shoul I keep the pictures

Romania
May 19, 2011 5:19pm CST
after a break up do you delete everything that would remind you of your past relationship? do you think it helps?
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6 responses
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
22 May 11
Hi. swissheart. When I break up with someone, I will probably put the pictures far away, give them back to my ex-boyfriend, or just throw them away. I usually throw them away when we have had a terrible breakup that has left me completely hurt and crushed. One time when I used to date this guy, he lied to me about so many things. Well when our relationship was finally over, I was so upset with him. I went into my aunt's backyard and I dug a hole into the ground, and I buried his I.D. picture in the ground. This is the only time that I have ever done something like this to a guy. He really hurt me badly. I think that it was more to our relationship ending, but I can't remember what it really was though.
@narnia007 (1051)
• India
22 May 11
I had deleted every single photo and videos of my gal and of us together.Because everytime,I see it all her memories haunt me and that makes me mad for unable to be with her right now.I had tried to go on with her photos and all.But it was like stabbing the already bleeding heart.After I deleted all he photos and even her contact number,I could have a little less pain in my heart.The pain of a broken heart can be taken away only when the person who caused the pain returns to you or when the will be replaced by another true love.Till then,nothing can make this pain go away.However this kind of actions to reduce her memories can lessen the pain.
• United States
20 May 11
Most of my break ups did not end very well so it would have been way too hard for me to keep them. I did keep some photos of my ex-husband but they are stored away where I do not see them. Only reason why I kept them is that later in life my children may or may not want them and did not want them to feel like I destroyed them. He never looked back and they were so small but I felt it best to save them where they don't remind me of the hardships between us and or influence me in any way to negative impress the kids. So I ask you the same if it was not a good break up then perhaps not wise to keep them, if they bring back bad memories. If they do not you may want to hold on to them but then if you get into another relationship will you then keep them?
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
19 May 11
It all depends on how badly the relationships has ended. Keeping a picture doesn't erase the past. sometimes these pictures may be all we have to reflect on that time. Deleting pictures doesn't erase the pain. it might make you feel better to delete a picture but it won't change the past.
@mindym (979)
• United States
19 May 11
It depends on how bad the relationship was and how much I wanted to forget the relationship. I tend to keep most of my things from past relationships, but they are put away. Sometimes thinking "Out of Sight, Out of Mind" works, so it's all about how and what you feel you need to do to forget about the relationship. Healing from a break-up usually takes time, so just do what you think is best.
@Madmax73 (280)
• Romania
19 May 11
Delete and throw everything only if you think that having them around you makes you feel wrong, keep them if they don't influence you and just see them as nice moments that you have with a person that you loved. I'm in the second part, have pictures, things from my ex...and it's ok, i often look at them and smile :)