tips on moving on
May 20, 2011 1:51am CST
Breaking a heart is more tremendous than ever. Reminiscing the person, the things and the moment you had together. It's stupid to say I already forget him where in fact, you have a space for him inside your heart.
1 Aug 11
Moving on doesn't mean you have to forget him. Moving on means whenever you look what happened in the past, you don't harbor pain anymore. You don't feel anger towards that person and most of the time, you only think of pleasant memories when you're together. Hm.. I learned how to travel alone. I learned how to meet new people and enjoy talking to strangers. Travelling always lifts my mood. Same goes with SPA. Most of the time I invite fellow single girls for a night out or simply hang out and chat. One method I used to make sure if I moved on or not is I never erase any of our pictures together. During the earlier post-break up times, I would look at them and cry or feel bad. Then slowly, I can look at them, smiling while pleasant memories run in my mind. When I feel no anger or hurt, when I feel calm, that's when I delete the pictures. I know it's difficult but that worked for me. It made me unable to harbor ill feelings toward my ex and at the same time it's a sure sign that I moved on. It's just a personal check though :) Others may have different techniques or something :)
19 Jun 11
i know this post has been posted 5 weeks ago and you may have moved on by this time but i cant help and send my comment on your post. i have felt what you felt and it really does give you pain but as time passes, it will eventually go away.. i hope you have moed on by now.
9 Jun 11
True! I agree that it's really hard to forget someone who has filled that space in your heart. You see that person in every place you go to and in every thing you see. How I wish it would be very easy to just shut that person out of your life. I can relate cause I just had my heart broken and even if I try to forget him, I just can't. Moving on is not easy. It is a slow process. Take it one step at a time. Start putting away all things relating to him. Try to divert your attention to other things. Open yourself to new suitors. Just enjoy life. I know you can do it cause a lot of people out there were able to do it.
26 May 11
It is too difficult to move on specially when your heart is broken. I had my first heart break when I was in first year college. I was really depressed during that time, it seems to me that it was the end of the world. My only tip is to pray to God, He will guide you and surely will give you a new love in the long run.
25 May 11
sorry that your heart is bleeding but what i can say is that moving on is a matter of choice. it about choosing to be happy even though you are not with that person anymore. Would you rather stay in a relationship where the love is one way? Choose to be happy, be with friends , pick up a hobby do a marathon. Soon enough you'll move one. The hurt will always be there but it should remind you of lessons you have learned.
24 May 11
Awww. I feel your pain. I've been there. But see, to move on means to love yourself even more. More than how much you loved that person. Because of that pain that you feel, you hang on to those memories where you've felt happiest with him, and that's why you can't move on, and you keep on asking yourself, what happened? How did you get to where you are right now? Instead, look back again. Did everything really go smoothly? Were you able to get through the struggles together? Or was it only coming from your side of the story? Just ask yourself things about the two of you and how you were together as a couple. My advice? Keep looking for yourself until you find answers and happiness in yourself. Smile. :)
24 May 11
it is true that it takes time to move on in a relationship. don't force yourself to forget him easily. it is a step by step process. if you keep on thinking of him every now and then, let it be. cry if you want. do it whenever you want until there would come to a point wherein you will get tired of doing those things. Also, try to be involved in different kinds of activities in your school, church, etc. join an organization wherein you can meet new friends. socialize with them. hang out with your family. let yourself be busy with school/work. i assure you that these people/things will help you move on. someday, you will realize that the man is not your world. there are so much people out there that love you and accept you for who you are. Just think of the positive side.
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20 May 11
Unfortunately, the only thing that heals a broken heart is time. When someone that we love breaks our heart, it's so hard not to think about all the good times you shared together. You just want to wrap yourself up in those warm memories and that's it. But, if there's no chance of getting back together, then don't give him this power over you. I know it's easier said than done, but you deserve better. If he doesn't see how great you are, then he's not the one for you. As bad as it hurts now, one day you will find someone that loves you unconditionally and that will never break your heart.