen, just for joking and I know it is not possible. How can I leave my kids behind and take rest without them. Even if I wish they won’t allow me because they are small. My younger one (4 year old) is so caring if I am ill and take rest, he comes near and sit near and ask what happened and spend time with me. Usually I don’t take rest unless the matter is too serious. In your case, I think she is joking and I don’t think she can leave you and kids for her relaxation.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
23 May 11
Hi Sreekala,
Do I sound like a mother of the children? , I hope there will be no different either I am a mother or a father, right?
I think most of the kids will like to stick to the mother rather than the father. Like my wife, my son will only want her to accompany them to sleep unless she is not at home. Otherwise, they will stick to her all the time. For me, she can always take leave for relax because I can actually take care of my kids by myself, I can cook and do anything they want but just that when come to sleeping time, especially in the middle of the night, they will look for their mother first when they suddenly wakeup.
, I hope there will be no different either I am a mother or a father, right?
I think most of the kids will like to stick to the mother rather than the father. Like my wife, my son will only want her to accompany them to sleep unless she is not at home. Otherwise, they will stick to her all the time. For me, she can always take leave for relax because I can actually take care of my kids by myself, I can cook and do anything they want but just that when come to sleeping time, especially in the middle of the night, they will look for their mother first when they suddenly wakeup.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
21 May 11
Hi. yspmyl. That is very thoughtful of you to do this for your wife. I am a mother of three kids and my husband works up to eight to nine hours everyday. So, I am usually in the need of a break from our kids. I have told him so many times that I would love to take a break and leave him with our children so that he can take care of them while I go away or rest. It is what we busy moms need. I need a break everyday to be honest with you. I have one child that is still in school, and my daughter has been out of school for about two weeks now. I need a break, and when I take a nap, I usually will try to take one when my kids are quiet. Try to help your wife out, many wives would love for their husband to chip in so that they can relax themselves. Taking care of children is a big job, even if a mother is not getting paid for it. So, if your wife wishes to take a break, offer to keep the kids while she is resting or gone away.
I am a mother of three kids and my husband works up to eight to nine hours everyday. So, I am usually in the need of a break from our kids. I have told him so many times that I would love to take a break and leave him with our children so that he can take care of them while I go away or rest. It is what we busy moms need. I need a break everyday to be honest with you. I have one child that is still in school, and my daughter has been out of school for about two weeks now. I need a break, and when I take a nap, I usually will try to take one when my kids are quiet. Try to help your wife out, many wives would love for their husband to chip in so that they can relax themselves. Taking care of children is a big job, even if a mother is not getting paid for it. So, if your wife wishes to take a break, offer to keep the kids while she is resting or gone away.
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
21 May 11
It is good to let your wife to rest for a while.
In my past, my wife and I were taking turns to take care of our three children during the weekends.
During the weekdays, my children were taking care by the nanny. They would return home in every evening.
For us, we were very enjoy to spend our times with our children because we were very hard to have time with them.
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
30 May 11
I have needed a break from the kids. My husband was out to Sea at the time so I had some family watch them for a few days while I collected my thoughts. Being a parent is very demanding. Being a stay at home Mom your constantly working. I never leave my job. I always tell my husband you come home and its a different atmosphere. Your seeing ppl you havent seen all day. Im still cleaning, cooking, getting things ready for the next day, taking care of the kids. I sit down to watch a show and Im intterupted constantly, even after they go to bed. I think its good for a Mom to get a break for a few days. She need to be able to collect her thoughts and rest. Or even get away with friends for a cpl days. Haivng fam watch the kids and having a cpls vacation is nice too. Seems you get married and become parents you forget you need time for yourselves as well. It wld be great for you to watch the kids and they will do fine. This will allow them to build a stronger relationship with you as well.
@ludyvel04 (311)
• Philippines
20 May 11
Why not give her time to relax. She deserves it. I do receive invitations for night out after work but as a mother I refused the invitation cause its so tiring and I have to attend to my child's needs. I am busy preparing things for my son before I go to work. I haven't had enough time to rest. What I consider relaxation is when I got enough time with my son. You know how big the responsibility of being a parent specially being a mother who's suppose to stay in home and do all stuffs for the husband and children. Sometimes, I wish to go on vacation but I can't because I need to take my son with me. Maybe, I'll just have time to relax..go on vacation...when he's not that so young to be always accompanied by me.
