Do you believe that FRIENDS are BAD influence?

Philippines
May 19, 2011 8:07am CST
Hey guys, i just want to know your ideas in these question "Do you believe that FRIENDS are BAD influence?" I'm just curious because other people said that friends are just a hindrance to you and sometimes a temptation to. And others also said that friends are your inspiration in life and the people who always there in good times and bad times. Because i have a friend a friend for a long time and we have a misunderstanding and i am so confused what to do. Hope you can help me guys. Happy commenting...
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17 responses
• Philippines
19 May 11
it is both yes, and no. it depends on what type of friends you have on your side. if they're the type that will always be with you no matter what may come, they're true friends and they're not a hindrance. you call the inspirations, someone to help you when in need. if they're the type that does what they want, get sweet and everything when they need something from you, and making you do something not worth doing at all, then. they're hindrance. they're not helping you to improve you life, they're just enjoying themselves. having friends is good. but you have to be careful in choosing your friends. if you have a misunderstanding with your friend. do not be confused. clear away the misunderstanding. contact him/her and regain your friendship again. it's nice to have friends. don't lose them., ^^
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• Philippines
20 May 11
That's so true, if he/she is a good friend, a simple misunderstanding won't stand in between you. And if he/she is a good friend of you don't let a simple misunderstanding destroy your friendship. But if you consider that friend a bad influence. Than it is better that you let him/her go. Good friends are the one to keep, and they will never live your side, no matter what. (^^,)
• India
20 May 11
Hi John, I think friends are the biggest Influence but not surely the BAD always. In-fact, if their is a friend who is misguiding or of not the same thinking as you are, he is still giving you some ideas of how the life is and you would come across so many people like him who could use you for their own benefits or can harm you while showing you some other colors. So, their could be some learning's from such bad influences as well. But I still firmly believe that friends are the most wonderful influence..!!
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@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
20 May 11
Hi there, my answer would be it depends... it depends on the people you have chosen to hang out with. as for me, i always try to stay away from people whom i think won't do no good.... i am grateful that i have a nice circle of friends and they have always been there to support me... they never pushed me to do something that i never liked... i consider my college friends from st. scholastica's college-manila my real good friends... they have always been supportive, fun to be with, i can easily relate with them, etc...
@misterMR (796)
• Philippines
20 May 11
I made a discussion of this before. So yeah. This depends on the peers you are with. No matter how good they are, they could also be bad inside. You may not know. I do not really want to judge my friends through that way. There are some of my friends especially my dormmates, who are really bad influence. I try not to go with them that much.
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@moirai (2842)
• Philippines
20 May 11
Hmm... I think friends can be a bad influence sometimes. But they can be a good influence sometimes too. It really depends on what the situation is, what the involvement of your friend is, or what your friend is telling you... Uhm... I do not know exactly how I could help you... would it be ok if you give some more detail in this misunderstanding you have with your friend?
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• Indonesia
20 May 11
It will depend on your thinking. If you feel your friend seems so annoying, you can say that your friend is a bad influence, yet if you don't think so, you can feel that your friend is a good one for you. I think the kind of situation can make different for another time. For example, you and your mate are going together, but your best friend is between the two of you. Your friend seems don't know what you want, so you will think that your friend is a bad influence.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
20 May 11
It depends on what kind of friends you choose. If you choose bad people as friends, then of course they are a bad influence, but if you choose good people, then they are going to be a good influence.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 May 11
hi r3john I truly believe I am a much better persons for having the friends I do here and off line. I have someone to talk to who knows me better than myself and to leand a shoulder to cry oh when life throws me a curve, and I do the same for my best friend. even here where I only know my great friends through my lot I have been helped so much and learned so much too. I really feel my friends have been a blessing to me in all ways.John try to talk things out with you friend as perhaps the misunderstanding can be straightened out. If you feel it might have been your fault do apologize or if its the other way round try to find out why your friend is acting that way. Friendship is too precious to give up on it.
• Mexico
19 May 11
Hi r john: Friends shouldn't be a bad influence to you... if you know how to chose them well. Some people can make you change or they will bring you the wrong ideas. These are the ones you should avoid in your life because they are actually a bad influence. We all think that we are strong enough and that we won't be influenced but if we stay too long with someone that is not good, we will learn part of his/her behaviour. It depends to you to look for the good influences. ALVARO
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
19 May 11
It depends on what kind of person have you chosen to be with. I am glad that my friends are not bad influence more so they are sensible. I have misunderstanding with others as well but if I can't really handle it I really have to back out. That is the only thing I can do.
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@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
20 May 11
Welcome to mylot, r3john_10 I believe in that saying, but they can also be good influence- which is why I choose my friends well- since they can either make or break you. If i were in the same situation as you, i would try my best not to lose a long time friend like that- you should just talk to him and apologize, even though it may not be your fault..
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
20 May 11
Bad company corrupt good character. - Better start early mix with good influence.
YEs bad friends do corrupt good character because monkey see monkey do, so better start early to put yourself or children in good example children.However, some no choise but to mix around and not become racist or something so do have to mix around teach them what is bad and they can made decision to do wat is good and avoid what is bad.IF u mix with bad people in bad enviroment u are looking for trouble.
@iklananda (1202)
19 May 11
Bad friends is a bad influence to other people they want to their friend to be like them and that'sis the cool way to do that.
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• Mexico
19 May 11
my personal answer will be yes, no m atter what kind of friends we have also depends on how good friends we are, all of us know that real good friends are not there for dozens, real friends maybe are 1 or two the others are just people who we know them only, we talk, go to school a coworker etc, since we all are different, we have different ideas some like to gossip this is my thinking when two or more friends are together, many great good things can happend, or many real bad thing also can happend.
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
19 May 11
If you try to cut off all influence from other people, you will be free to screw up your life all on your own. People influence in all kinds of ways - both friends and acquaintences. Most people, over a period of time, will be a mix of good and bad influence. We must learn to sift out that which comes to us, and combine it with who we are. Then we must make our own decisions and realize the responsibility is ours. Even long time friendships can have bumpy times. Be patient and slow to throw that friendship away. Be careful how you respond to the stress.
• Philippines
20 May 11
I don't think Friends are bad influences. There are good friends and bad friends. But our choices and decisions are always our own. We build up our own path and destiny. We might have some inputs and be influenced by friends. But if we choose to be bad, it is because we choose to do it. They might be hindrances or temptations, but we have to chose and keep good friends. In your case, just try to talk to your long time friend, if it is only a misunderstanding it will be quickly resolve. Good luck to you hope you can resolve your misunderstanding with your friend. (^^,)
@mythociate (21438)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
19 May 11
No, of course not!... and yes ... Yes, because they distort one's goals. It's why Dracula (Vlad Dracul) became a monster; because the world 'wasn't right' ("right" in every human's eyes is 'on the condition that oneself is ruler or -is in the hierarchy up to ruler-hood'; when one is not in such a position, one cannot see that the world is put together the way it is so that all people can be friends). 'Being rewarded for building self higher than building friends' makes one see (in our 'limited-time'-mindset) that 'building friends' TAKES TIME AWAY FROM 'building self.' Stretching our minds a little, we see that 'building friends' actually HELPS us build ourselves (as it gives the friends the time to build us in return). It means giving-up the control of what you will be built into, but you are built 'right for everybody' instead of 'right for yourself!'